RyanDean

Same day appointments are not really an option for me, since my circumstances require a bit of advance planning. (Plus, my two all-time worst experiences have come from same-day hires, so I'm always wary there.) My approach usually involves a total of 6-8 text messages between me and the gent and this is the method I've found most reliably effective in my now 10 years of hiring. A good portion (about half of the guys) say they appreciate or prefer the advance notice, so -- once again -- different strokes...

This is what one OF creator said to me when I mentioned something when, after missing his non-sexual musical concert, I asked if he had any upcoming shows.

Hey there! OnlyFans' Terms of Service strongly forbid any discussion of real world interaction, even if that's two creators collaborating together or a musician performing a show. They're very strict about that here!

So I try to find the gent on X/Twitter, RentMen, or some other social media platform so as to not inadvertently jeopardize their OF account. And, yes, OF is arbitrary in its enforcement on such things, but it does tend to be pretty swift/severe when it does opt to do so...

(I'll share the gent's name/profile via DM, if folks remain interested.)

The Sunday 5/26 event was EXCELLENT, @Buff Daddy!
Great lineup of talent and everyone was friendly and fun.
Thanks for hosting!

This post reminds me that -- the last time I was ghosted -- the gent asked for a picture. I declined, but shared a simple, accurate physical description of myself. He seemed to be satisfied with that, but then he was a no-show. So, yes, requesting pics is now a definite red-flag for me that the gent might flake.

Thanks for this resounding endorsement.
I'm hoping my schedule doesn't force me to miss this one.

BTW: I completely concur with your rankings/assessments of this year's banging season of new plays.

Just now, KensingtonHomo said:

I'm really looking for an overall picture that is consistent. 

Ditto. I try to crosscheck, from as many angles as are available.
Before I make first contact I try confirm that (A) they are who they say they are and (B) their approach to the gig seems sane/safe/sensible.

So I look at the profile. Definitely search here. Then I scan any social media that might be accessible. Sometimes I sign up for their OF. If they're dancing at Adonis, I might try to make a trip. Then I contact them and see how it goes...

But mostly I'm just trying to confirm that they're real and that they're professional in their approach to the gig.

@muscles44 - definitely find the mode and platform that's right for you. I do think being forthright about the kind of interaction you're offering is key. And if you're game to do the MaleThingsWorn thing, that might be another generative revenue stream.

Let us know when you launch, @muscles44!

And, yes, the cross-promotional presence between platforms seems key. One strategy that might be worth exploring might be to link your streaming to an OnlyFans profile. I've seen some content creators do well by hosting live Chaturbate shows, requiring pay-in to view on CB, which they either stream live on OF or repost later on OF as content. Indeed, it seems increasingly rare for successful CBers to NOT also have an OF.

I've been following his OF intermittently for a good while. He definitely gives me the clear impression that he's (A) definitely straight-identifying but (B) also a skilled professional bottom and (C) clearly inclined to role-playing and worship scenarios. 

I've not seen TheOutsiders yet (have tix in a couple weeks) but it definitely has the highest "cute boy" quotient of the season. (Though HeartOfRock&Roll displays a good deal of hunky eye-candy as well.)

I liked Appropriate a lot; I've seen previous productions and this one just nails it. 
 

This is what I hire for. Almost exclusively. But I'm a giver. Again, almost exclusively.

I saw it at Playwrights (and have yet to see it on Broadway) but, yes, it is an extraordinary piece of theatre. And I would agree that it's by far the frontrunner for the Best Play Tony and is also a real contender for Best Original Score 

Your math is somehow not factoring in the fact that I was aiming to book 2-3 separate appointments over an extended weekend, that I did book two appointments, and that I currently have provisional plans for a future meetup with the one who was out of town on the weekend in question.

But, sure, everyone -- on both sides of the equation -- maneuvers the uncertainties of this hobby in their own way...

Just now, NYXboy said:

I would suggest that reaching out to 6 different providers is probably why they don't respond.  

being inundated with fishing enquires rather than bookings would be tiresome. 

I didn't spam RM advertisers. Over a series of days, I sent out a handful of brief specific queries about future availability. That is all. I was prepared to hire any or all of them for separate appointments, though -- based on prior experience -- I anticipated that only two or three would actually come through as potential actual bookings. And that proved to be the case.

You might have better a yield rate on initial queries and, if so, I suspect we'd all welcome the opportunity to learn from the wisdom of your experience.

 

Probably the happiest surprise of the season for me. Simple, funny, goodtime with a very appealing cast -- and Corey Cott's gorgeous and impressive arms.
Did you enjoy it @BenjaminNicholas?

I anticipation of a recent hiring weekend in NYC I reached out -- via text -- to a total of six gents over a couple days. My ask was "Do you expect to be in town and available on these dates?" (about two weeks from the days I was texting). In reply...

• two offered no reply at all
• one confirmed he would be away that weekend, in an exchange was pleasant and direct and confirmed my continued interest in this provider
• one said he might be available but wouldn't know until a few days before, in a manner that was fine but didn't stir my further interest
• two (one of whom I had booked some while back) said they would definitely be available; both were friendly and flirty in their exchanges, with the new-to-me gent being unusually gregarious, funny, and responsive...

In my followup exchanges with the four who did reply (including the gent who was not available), I asked "how far in advance do you prefer to book"? All four gave their answer in a way that gave me a clear vibe/impression on whether/how I wanted to proceed. With the two (including the gent I had booked previously) who confirmed that they would be available and inclined to meet, I followed up as per their preferred timeline and "penciled in" separate appointments on two different days. At which point I confirmed my interests, my general location, and their hourly. 

On the morning of the respective appointments, I followed up to confirm everything. With the gent I had booked previously, everything proceeded gratifyingly. With the new-to-me gent who was so fun and sexy via text, things didn't proceed as simply and, unfortunately (for me), he ultimately proved to be a no-show.

All of which is to say: when communicating with providers, you never know what you're gonna get. And I've learned not to put all my horny eggs (or expectations) into one basket. 

 

Thanks, all. The consensus does seems to be that the combo of "no communication and no show" is the dealbreaker and that 15-30 minutes is a fair "grace period" in such situations. 

I did find that communicating the boundary of my patience ("if I don't hear back by ___") proved a sanity-saver for me yesterday, so I'll likely carry that forward.

And for those who might be interested:
The gent did ultimately contact me, about two hours after we were set to meet. His story -- if true -- would suggest that he simply had a very bad day, complicated by some truly bad luck. So I'm willing to accept that he may actually be legit, given the enthusiasm of other posters. As for me, I go back and forth on whether I believe the gent's story as I also take come comfort from the not-insubstantial pile of dollars that remain in my pocket.

He's also a featured performer in this brilliant sketch...

At this moment I find myself in that weird limbo that happens when the gent doesn't arrive at the agreed upon time... I've had my fair share of experiences being ghosted when it comes time to confirm, but I'm also realizing this might be my first actual experience in a very long time (possibly ever) being stood-up.

Context: new-to-me provider that received glowing/enthusiastic endorsement on this forum; very responsive via text on first contact a couple weeks ago and again when finalizing details a couple days ago; initially non-responsive to today's "final" confirmation text/s but did finally reply a few hours before planned meetup; waited for 20+ minutes in front of my hotel (*in* the NYC district he says he lives in) before texting again & setting an "if I don't hear back, we'll have to call things off this time" text... It's now 45-minutes with no word, so I'm officially calling it a no show. Sigh.

My question for y'all is:
What "grace period" do you typically afford a gent?

Today, for the first time, I found myself setting deadlines -- ie "If I don't hear back by ___ time, I'll need to consider canceling" -- which I don't think I've ever done before. Does that work for anyone?

I'm just curious about the wisdom of the group of this particular hazard of the hobby...

@Buff Daddy! is the Philly schedule -- every 3rd Saturday -- still on track? 

Curious if anyone has any recent experience with Nick Sterling? 
https://rent.men/NickSterling

Feel free to DM.

Ahh. Rounds.
I worked weekend nights at an office just around the corner in the very early 1990s when I was in my very early 20s, so I passed in front of Rounds about 1030 every Friday and Saturday night for almost two years. A few weeks after I started, a few of the "outside" guys (remember them?) noticed my commute and seemed concerned that I had a hustle going that they didn't know about. So each night a different one would walk with me for half a block or so, chatting me up in their respective fashions, trying to suss me out. I loved the attention, but they quickly clocked that I was just another broke civilian... 

I loved GAIETY but, as I've discussed in another thread, SHOW PALACE will forever hold a special place in my pervy little heart.

Str8UpGayPorn links to the story and includes some images...

NJ: James Dumont - i'm happily a big fan...