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If the understanding is the service is for an hour,  that should be your expectations.    Because of the issue,  I'd voice this prior to the service being performed.... you expect a 60 minute massage for the amount paid.

On 11/4/2021 at 9:43 PM, lookingforfunny said:

This is a smart suggestion. Thank you @azdr0710  

I have not booked in a while, because this continues to come up. I feel as if I have missed a change in protocol. Mostly, in secondary markets. 

Define a "secondary market"?

I think honesty is the best policy.   We are who we are,   if a client is looking for something else,  he should be able to shop elsewhere.    I always want to be transparent about my attributes.

4 hours ago, GCMan said:

I’m new to this - what are the best tangible and intangible ways for a client to show respect? Thanks!

We can all appreciate a polite approach,  professionalism shown by the client,  appreciation after and a tip if warranted and the client wants to do so.

To show flexibility and patience,  provided the provider does the same.    

Interesting response from the above members.    The reality is,  there are a number of reasons for a recession.   A recession will arrive with certainty.    I don't think it will be in the short term,  however.     Soft landing?   At the moment things look pretty good.   I believe I heard the economy grew at 3.3% last quarter and the economists had expected about 2.0%.

Well thanks very much for your kind remarks.   Certainly wise as well.    As a provider,  mutual respect is essential.    Respect by a provider is shown in numerous ways and it starts before the provider ever meets a client.    When the respect is mutual,  the end result is successful time spent by both parties (literally).

I would assume nothing more than a mutual appreciation of the other.   I never pay much attention to stories like this.

Well I'll be the first to say that I have a lot of underwear,   mostly C-in2 and Pump.    It came up with a client and he is now paying me for morning underwear photos.  Nice to employ the dozens and dozens.... and um,  dozens of underwear in a way that is productive and profitable.    He really enjoys them and has encouraged me to buy more underwear  (hmmm,  not sure that makes sense),   but sometimes a fetish does have rewrads!

It can be a challenge,  the cold weather sounds like it would be great for snuggling,  but  I certainly don't like getting out at night and I've found others seeking service can be a bit cranky and less positive.    We don't get that much snow in southern Kansas and not much to speak of right now.    That helps.

In southern Kansas here.    Generally I'm set at 62 overnight and while gone to work during the day.   I like it warmer while active,  like upper 60's.    

My Dad made a big deal about cost savings during the time I was a teenager,  so I got used to 61 myself when I had my first home built.    These days I like it a little warmer and I use my space heater  (which is going on me as  write this)  and the 2 fireplaces in my new home.   It really helps.

22 hours ago, nycman said:

Looks stupid.

You asked…..

I did and I appreciate the commentary.    I'm very middle of the road on the trend

So curious about what you all think of one of the latest men's fashion trends.

Well first,  welcome to the site and welcome back to the industry!    My only advice as a provider,  is that you do what you feel is appropriate for you.    We aren't in your shoes and we don't live where you do.    If the path you have articulated for us is the best one for you,  then certainly make it happen and  we wish you the best.   If you need to make adjustments,  be flexible enough to consider it.    Good luck and look forward to reading your thoughts on various topics!

Yes,  it does happen.  I don't have an issue with it provided any participant is comfortable with privacy concerns and the methods used are agreed.

I'd pass with my beagles.    Too many possibilities for problems.   I think they can work with the proper controls,  but I'd pass with my 3 beagles for now.

I like your response,  but is he wanting to evaluate you or just gain confidence as to who you are before a booking?

Asking questions isn't a bad idea,  from either party.   The better each knows the other before meeting the better the result may be.

Thanks so much, awesome of you to say so!  I put in my landscaping at my new home.  Love yardwork and absolutely appreciate others who do the same.

5 minutes ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

If I didn't already want to hire you before, I certainly want to hire you now after reading your post.  I find a man with a well manicured lawn and respect for other's property to be sexy.  Your phrase "it shows a degree of respect for the homeowner" made me pre-cum a little bit. 😊

1 minute ago, soloyo215 said:

I'd be curious to know if you treat clients differently when you know their stats than when you don't. Does it make a difference?

I would hope not,   I'm a professional,  but I'm also human.   I have my likes and dislikes.

Well what a refreshing conversation.   Sounds like a waste of time to some here,  I would guess.    The reality is,  it shows a degree of respect for the homeowner.

I have been ask if someone "is allowed"  to walk across my lawn,  largely because I keep it looking really nice and a good neighborhood.     

I do civic work and always make sure to walk up a driveway and not across a resident's lawn.   "Think before you walk"   can make sense at times!

I have clients that fall into 2 categories,   one that book me and have the (correct)  approach that I'm providing a service and my personal views are not relevant  and 2)  they go overboard in providing information about their stats and background to make sure it works for me (including photos).     I never ask for photos and usually don't ask much about stats when the topic comes up.

Interesting question.    I would simply think someone using it would view it as a "performance aid".   Many people need glasses as a reading aid.    If a provider is busy with multiple clients in a day,  I can certainly understand.

I concur with some of the above guys.   A provider shouldn't take it personally,   I'm sure they get inquiries all the time.    I'd definitely respond and tell them you like what you have seen  (if you do) and will consider their services in the future as the need arises.     I certainly wouldn't be offended.

I certainly understand the challenges..    It probably doesn't hit me as hard as this is a side venture for me and my career keeps me focused.   This is,  however a time consuming side and I can understand the resentment if it seems to be a repeat event.  

On 12/31/2023 at 10:20 AM, Km411 said:

Happy New Year!

Many wishes for a very good and rewarding year!