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FitDavid on RentMasseur
RENTMASSEUR.COM View my profile on RentMasseur.com   Hired this guy many times when he was in the Minneapolis area.  Very nice guy and accommodating 

This is likely off topic, but I am often attracted to profiles that DON'T have exclusively 5 star reviews.
After all, you can't please all of the people all of the time. I take a certain affirmation in seeing a 4, or 3, etc review. I gives me more confidence that the other reviews are reality, and that a provider is confident enough in their skill not to reinvent themselves because they couldn't make someone perfectly happy.

This is likely off topic, but I am often attracted to profiles that DON'T have exclusively 5 star reviews.
After all, you can't please all of the people all of the time. I take a certain affirmation in seeing a 4, or 3, etc review. I gives me more confidence that the other reviews are reality, and that a provider is confident enough in their skill not to reinvent themselves because they couldn't make someone perfectly happy.

This is likely off topic, but I am often attracted to profiles that DON'T have exclusively 5 star reviews.
After all, you can't please all of the people all of the time. I take a certain affirmation in seeing a 4, or 3, etc review. I gives me more confidence that the other reviews are reality, and that a provider is confident enough in their skill not to reinvent themselves because they couldn't make someone perfectly happy.

This is likely off topic, but I am often attracted to profiles that DON'T have exclusively 5 star reviews.
After all, you can't please all of the people all of the time. I take a certain affirmation in seeing a 4, or 3, etc review. I gives me more confidence that the other reviews are reality, and that a provider is confident enough in their skill not to reinvent themselves because they couldn't make someone perfectly happy.

Just guessing, but PS is a really saturated market. RM alone has 126 advertisers, plus a few dozen more nearby, and of course PS is a frequent stopover for traveling providers. Supply and demand.

The only times I had a phone conversation, it was either a no show or a scam.
However, I have begun insisting on calling providers who may not speak English well. If they can't understand "500 for 2 hours," it's a good sign they also won't understand the sentence, "you agreed to 2 hours, not 70 minutes."

All of these stories seem like great examples of dodging a bullet. Be thankful. 

I'm  in agreement with those who would have paid a courtesy fee to have him depart... no way I'd have paid full fee for services/agreed upon time not provided
No way of knowing, but it's a little interesting to speculate whether offering partial payment might have elicited a more animated response., ie.,  snapped him out of it.
Sorry that happened to you.  

Whatever your relationship, it’s important to keep the aspects of the relationship that work going strong and keeping that in mind. People change and develop different priorities so you never know when a window might open. I've had luck in this department 

I had a masseur I met when I was in my early 30s. Great technique, well trained. Met him almost every month when I would travel to New York for 2 years. On a trip to New York one summer, I got in a bad accident. He and I texted often and when he found out I was admitted to the trauma unit, he came and visited. He came probably 15 times over a 6 week hospitalization… fast forward 10 years, we still keep in touch. And I’m the godfather of he and his husbands daughter. A business transaction led to this friendship. Life is too short to pass up making a friend when the right connection is made. 

the word friend is wildly overused.  Being friendly & makIng friends are two very different things.  
being friendly wherever you go yields more pleasant interactions and friendly acquaintances, rather than actual enduring friendships that require time, energy, reciprocation, maintenance & nurturing. 
Facebook and similar have destroyed the meaning of what a real friend is.  There’s all kinds of studies showing humans have a maximum capacity for something like 100 friendly acquaintances & then typically a very small circle of actual real friends, less than 10.
So, can a provider be a real friend for some people ? - yes, it’s possible.
Is it probable given circumstances of the relationship & human bandwidth ? - no, not likely.
I’m not “friends” with my doctor, dentist, lawyer of massage therapist. I’m a client in those professional relationships with a friendly rapport. 

Make your own rules - what applies for others doesn’t necessarily do so for you.
And no reason why a happy and consensual equilibrium can’t evolve whatever one falls it.
Just try to be aware if someone is taking advantage / manipulating you, remembering the whole provider client relationship does likely involve -  at the heart of the core activity - some fabrication / exaggeration of feelings. 
When I see clients post on here about unrequited feelings or near obsession with a provider I do worry about if they are easy prey.
 

It's all about the communication.  The conversations aren't "easy".  But they don't have to be "difficult" either.
It comes down to being honest with yourself and with them about what 'services' fit into each box.  Example: if he gives you a call and say you feel like going to see a movie.  You go to dinner and a movie and even hang out later.  That's friendship.  However, If you end up swapping blow jobs, that's not friendship.  Or maybe, blow jobs are fine, but it depends on whether it is during his normal work hours, or on afternoons when he isn't working.  Or, it depends on who initiates.  Or, who gets to top who.  
Whatever the definition is for you and him, as long as you both (1) respect and (2) keep communicating, then it can work.
I always feel that this is true regardless of what type of relationship you have with a person.  
I even hold that true for colleagues/subordinates/bosses at work who become outside of work friends.

The main thing to keep in mind is the definition of 'friend' -- why do you keep friends in real-life? 
Because there is a mutual exchange of value. I enjoy my friends for their personalities, their knowledge, their desire to do the same things I like, their backgrounds and their experiences.  In turn, my friends value me for the same. We pay our friends with our time and our companionship, except there isn't actual money being exchanged. Well, in some cases -- okay, hold that thought. 
You can develop a friendship with any human if the conditions are right. Could that be with an escort? Absolutely. Do you become friends with the people you work with? It's not common. I argue escorting is like that. You keep your work and your personal lives separate and maybe, if the conditions are just right, you develop an actual friendship and you just happen to meet at work.  You can also meet your future spouse at work.
You might even meet your future spouse in the course of hiring escorts. I know of someone who did. 👀
Just, ahhh, don't expect it. 

With masseurs, I assume that for the majority of guys it's YMMV, unless they're explciitly stating otherwise. Don't make assumptions, even if there are "sexy" photos that suggest more. It's why it's always a good idea to see what others have said about the masseur before hiring.

Packing your own personal pup tent to use indoors might go some distance to assuage such concerns. Or create a little fort using extra sheets. 
On a serious note I don’t think that checking off any component of an extensive list of factors related to privacy and security reflects paranoia. This brings to mind the adage “just because you are genuinely paranoid doesn’t mean they aren’t out to get you”. 
I am reminded of the time I took a well known Brazilian gogo to a brothel-adjacent optionally short-let hotel. The lighting is not great and one might randomly get a room with garish green rather than more flattering red bulbs. I carry a small LED with a hook that can hang on the wall, as a solution to the problems of having all or nothing visibility and the risk of depleting smartphone power if its flashlight deployed for same. He checked it out as was appropriate. 

Say you ARE recorded without your knowledge or consent. It might stop right there, without anyone else seeing it. It has to be pretty compelling footage for someone to be motivated to post it. It could be at the wrong angle, or without the best lighting, or maybe the footage is just not that interesting in general. Maybe the way you look is not that interesting to the peeping Tom.
Say it passed those tests and ends up on the internet somewhere. For some, the concern ends right there. People don’t even know who you are, or care, unless you’re a well known national or international public figure. Most people aren’t. You probably don’t even know it’s online and will never find it in the first place.
Your face is likely blurred. Many sites are better about privacy and consent now, although not all. The biggest names in online video content require all parties to consent to the video being posted, especially if the video is monetized in any way.
Say you manage to find a video of yourself online. You can request to have it taken down or take legal actions to force it to be taken down and have the Tom pay for your legal fees. Nobody wants to deal with the legal fallout, so you have the upper hand.
I get it. No one wants to be secretly recorded or have their privacy violated. But still, in the worst case, the consequences for most people are pretty minimal. I’m not saying hidden cams are acceptable or that we should tolerate them. I’m just saying that most clients have little to worry about in the grand scheme of things.
Well known public figures presumably have the means to control the environment such as having an outcall at a hotel or at their home, hiring private security, and making the provider sign an NDA, among other measures. Those with a true, compelling need for privacy already have it.
Hate to break it to you guys, but most clients aren’t the kinds of people someone cares to post videos of on the internet. What you do behind closed doors is, by and large, not that interesting.

I would have had a conversation with him at the time you became ill.  I would have passed on the massage just with the worry of his catching my issue.  You made a reasonable decision, however.  You conversed with him.

Yes, but the providers who have done that have gotten the no when I've said it. Also, I am very clear. I state that at the time I'm not planning on another session, but maybe in the future, and that I will reach out to him when I'm ready. The provider has been respectful of my wishes, and I have reached out at a later time. Have you been that clear?
I had one who called me after, but he was interested in becoming my friend. I chatted a little with him, but also stated that there are certain times/days when I am not available for talking. We talked a few times after and the he just faded.
Today there are ways of dealing with pushy providers if they become pushy, but the most important thing is clarity and being specific about your boundaries.

When I was first starting, I messaged every appointment thanking them and asking for reviews because it’s imperative to get reviews. 
 
i still reach out when I’m traveling, but after two trips I don’t hear back from them, I move to my “do not text” list until I hear from them. 
 
anything more is obsessive 

I've never been in that spot where a provider reached out multiple times to ask if I wanted to book another session. Maybe it's because I mainly hire guys who are passing through or when I go somewhere out of town. But if I had someone do that to me I'd reply back one time that I will let them know when I am looking to hire them again and leave it at that and not respond after that until I was ready.

For me, I am with my immediate family during the holiday season, and in that setting it's really inapproproiate for me to even think about a provider. However, I know that the holiday season is a lonely, depressing and difficult season for many. The movie theaters, bars and many other venues are full during those days, as many prefer to escape the celebrations (for a number of reasons, not just sadness and depression). To me that indicates that it makes sense that some might want to treat themselves with a good time with a provider. I also imagine that there migh be providers who are on the same page, the holiday season might not be as celebratory, or they might prefer to cash in rather than celebrating.
It's my believe that as providers you get to choose your clients and schedule, so not being available during the holiday season should be respected by clients as much as when you are not available at any other time of the year. I imagine the same goes for other relevant dates, birthdays, annyversaries, or just self-care. The holiday season seems to be rough on some people, though, so some clients might be extra needy.
Just my thoughts.