CastaDiva

I’ve generally been a top but I’m curious about trying bottoming again. The last time I bottomed a while back was with someone with a small tool, and that was an amazing experience.
I know I’m probably not like many other clients, but I’d be interested in hiring a provider in NYC who has a small or below average dick. Does such a provider exist, and if so, could you recommend them? I know those with big dicks are usually more in demand but I would not interested in them.
Thanks!

I attended a few lunchtime activities there pre-pandemic.  He was pretty sexy then.  Not sure what it's like now though.

Around Christmas 2016 I was diagnosed (PSA had risen from 2.6 to 3.9 to 4.6 in a year, biopsy indicated 3+3 cancer in 2/12 samples... one sample 60% involved the other 20%). My urologist gave me lots of his time and went over the options. 
I chose to go to the University of Pennsylvania and have my prostate removed by an experienced Dr. (5000+ robotic procedures) in March of 2017. I was released 20 hours after surgery just needing Tylenol to control the pain. I needed a catheter for 9 days and had my first erection during that time. 19 days after surgery I drove myself 2 hours to NYC for a friend’s birthday. Two days later I went back to work. 6 weeks post surgery, I no longer needed urinary pads.
I asked my surgeon why I had done so well, he explained I was “young and fit” (57 years old and 30lbs overweight). 
Now, almost 6 years later it’s as if I never had cancer. My only reminders are some scars, no semen, and PSA tests twice yearly.
Good luck!

Welcome to the forum. 

Are you asking clients? Because it’s in ‘ask a provider’ 🙂.
First time I did an escort session was, looking back on it, hilarious and I’m grateful for the client who was really understanding.
I’d agreed to meet him outside house no. 8 in his street. But I misunderstood the instructions and knocked on the door at no. 8 which was actually the house across the street. Obviously he wanted to check me out and didn’t want to give his real door number to me until he saw me. Fortunately no one was home at no.8
Then when I was getting showered before we started I didn’t shut the shower door properly and his bathroom floor got filled with water. He was ok about that saying he should have told me about the door thing. 
In my excitement at my first client I left home without my wash bag which had my massage oil, lube, condoms etc in. So I had to ask my client if he had any oil and condoms. He opened a bedside drawer and provided all the necessities…
Afterwards I forgot to ask him for payment. As I was leaving he said “don’t you want paying Dick?” (Dick was the ridiculous ‘nom de plume’ I’d decided on for my escort career but I soon dropped it because guys would call and say “hi is this Dick” and I’d instinctively say “no it’s Jamie” and they’d say “oh sorry wrong number”). 
I think he was amused by my puppy like enthusiasm and naivety. He gave me a nice tip but didn’t hire me again. 
Then, when I got home I realised I’d left a thong I’d worn at his place. I really hope his wife didn’t find it…
I’d say if you hire a newbie provider then be like my client and be understanding. He enjoyed my enthusiasm and I’m sure he had a laugh to himself afterwards. If he’d been an arsehole about my faux pax I’d probably not have continued with doing the work. 
 

I don’t think it’s local, because the dude selling it as a side hustle has no base of operations and is always traveling. I guess it’s possible he only sells where it’s popular. Your “sure thing” idea is probably right. Even with pills, you probably can’t always guarantee performance on demand, especially with a provider’s schedule. 
 
And thanks for the compliment  I appreciate it. The way people react to you when you go from 300 to 200 is like you’ve just gone from invisible to visible. People are a lot more positive towards me now. Makes me feel good about myself (but also makes me think a lot of those people are superficial).

No. There are some things I consider private. My hobby of hiring, my net worth/annual earnings and the Justin Bieber blow up doll I have in the back of the closet in the hallway are a few examples of things I do not share with anyone. 🤫

Only really one friend. It kind of came up in terms of him jokingly thinking he about hiring a female sex worker after he was experiencing a significant drought in his love life. I suggested he try it and that I had hired a male sex worker once and enjoyed it. He was surprised but I actually think its good to normalize sex work. I think more people hire than we realize. 

“Bros” is very funny. Very.

Saw it last night at The Grove.  Was packed, mostly gay or gay-aligned crowd.  It's very good.  It's much less a "Romantic Comedy", those movies are a pretty low bar, and more a Judd Aptow comedy (he's a producer) that happens to be gay.
Although popular on the coasts, it was not so in Middle America and it performed poorly this weekend, which is too bad.
I recommend going out to see it, you'll have a good night.  

Life is short…move on. If stuff in his personal life bugs you, it’s the perfect opportunity to close this chapter

There are a few things. He is great. A bodybuilder. Smart. But I figured out a few things about his professional/real life and think it is better to distance myself. I don't want him to know I know his other life. 
I met a younger guy who has an amazing body. He is not an escort, but he really needs money and is willing to do things. I want to help him. He's hotter and younger. 

After being overweight for most of my adult life I don’t offend easily and have a thick skin. (Pun intended).  I’m not sure if you even read my post, but that’s just what I am doing, having gone from 477 to 250 lbs in three years.  My health is better than it has ever been the past ten years and my doctor tells me I’ve added years to my life.
The point of the post was to get feedback on what I should expect from providers at this size. 
I can assure you that any overweight person does not need to be told to get to a gym, we live in these bodies and whether or not we show it, we know deep down the effect excess weight has on our health.  Unsolicited advice like this is neither helpful or supportive.  

I think you received a great deal of good advice.  It’s not unusual for the first time of any new adventure to not go as hoped.  Please take the advice here and try again soon and just put this one out of your mind.   Happy hunting!

Don't beat yourself up over this, it was your first experience hiring. You've learned what you like and the next experience should be better.
You had mentioned that you had told him that you wanted to face fuck him, then fuck him, so he may have thought you wanted him to be relatively passive. That doesn't explain his lousy post-coital bedside manner however. But for what it's worth, with some clients after they've come, they're getting dressed and heading out the door, so maybe he'd expected that until you indicated otherwise. Or on the other hand, he could have just been a lousy lay.
I wouldn't get hung up on the racial angle, as I'd expect this has more to do with expectations (which changed during the session), and chemistry. But also if you're in the midst of a session and then you think to yourself of something you'd enjoy more, definitely let the escort know. Like, "hmmm, this isn't really doing what I had thought it would... let's just make out instead." But if you're worried, look for statements like "I welcome the full range of ages, races, ethnicities, and body types" (which is in my profile).
You might also want to suggest a 90-minute session. For me, that's a great amount of time since it's less rushed than 60 minutes, but can still be kind to the budget and schedule. Let it be known you want to talk and get to know each other first, even for just 15 or 20 minutes. I've had some clients say they want to chat beforehand, and even ask if they can bring along a beverage, or meet in the hotel bar.
Live and learn... it may have been an expensive lesson, but consider it an investment towards enjoying future sessions!

Just about everything.  😣

In his magnum opus In Search of Last Time? 

though your post went a bit off topic, thank you @Unicornfor helping out the guy......I hope he recovers quickly

He’s a professional (or is supposed to be). He shouldn’t need to know why, nor should he be chasing you for business. It’s not like he’s being faithful to you is it…so why should it work that you only hire him?
I don’t think it right that you should treat it like a relationship break up: “Hey!…I met a younger, hotter guy. I’m just trying him out but if he isn’t up to  the mark then I might come back to you…but only if you get your act together on X Y and Z. Have a great day”. Hmmmm …no, that doesn’t sound good however you phrase it. 
Just tell him you’re not hiring right now. If he’s wise he’ll understand why. If he doesn’t understand why then you can be sure that any explanation by you wouldn’t have landed well, and would have surely jeopardised the chances of any future sessions being pleasant. 

You sound like a real sweetheart.  Your post would definitely put you at the top of my list of "must hires" if I lived in the same area as you.

I have given free treatments several times under special circumstances such as their birthdays or moments when they really needed it, such as losing a loved one, irrespective of external appearances, so not only to “hot” ones, but also to those who are not generally considered “hot” on the outside even though they are extremely beautiful on the inside, and also to those who are very good looking on the inside and outside. One thing they have in common is that they are all beautiful on the inside. I have also met those who are very good looking on the outside but not so much on the inside, and such will not get free treatments, not even for special occasions. 
 
In all such cases, the reward to me was greater than money. I believe that it’s wise to give freely from time to time. The reward is joy instead of money and it’s worth it. 
I wish you all a happy holiday season and a very happy 2023! 
 
 

I have met him several times and he is the real deal. Yes, his pictures are accurate. He’s a very good looking guy and his body is great. In addition, he is unbelievably nice and gives a very friendly Midwest vibe. 
So what’s the catch? He’s straight (and recently married to a woman). So what you might want to do with him and what he is willing do may not match. The only way to know is to ask him. I cannot speak to what his limits are now, and they may have changed over the past few years - but I can vouch that he is the guy in his pictures, he is very nice and he is not a fake or a scammer.

A cutie 

Adorable 

Just let him know that you want foreplay and for it to be sensual then lead up to sex.