Newbie question

[CuriousD]

Hi pre warning om a total newb to this and it will be my first encounter.  This is the scenario I'd like to have "sitting on the couch talking then that leads to kissing or groping and then love making.  More sensual exploring than just fucking. I pretty much want him to do everything to me. Sorry to be clumsy.  How can I make that kind of scenario sound more professional or clear to convey to a provider?  

[TorontoDrew]

Just be clear with the provider as to what you want. Make sure you get agreement ahead of time.  That being said you have described most of my encounters.  I don't think it will be a problem. 

 

[CuriousD]

Ty. Should I get a premium rm membership at all for the person or is it not necessary?

[56harrisond]

RM premium definitely isn't necessary. But I've never had it, so ignorance is bliss? lol

 

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[CuriousD]

Ty again 😄

[+ azdr0710]

I have the paid premium RM membership, which allows me to see the semi-private pictures (the ones with a 'flame' logo in the corner) and to see a couple important stats. There is also a free way to join RM, too. A provider seeing that you're a RM member, free or not, may realize you're more serious to meet than some lookey-loo who hasn't joined. 

Look around the forum here and find well-regarded providers for your first meet. During communication and planning, be honest and specific, but also be to-the-point and don't write too many notes!!  At the meet, be friendly, smile, talk slowly, and suggest starting with a relaxing massage to ease into the action after some initial small talk. Joke about being nervous if you want, but keep the agenda in mind and don't let the time slip by!

Edited December 20, 2022 by azdr0710

[pubic_assistance]

4 hours ago, CuriousD said:

How can I make that kind of scenario sound more professional or clear to convey to a provider ?

Tell him you want to feel incredibly desirable. Even to someone as handsome as himself.

You want him to be in charge and you want to feel cherished.

That's simple enough that any professional provider would understand the scenario

[CuriousD]

1 hour ago, pubic_assistance said:

Tell him you want to feel incredibly desirable. Even to someone as handsome as himself.

You want him to be in charge and you want to feel cherished.

That's simple enough that any professional provider would understand the scenario

Ty so much 

[+ purplekow]

7 hours ago, CuriousD said:

Hi pre warning om a total newb to this and it will be my first encounter.  This is the scenario I'd like to have "sitting on the couch talking then that leads to kissing or groping and then love making.  More sensual exploring than just fucking. I pretty much want him to do everything to me. Sorry to be clumsy.  How can I make that kind of scenario sound more professional or clear to convey to a provider?  

Even the most experienced of us had a first time hire.  A bit of trepidation is expected but fortunately for most of us, that first touch, first kiss, first tingle of excitement usually has the nerves on the run and our cock rising to the encounter.   You are requesting a pretty vanilla experience and you described what you want clearly here.  Have him come in, offer him a beverage.  Have him come sit next to you on the couch.  If he doesn't initiate after a minute or two lean in for the kiss or place your hand on his groin.  You both know why you are there, so there is no reason to act like a teenager on a first date, though you may feel that way initially.  Once your eyes have met, your lips have touched and you hand has found your way into his pants, allow the action and the juices to flow.  

My suggestion is to be sober, but if you do take something to take the edge off, do not indulge to the point of not being in control of yourself and the situation.  

Also, do not be afraid to say no.  If he tries to do something you are not ready to do, a simple, not that or not yet should have him moving onto something else.  He will likely do the same.  Good luck with that first hire.  

 

Edited December 20, 2022 by purplekow

[liubit]

purplekow gives excellent advice here ☝️☝️, @CuriousD . I have been hiring for 30 years myself, and I still remember how amazingly nervous I was the first time(s). Let things flow, nature will take its course and a good provider will know how to make your meeting the most pleasurable possible for both of you. Just don’t overthink. Best wishes, you will be thrilled. 

[+ StLouisOct]

13 hours ago, CuriousD said:

Ty. Should I get a premium rm membership at all for the person or is it not necessary?

The premium membership is not expensive and allows you access to additional facts and photographs. You’re going to spend a fair amount on an escort and you want to make sure you know as much as possible about the guy. Sometimes you can’t see his dick without that premium membership. You should get it. It’ll improve your research experience and help ensure that you get what you want. 😋

[italianboyph]

18 hours ago, CuriousD said:

Hi pre warning om a total newb to this and it will be my first encounter.  This is the scenario I'd like to have "sitting on the couch talking then that leads to kissing or groping and then love making.  More sensual exploring than just fucking. I pretty much want him to do everything to me. Sorry to be clumsy.  How can I make that kind of scenario sound more professional or clear to convey to a provider?  
 

 

Just let him know that you want foreplay and for it to be sensual then lead up to sex. 

[CuriousD]

Hi all.ty for all the wonderful advice so far. I had another question. Do Providers generally do the expanded services incall or outcall. Or should it matter?

[misterhumphries]

On 12/27/2022 at 2:49 PM, CuriousD said:

Hi all.ty for all the wonderful advice so far. I had another question. Do Providers generally do the expanded services incall or outcall. Or should it matter?

I don't believe location matters; you're paying for the erotic experience that you request. If you have a straight escort, there are going to be definite limits (I've yet to encounter one who would even consider fucking a man's ass). Just don't overthink it. Be clear about your wants and needs, keep an open mind, and have a ball!

[KrisParr]

It’s always fun to reminisce- my first hire was a starving med student. We were both new at the game and it started off with oral. I’ll skip the details, but my biggest mistake was not masturbating earlier in the day. I tried my best to hold back, but old one-eyed “Wilbur” had a mind of his own. My provider was incredibly kind and suggested we go to the hotel bar, have a drink and then go back for a replay. And sure enough, the second time around lasted much longer and was a virtual blast. I tipped very well.

[Vulgarii]

To give you the optimum chance of being satisfied, you have to make sure he is into doing that. You have to tell him what you want and you should describe yourself.

 

I had regular client that asked me to kiss him so I pecked him on the lips and he told me to really kiss him, and I declined. He irritated me because of a few things before in our sessions and I wasn't attracted to him at all. I told him he was going to tell that I don't mean it and don't want to do it. He understood and thankfully left me alone. I'm sure he really wanted some foreplay but he never addressed it verbally, beforehand, and he hired me for a massage, not that.