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I keep checking out his profile constantly because to me, those pictures of him in the blue jeans and the blue briefs are two of the hottest pictures on all of Rent Men. But then I read the profile and what you say above and it's like okay, time for him to take the RM ad down. lol
When I started hiring, a friend of a friend gave me one huge, huge piece of advice:  Hire someone who is gay. Make sure they're gay, or if they're bisexual, make sure they're a genuine "people pleaser" (those types exist and they're incredible). Anything less than gay or genuinely bisexual and you'll just be disappointed, no matter how hot they are.  
He was 100% right. Best advice ever and it's worked.

That's why I love these forums and this is so true. That's amazing. 

I just found this thread on here. Wow! 
I am 45 years old and have been to 56 countries. The plan is to visit all 193 U.N. member nations before I check out.
Man oh man do I have stories. But first, need to read through all 13 pages of this thread. lol 

I keep checking out his profile constantly because to me, those pictures of him in the blue jeans and the blue briefs are two of the hottest pictures on all of Rent Men. But then I read the profile and what you say above and it's like okay, time for him to take the RM ad down. lol
When I started hiring, a friend of a friend gave me one huge, huge piece of advice:  Hire someone who is gay. Make sure they're gay, or if they're bisexual, make sure they're a genuine "people pleaser" (those types exist and they're incredible). Anything less than gay or genuinely bisexual and you'll just be disappointed, no matter how hot they are.  
He was 100% right. Best advice ever and it's worked.

My ex was a cop and a "protector" -- he always slept on the side of the bed closest to the door wherever we were and he wanted it that way. No complaints from me.  

I started hiring guys about five years ago to jump-start my sex life after major surgery, and a looooong period of abstinence. Aside from a few bumpy sessions at first — inexperience on my part, the occasional douche-y provider — the journey so far has been incredible: mind-blowing sexual encounters with the sweetest, smartest and most attractive men on the planet, some of whom I am lucky to count as friends, as well as providers. Age and a few lingering infirmities aside, I am, at age 63, having the best sex of my life so far. 

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Used for years. Solid. Reliable. Easy shipping. Packaged well. All kinds. 

Yes, he told me he'd probably be back in NY this November, but didn't know if he'd be escorting. Last time I saw him, I asked him if there was a video he could share to tide me over, and he laughed and said he used to have an Only Fans page... sorry to have missed that. 

I have a semi off-topic story here but it is hilarious. I think it was Dodger Stadium that did this right away but didn't completely think it through. 
No more ordering at lines at stands. You order your beer and food on your phone, it gives you a QR code, you walk up and show it, and they give you your food and beer. But they weren't scanning the QR codes just looking at them and asking you what you had. You said "two beers, two hot dogs, and popcorn" and they would give it to you and you walk away. 
Inning #3, repeat with same QR code for 2x more beers. Inning #4, repeat. You were just showing the same QR code from the first order but asking for whatever you wanted and they handed it over. You get the idea. 
Someone in the back office after like 2 or 3 games was like WOOOAHHHHHH. The inventory of hot dogs and beers was -100,000 but they only sold 1,000 of each. LOL. 
Lesson: People will find a way to get something for free. every. single. time. 
Okay, maybe it is on-topic after all. 

I have a semi off-topic story here but it is hilarious. I think it was Dodger Stadium that did this right away but didn't completely think it through. 
No more ordering at lines at stands. You order your beer and food on your phone, it gives you a QR code, you walk up and show it, and they give you your food and beer. But they weren't scanning the QR codes just looking at them and asking you what you had. You said "two beers, two hot dogs, and popcorn" and they would give it to you and you walk away. 
Inning #3, repeat with same QR code for 2x more beers. Inning #4, repeat. You were just showing the same QR code from the first order but asking for whatever you wanted and they handed it over. You get the idea. 
Someone in the back office after like 2 or 3 games was like WOOOAHHHHHH. The inventory of hot dogs and beers was -100,000 but they only sold 1,000 of each. LOL. 
Lesson: People will find a way to get something for free. every. single. time. 
Okay, maybe it is on-topic after all. 

Here we go again. Please check the threads @56harrisond referenced. Deposits have been covered many, many, many times before in previous threads, even on threads that are not about deposits. @Phil Wagner check out the search function. That will shortcut you to all the best topics covering what you are asking about here, and you can contribute to those threads as well.
The short answer is: do whatever makes sense for your business. You don’t have to cave to what clients want or expect. If you get enough business from clients who conform to your policies, great. Be upfront with everyone, and when they say no, move on…and please don’t ever complain about not getting enough business as a result of your own business policy decisions.
OR take on clients without deposits at your own risk…and please don’t ever complain about flaky clients you engage as a result of your own business policy decisions.
There is no perfect solution that works for every client or provider. I recognize there is plenty of room for nuance, but I won’t get into it here. The big issue is whether to require deposits or not. How much, and under what circumstances, etc is just details. You choose what works for you and ignore others who insist on their way of doing things.
Either way, choose the best policies for your business and don’t complain. Take the compatible clients, weed out the incompatible clients. If your policies aren’t working out for you, change them, and stick consistently to them. Love long and prosper.

If someone is asking you to travel from out of state to visit them I don't know how they could even think you'll travel all that way with zero upfront payment. If this is a regular issue for you put right in your ad something like "If requesting an outcall and are further than 1 hour away this will require part of the donation to be sent beforehand to cover travel expenses".

After authoring this thread,   I now have had a perspective client inquire about my spending time with me without anything physical.   He explained that "You don't have to do anything,   just spend time with me.    I hear you are a great conversationalist".  He did admit he wouldn't mind my bearing my shirtless torso.    I was a little surprised,  but it became apparent that this gentleman was lonely and was looking for a fresh perspective on things in general.   I didn't take it he wanted to tell me a bunch of his personal problems.
I told him I would be happy to provide service in this capacity.

Never underestimate how lonely men of a certain generation can be...
They isolated themselves with no relationships / hid in the closet their whole life / fear that homosexual contact will make them "bad". There are many reasons people end up lonely and just looking for companionship.
People older than 50 all grew up in a world very different from today.

Yes, I have a mental hangup.
If I had to appear in public with an escort,  I'd want one I can have intelligent conversation with.
I've had dinner with hot escorts, whose main conversation topic was themselves,  who seemed to have no knowledge or interests  beyond thst sphere, and who acted like young spoiled brats.
Empty headed guys may be perfect for a romp, but not for me to actually relate to. If you want an escort for companionship,  you need to be compatible.  And I look for that in the mind

I met with Dino and traveled with him. He is one of the best highly recommended, but not sure he’s seeing anybody new. 

I met with Dino and traveled with him. He is one of the best highly recommended, but not sure he’s seeing anybody new. 

You want a job? For real. lol
Well said. The escort market is arguably one of the most free markets in the world.  No rules. No restrictions. No licenses. No anything.
One human selling their body and their time another human for a price.
You legit can't get more basic than that. 

You want a job? For real. lol
Well said. The escort market is arguably one of the most free markets in the world.  No rules. No restrictions. No licenses. No anything.
One human selling their body and their time another human for a price.
You legit can't get more basic than that. 

I spoke with him recently in the past few days. He's fine and working his regular job a lot and taking care of his family. He hopes to maybe get down to New York before the end of the year but hasn't decided on returning to escorting. It's not a "no" and his profile is parked on Rent Men for future use. He doesn't read these messages (at least I don't believe; I asked in the past) but he knows how ya'll feel. 
And I quote: "I thrive in connection"

@Jarrod_Uncut I think you will find this hobby is the freest market you will ever experience and my guess is you will face similar if not greater frustration in a perceived mismatch on earnings and your value elsewhere.
Remember, the market measures supply and demand, but not your self worth. Don’t confuse the two - no one should on their earnings. The market can, however, reward innovation, being proactive and responsive to market intel, and having the self awareness to leverage what one is working with. That all starts with you - no one here has the ability to fix the market either for or against you. 

I spoke with him recently in the past few days. He's fine and working his regular job a lot and taking care of his family. He hopes to maybe get down to New York before the end of the year but hasn't decided on returning to escorting. It's not a "no" and his profile is parked on Rent Men for future use. He doesn't read these messages (at least I don't believe; I asked in the past) but he knows how ya'll feel. 
And I quote: "I thrive in connection"

The main thing to keep in mind is the definition of 'friend' -- why do you keep friends in real-life? 
Because there is a mutual exchange of value. I enjoy my friends for their personalities, their knowledge, their desire to do the same things I like, their backgrounds and their experiences.  In turn, my friends value me for the same. We pay our friends with our time and our companionship, except there isn't actual money being exchanged. Well, in some cases -- okay, hold that thought. 
You can develop a friendship with any human if the conditions are right. Could that be with an escort? Absolutely. Do you become friends with the people you work with? It's not common. I argue escorting is like that. You keep your work and your personal lives separate and maybe, if the conditions are just right, you develop an actual friendship and you just happen to meet at work.  You can also meet your future spouse at work.
You might even meet your future spouse in the course of hiring escorts. I know of someone who did. 👀
Just, ahhh, don't expect it. 

The main thing to keep in mind is the definition of 'friend' -- why do you keep friends in real-life? 
Because there is a mutual exchange of value. I enjoy my friends for their personalities, their knowledge, their desire to do the same things I like, their backgrounds and their experiences.  In turn, my friends value me for the same. We pay our friends with our time and our companionship, except there isn't actual money being exchanged. Well, in some cases -- okay, hold that thought. 
You can develop a friendship with any human if the conditions are right. Could that be with an escort? Absolutely. Do you become friends with the people you work with? It's not common. I argue escorting is like that. You keep your work and your personal lives separate and maybe, if the conditions are just right, you develop an actual friendship and you just happen to meet at work.  You can also meet your future spouse at work.
You might even meet your future spouse in the course of hiring escorts. I know of someone who did. 👀
Just, ahhh, don't expect it. 

The main thing to keep in mind is the definition of 'friend' -- why do you keep friends in real-life? 
Because there is a mutual exchange of value. I enjoy my friends for their personalities, their knowledge, their desire to do the same things I like, their backgrounds and their experiences.  In turn, my friends value me for the same. We pay our friends with our time and our companionship, except there isn't actual money being exchanged. Well, in some cases -- okay, hold that thought. 
You can develop a friendship with any human if the conditions are right. Could that be with an escort? Absolutely. Do you become friends with the people you work with? It's not common. I argue escorting is like that. You keep your work and your personal lives separate and maybe, if the conditions are just right, you develop an actual friendship and you just happen to meet at work.  You can also meet your future spouse at work.
You might even meet your future spouse in the course of hiring escorts. I know of someone who did. 👀
Just, ahhh, don't expect it.