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I'm meh concerning this provider, but I appreciate his grasp of mathematics, a subject which eludes many of his colleagues.

When an escort's ad says he "speaks" all these languages, it doesn't mean he is fluent in them. I have an Ivy League degree, have lived in a few foreign countries, have studied four languages academically, and I love opera, so I can muddle through some very simple conversations about familiar topics. When I travel outside the US, I often carry a dictionary of the local language. However, if I say hello to you in Serbo-Croatian or Japanese, please don't respond by asking me what I think about the effects of climate change on herbivores. When an escort says he speaks five languages, it may only mean that he can quote his fee for certain acts in those languages.

My nephew's wife has a doctorate in physical therapy from USC.

Even the most properly prepared pucker will periodically produce a profoundly unpropitious production, particularly when probed with a profound protuberance.

Unfortunately, this is usually the case. Even when both people take the situation in stride, it is, in my experience, nearly impossible to get back "in the moment." I think the best thing to do is to behave with dignity, minimize the inevitable embarrassment and realize that it happens to just about everyone from time to time, regardless of preparation.
Conversely, the opposite can occur... sometimes you end up bottoming unexpectedly in spite of your better judgment, and everything is fine.

I believe we learned this in kindergarten. It’s called courtesy.

Communication!!! Probably the most key factor. Good communication in setting up the appointment and discussing expectations / likes / things to avoid - makes for a much easier and comfortable session. Eliminates guess work! Then the escort AND the client are more at ease and happier.

Unfortunately, I differ on sides here and don’t share the other’s perspective: it sounds like both of you were hot headed, and regrettably, you came off like I just mentioned in another thread the other day. I can elaborate on each point:
#1: your 1st text comes off a bit badgering, and you’re asking 3 questions in one text (the first text at that), without volunteering any info about yourself. That’s the 1st mistake.
#2: You didn’t address the escort by name. That immediately comes off a bit disconnected. You don’t include your name either, just a profile screenname. 
 
#3: Asking if someone barebacks in a 1st message shows off the bat disrespectful, and my experience is that many clients who start that way end up being just that. There’s been clients who admit on the forum they’ll ask escorts that, not because they want bareback, but to “suss” out if they play safe.
#4: Don’t ask an escort how long they are in town. People often ask me that when I’m traveling, and I just say: when are YOU looking for? If the escort can’t make it, they’ll let you know. Don’t think ahead of the pace of the conversation. There’s been many times I’ve stayed in a city an extra day or 2 longer than planned for a confirmed client. I wasn’t in a rush to leave town, and I have flexible means of travel.
#5: By the time you say sigh, you’ve just disrespected the escort again. Setting up a visit with an escort isn’t the time to give off sarcastic vibes.
 
#6: Your last message resorted to being a bully and you stormed off like a petulant child. Block you? What’s with clients thinking escorts need permission to block them? Again, you called the escort first, not the other way around! What would have been better is to apologize, and simply offer a time and day that would work. You came to him 1st, with a need. You have to yield his procedures or how he wishes to arrange appointments. Even if you had to wait a few minutes and think about it.
 
To approach him with a bossy attitude was absolutely uncalled for. That was your 6th mistake. 

However, I will say: thanks for posting this. It shows you’re willing to learn, from your mistakes. I think if more people would discuss these things, it would make for a better escort/client relationship. 
 
In your favor, the escort didn’t really do a whole lot either to bridge the conversation gap. One word responses and curbing questions completely don’t really drive things in the right direction. However, you were the kindling to his fire, and instead of creating love…y’all created this:

I guess you told him! I hope he learned his lesson. 

The simplest matters are made unnecessarily extraordinarily complicated in this work. Date, time, location. Why must that be an insurmountable challenge for so many? Every day I'm continuously amazed. When a client communicates clearly, lays everything out about what they want, gets to the point on the details of location time and books an appointment in advance, it is like reading pure poetry.  

The simplest matters are made unnecessarily extraordinarily complicated in this work. Date, time, location. Why must that be an insurmountable challenge for so many? Every day I'm continuously amazed. When a client communicates clearly, lays everything out about what they want, gets to the point on the details of location time and books an appointment in advance, it is like reading pure poetry.  

I've usually met providers at their location, or had them come to a hotel room that I paid for.  If they got a hotel room just for our meeting, then I should pay the additional cost for the room.  
It doesn't seem like it should be that complicated.
 
 
 

As a client, I certainly agree with the consensus of the providers’ comments above. Over my years of hiring escorts, I have found the best escorts who are completely committed to providing the very best BFE’s not only seem to have no hangups about age but actually enjoy providing complete satisfaction to older men!
 I have discussed this with a number of my regular hires and a few have expressed that, if anything, they are more wary of being hired by younger clients in their 20’s than older clients in their 60’s! In my case, my tastes tend to be quite vanilla in bed, though. So if you want to satisfy certain fetishes, be sure to explain exactly what you expect from the escort you are interested in.
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I'll agree with this too. Older clients usually know what they like, and what they want, and will be able to say so. That helps me engage more fully and have more fun. Younger guys may be less experienced and/or hesitant to ask for what they really want, so it can be harder to connect and have what feels like a mutually engaging time. Of course these are generalizations, but it's to contrast with what people might assume that escorts would prefer younger clients.
I've had plenty of clients in their 70s and 80s, and we have lots of fun. Climaxing may or may not be on the table, and we're able to approach that with maturity. There are so many fun things to do together that don't focus on climaxing, so we'll do all that. Plus I like the conversations with older clients, they often have a lot of interesting things to talk about and I enjoy that. So if a guy like @The Big Guy gets in touch and gives his age, I'm grateful and look forward to the appointment.
And I'm not just saying all this to tell people what they might want to hear... I really mean it!

Most if not not all my clients have been older men, the way they're treated is no different regardless of age. 

This is all a very solid take that clients should follow. Providers are going to be less apprehensive if they have some idea what they're walking into. The stats or even a short description is very helpful. Meeting a client for the first time can be intimidating and daunting, especially for someone newer at this kind of work. The clients know who you are and what you look like, but you have no idea what they look like. A client who looks clean and is presentable will help put that provider's defenses at ease when they meet you. 

So too will good friendly communication. A pleasant personality should be a given. If I sense even the slightest attitude, then I'm not going to book you. Most people are not going to sleep with someone who doesn't respect them. Neither will many of the best of providers who have earned themselves a safety net in this with regular clients. You can go ahead and try hiring the other guy who shows up two hours late or the one who is drugged out or the one who can't get it up and see how any of those lovely gambles work for you. 

Here it is

Review: “Democratic Justice,” by Brad Snyder - The New York Times (nytimes.com)

Poor man. He was the proverbial "walkin' streak of sex" twenty years ago. On the other hand, few are as nicely "filled out" in every aspect of their physique as is Benjamin Nicholas.

I don't blame an escort if, on confronting a client that is gross in appearance, has a hard time physically interacting. There is an obligation on the client to try to present himself as nicely as possible which does mean good hygiene including oral.
I don't think it reasonable for an escort to expect a young movie star client to show up at the door. They should be comfortable with guys that are average or less in the looks department but have at least a pleasant personality.
 On the weight question, if obese the client should make this clear in any prior communication. Don't leave it to chance that the escort will respond positively to meeting you.
Personally I put my stats in my RM profile and fill in any other info that I consider relevant in the  communications before setting a date with any new provider I hire. This has led to generally good results but doesn't ensure good chemistry every time. Life is too variable for that to happen.

Just started a biography of  Supreme Court Justice  and close friend of Franklin Roosevelt Felix Frankfurter  by Bad Snyder.
Title is a bit overblown: 
Democratic Justice: Felix Frankfurter, Supreme Court, and the Making of the Liberal Establishment.
Yikes

As an escort, I'd say you were generous in even offering him half.   Clearly, you're a good egg 
COVID/Monkeypox should make people a bit more understanding.  Shit happens.  It is what it is.  Unless someone has already outlayed a ton of money for the meet (airfare, excursions, a cruise, etc), I don't see how a single hour or even an overnight cancelled should piss someone off so much.
Move forward knowing you did the right thing.

You did great offering half 👏👏
his reaction was unfortunate and not cool 

To add to this, our costs, just like yours, are also skyrocketing. We have to operate in nice desireable areas (you probably wouldn’t come see me if I lived in south atlanta) and our rents are increasing 30-40% YOY as well. 
 
to think that we are immune to the factors affecting society just because we are providers is misguided. 
 
that said, I don’t know what will happen to business in the future. We all thought it would go away in the pandemic but the amount of requests I had changed very little. 

I think it’s a common assumption that the costs are low. Clients think it’s just costing my time to provide a service, especially if it’s an outcall and they’re effectively providing the venue. However it’s a lot more than just my time and a bit of massage oil. There’s cost of advertising, and for me there’s costs associated with renting a nice studio to work from, the cost of being available almost all hours (when often you can’t do other things in case someone wants to book), cost of trying to keep fit (trying!!!), regular waxing sessions, and keep healthy (regular testing) plus the cost if you catch something you can’t work for a week at least. I get regular massage training which also costs. Then there’s tax to deduct from the gross income on top of all those expenses (only some of which are tax deductible). So it’s a misconception that if you pay the guy $300 then he’s got almost $300 to spend. I’d say at least half that goes on overheads.
I think the recession will be a dampener on rates but I don’t think you’ll see them reducing much (for guys providing a professional style service). I think the supply of guys will reduce as people leave the industry so that will act to stabilise rates. 

27, 28 or 31 ... at my age the difference between them all is a rounding error.