Revealing your real name

[liubit]

I always use my real first name with escorts and I know the real first name of almost all of them. Last names? Not so much

[+ VictorPowers]

A select few know my real name. It is a mutual understanding to be discreet, so I'm trusting them with that information.

There's another side to that coin though. I have had clients give me their business card, and others gave me an obvious fake name.

Hmm... how many Johns and Mikes are actually giving me real first names?

[+ VictorPowers]

I use my real name, though that real name is a nickname that friends and family use. I only use my given name professionally, so using the nickname is the more authentic name.

 

I usually ask escorts if they prefer to be called by the name under which they were hired or some other name. Many use their real name, others prefer the stage name. The amount of information the an escort reveals varies tremendously. I never considered that the escort would think it rude to ask.

 

I should say that it is rare that I hire for a single encounter, but those that chose to reveal their name usually do so on the first visit.

 

There are a few escorts whose name I learned inadvertently, but unless the escort tells me his real name, I will use his stage name or whatever nickname I assign during the heat of passion. I know several Muscleboys, Bigboys, Studs and a few Babies.

Now wait a MINUTE. I recall a thread where you mentioned your mother called you PurpleKow.

[Rudynate]

A select few know my real name. It is a mutual understanding to be discreet, so I'm trusting them with that information.

There's another side to that coin though. I have had clients give me their business card, and others gave me an obvious fake name.

Hmm... how many Johns and Mikes are actually giving me real first names?

 

I always use my real name. I must have an honest face, because most of my hires share their real names with me.

[+ purplekow]

Now wait a MINUTE. I recall a thread where you mentioned your mother called you PurpleKow.

She actually called me PurpleKalf

[+ azdr0710]

several years ago, met with one guy who had, much earlier in his adult-film days, done some stuff that some would consider risky.....when I casually mentioned this concern to him at our first meet, he immediately produced a medical form for me to look at with his real full name on it which indicated he was negative and "clean".....

 

I have an alias which I use for first-time meets.....only when I feel good about it, often by the end of a first-meet, will I tell a dude my real first name.....however, to this day, only two or three guys know my full first-and-last name.....

 

though I'm a really swell, honest, stand-up guy with an utterly impeccable reputation, a few providers have never given me even their real first name, even after a couple meets.....

 

met once with a very-well-know-round-these-parts guy a few years ago just after he'd started this work.....when I called earlier in the day to reconfirm our meet, his answering machine still had his full real name on it!

Edited December 4, 2017 by azdr0710

[Kippy]

My first name is real, it's Greg. Last name isn't because I was trying to think of something I could remember when I had to create a new email and profile on here. So I chose the last name that was used in the porn I did when I was much younger than I am today. But of course when so.eone flies me out to whereever they are I do use my full birth name.

 

Hugs,

Greg

We all know your real name is Seaboy--forever imprinted on our hearts!

 

Kipp

[+ GregM]

We all know your real name is Seaboy--forever imprinted on our hearts!

 

Kipp

 

You sweet talker lol

 

Hugs,

Greg

[MassageDrew]

I’ve always used by real name although I don’t expect my masseurs to give me their real names. My go to guy, however, did tell me his real name at my last appointment. I’m not sure if he’s feeling some sort of trust between the two of us but I appreciate it.

[mike carey]

Hmm... how many Johns and Mikes are actually giving me real first names?

I couldn't possibly comment on that.

[crushme99]

There are a few escorts whose name I learned inadvertently, but unless the escort tells me his real name, I will use his stage name.......

 

Inadvertently, yes. Through the course of research or by simply putting 2 and 2 together, an escort's real name can be discovered. On rent.men some don't seem to go to great lengths to conceal it, as Google-able as photos are these days.

So during even a first meet-up, what about politely asking "would you mind if I called you Bob?" using the real name. Would that be offensive or out of line? Personally, I would couple that with affirming confidentiality in all other settings.

[mike carey]

So during even a first meet-up, what about politely asking "would you mind if I called you Bob?" using the real name. Would that be offensive or out of line?

I think it would be out of line. Call him what he says you can call him and keep whatever you have found out to yourself. If he becomes a regular, that may change. If you really find out by accident, say social media linking you to his profile, you may want to alert him to that. But don't use what you find out, either by accident or snooping, to try to make or build a connection to him.

[+ Keith30309]

So during even a first meet-up, what about politely asking "would you mind if I called you Bob?" using the real name. Would that be offensive or out of line? Personally, I would couple that with affirming confidentiality in all other settings.

 

That would creep me out.

[Rudynate]

Inadvertently, yes. Through the course of research or by simply putting 2 and 2 together, an escort's real name can be discovered. On rent.men some don't seem to go to great lengths to conceal it, as Google-able as photos are these days.

So during even a first meet-up, what about politely asking "would you mind if I called you Bob?" using the real name. Would that be offensive or out of line? Personally, I would couple that with affirming confidentiality in all other settings.

 

Discretion is key in the escort game. A fundamental rule is that the escort adopts a stage name to protect his privacy. You need to make your peace with this rule. It's nice when an escort trusts you enough to reveal his real name, but it's not something you should push. If you can't observe basic rules in this game, then you should reconsider whether you should be playing it.

[jawjateck]

I have been given a lot of real names, but golly, it's just easier to remember pro names. Many pro names are powerful brands and quite lusty. It busts the fantasy when I learn a real name and realize it's more mundane than mine. HA!

[LaffingBear]

Twist on this question:

Clients, if without trying, you learned your rentguy's real name, would you tell him?

 

I repeatedly hired a guy, eventually overnights & longer. He was great, but occassionally indicated he didnt care to share his true identity. Thats ok by me - I understand.

 

Except, over the course of our appointments, he unknowingly did things revealing his name. E.g.

• He wanted to show me something on his laptop... sat next to me, log in screen had first name "Bob's Laptop"
  
• Subsequent visit, we watched porn together on laptop..... the wallpaper was a picture of him, name of the stripper troupe, troupe's homebase/locale, his strip-stage name
  
• Walking back to hotel one night, he took a personal call but motioned I need not step away. Related story to caller of a contractor apologizing for work performed, relating contractor said "how do we make this right, Mr. Smith?"
  

So I now knew real first, last name, other job, etc. It occurred to me to tell him, particularly when he behaved a little skittish about his identity. Also as some means to convey "look, I know you're Bob Smith, your stage name is XXXXXXX, known for awhile, I'll never use or share the info, you can trust me."

 

I never mentioned it, never told others....

[Cliff]

I keep it simple. If an escort volunteers his real name, I’ll call him by that name. If he doesn’t, I don’t ask. One or two of the ones I’ve seen have very “pornsy” names, so instead of saying, for example, “Hi Big Cock!” (which would sound absurd), I’ll simply say “Hey buddy!” or something to that effect. Works for me, and for them.

[Rudynate]

Twist on this question:

Clients, if without trying, you learned your rentguy's real name, would you tell him?

 

I repeatedly hired a guy, eventually overnights & longer. He was great, but occassionally indicated he didnt care to share his true identity. Thats ok by me - I understand.

 

Except, over the course of our appointments, he unknowingly did things revealing his name. E.g.

• He wanted to show me something on his laptop... sat next to me, log in screen had first name "Bob's Laptop"
  
• Subsequent visit, we watched porn together on laptop..... the wallpaper was a picture of him, name of the stripper troupe, troupe's homebase/locale, his strip-stage name
  
• Walking back to hotel one night, he took a personal call but motioned I need not step away. Related story to caller of a contractor apologizing for work performed, relating contractor said "how do we make this right, Mr. Smith?"
  

So I now knew real first, last name, other job, etc. It occurred to me to tell him, particularly when he behaved a little skittish about his identity. Also as some means to convey "look, I know you're Bob Smith, your stage name is XXXXXXX, known for awhile, I'll never use or share the info, you can trust me."

 

I never mentioned it, never told others....

 

This came up for me just the other day. I got together with a guy a couple of weeks ago. Just a few days ago, the Facebook algorithm identified us as contacts and sent me his profile, revealing his real identity, as a friend suggestion. I let him know that, and he wasn't upset. It dawned on me just this morning where FB is getting the data. I have the FB Messenger app on my phone. I'm going to uninstall it.

[crushme99]

Very insightful. Much appreciated.

[+ poolboy48220]

I've had guys slip up and say their real name, including my very very first hire. Very very early in my hiring career I wanted to tip a guy but had no cash, so I wrote him a check, which meant learning his real name. But generally I'll call them by their name listed in the ad; if it's something like RideMyCock, I'll ask them "What do I call you?"

 

Thinking about it, though - it's rare that I speak their names. It's usually just the two of us; I don't need to use his name to get his attention.

[TruHart1]

I have been given a lot of real names, but golly, it's just easier to remember pro names. Many pro names are powerful brands and quite lusty. It busts the fantasy when I learn a real name and realize it's more mundane than mine. HA!

In my experience that's not always the case. Some of the best escorts I've hired have real first and last names that actually sound much more like proverbial porn names than the stage name they actually use in escorting! Since most of them are still in the business, I won't give an example but I must admit I had a good chuckle when I learned their legal names, I even told a few of them I thought their real names were actually better porn names than the professional name they were using!!! LOL!

 

One of my favorite escorts, with whom I have become very good friends, and I, early in my hiring him, shared our "porn names" (name of your first pet & name of the street you grew up on) with each other, for example: "Spot Linwood!" Now when one or the other of us contacts the other we often address each other by those fake porn names, making us, or at least me, feel a special unique intimacy with him.

 

“Call me by your name and I'll call you by mine.”

 

TruHart1

[BluDay]

Clients, if without trying, you learned your rentguy's real name, would you tell him?

 

Only if it came from a way someone else could find it, a link to his personal FB account on a "business" page. If I discovered it in a private way, like he was showing me something on a phone/laptop/etc. and I happened to see it, than no.

 

In part, he took the risk by showing me something that could have his real name. Otherwise, I try to move away from screens until my companion has found the page he is looking for.

[MikeBiDude]

I ususally politely and disarmingly ask...”mind if I ask you for your real first name?” I won’t count how many many times I’ve asked, but I’m probably batting about .999 successful batting average

[+ lookingforfunny]

I acknowledge my real name. If someone really wants to find out, they can scope out the mailboxes or buzzer for your building or if you are staying in a reputable hotel, they have to use your name anyway or they can call down for room service and the staff will greet you by name. If someone wants to know your name, they can figure it out. It is not that difficult unless you are without ID, paying by cash, or in a vacuum. The key is to find someone who mutually respects you and practices discretion. I have personally had someone abuse the privilege, but it taught me to make adjustments on my end. Some people are simply volatile and you should be able to identify that up front and avoid those types altogether.

[Gadfly22]

While I have not had the situation of running into someone I know while I am with an escort whose name I do not know, if I did I would make up an easy to remember name, likely Bob or Mike rather than introduce him as Monstercock9.5

 

May favorite thing (not) is they don't tell you their real name and when you get to their place its a building with a doorman / receptionist. Who are you here to see please? Why Monstercock9.5 of course!!! Give or take an inch.