Reasons for hiring

[+ Truereview]

And @nycman if you're a good top, I'm a willing bottom. Ha.

Oh, sniggy! Don't give it up so easily! A fine ass is to be pursued, wooed, and then ravaged. @nycman is a big league ass hunter, make him work for it so that he can appreciate the spoils.

[sniggy]

And my ass is definitely a fine one. I don't run 30 miles a week for nothing.

[TruthBTold]

Truereview, if that is your ass in your avatar I would definitely point sniggy in your direction. Even if it's not, it's a delight to behold.

[UpDownUnder]

I hire because 95% of the general public has no fucking clue what they're doing in bed and I don't have the time or the patience to deal with that, so I stick with the pros.

[+ glennnn]

I've only had five escorts so far, but they have all been top of the line and fucked my brains loose. I'm a little bit in love with each one, because I never had a male lover until 2015. I want new escorts, but I also want the comfort and incredible joy of spending more time with each of my past escorts. I'm afraid of hurting their feelings, even though I know they have made love with many men since me, and have no expectation or desire to connect with me emotionally beyond our two hour session. Does it get easier to balance hormonal and emotional need?

[+ Just Sayin]

@glennnn take it from me: it gets much easier to detach as you move through the coming out process; I remember how strong my feelings were for guys I met during that period--whew! I am almost embarrassed to think about it even now!!!

[+ glennnn]

@glennnn take it from me: it get much easier to detach as you move through the coming out process; I remember how strong my feelings were for guys I met during that period--whew! I am almost embarrassed to think about it even now!!!

 

Thanks, buddy! I want to move on to new guys (Eric Hassan, Tristan Baldwin, others), but I feel I am somehow betraying the wonderful escorts that took me on when i had no experience and taught and treated me so kindly. I'm sure they don't see it that way, but due to my extremely late start I am like a gay 15" YO. I LOVE everybody, because it all feels so good and so right. Gang bang time???????

[BaronArtz]

I have hired escorts for about 3O+ years. I never thought much about it, but just this year it is sometimes giving me a guilt feeling. Some of the guys I met in NYC and in LA really do it because they feel it is the only way they can survive there. Now it is giving me a bad feeling. Am I abusing someone who really is not into it, but needs to do it? Am I taking advantage of somebody's misfortune?

 

Maybe I am just getting softer as I get older.

[big-n-tall]

I started for two main reasons.

 

1.) Although I had a number of fwb's/fb's, certain things I wanted to try were off the table with them (i.e. rimming). Hiring was a quick way to do things I never tried or did infrequently.

 

2.) I had a few pornstar crushes and doing this has allowed me to meet them. As a bonus, although I don't have a crush on most of them any more, some of them have become great friends.

 

To somewhat echo @glennnn, if I know ahead of time if a working guy is friends or boyfriends with another working guy, I tend not to hire the friend or boyfriend. I guess I feel like I am somewhat betraying the guy I usually see. For the most part, I have kept from catching feelings with the guys I've met doing this. However, two in particular, if they told me they wanted to date... I would so do it.

[+ Just Sayin]

@glennnn although I am slightly younger than you are, when I see guys that I'd like to try being with, I think to myself "If I do not have this experience, will I regret it later?" If I will regret it, then I do it; if life is a smorgasbord, then you are late to dinner and need to catch up!

[+ WmClarke]

@glennnn if life is a smorgasbord, then you are late to dinner and need to catch up!

Life is a banquet and most poor cocksuckers are starving!

 

Or something like that.

[Rudynate]

I've never fully understood my motivation for hiring. Long before my first hire, I fantasized about hiring. As a young man in my 20's I fantasized about hiring porn stars. I think the outlaw nature of it appeals to me. Whenever I hear someone complaining about an inability to get laid, I always suggest hiring. They always say they "don't do that." And I always think, "If you only knew what a great game it is."

[MikeyGMin]

Some of the guys I met in NYC and in LA really do it because they feel it is the only way they can survive there. Now it is giving me a bad feeling.

 

Assuming you are hiring grown man and not the barely legal type, I would not give it much thought. These are grown men making big boy decisions about how they want to live their lives. In fact, it's one of the things I have always admired about escorts. They have decided just exactly how they are going to lead their life and screw what other people think.

 

A grown man can always make other decisions. He might not be able to maintain the same lifestyle, but he could always find other ways to make a living. Millions of people do it every day.

[Shiloh]

Honestly hiring an escort was never even on my radar. I booked my first Vegas trip in Aug 2015 for a Feb 2016 Mariah concert. In October 2015 I was chatting with my assistant, and he said "You know what ELSE is legal in Vegas?!" And I still wasn't following, so he said "The oldest profession ever." And then the wheels in my head started turning LOL!

 

I had been fond of Derek for quite some time. Even now it's hard for me to put into words what drove me to him. Obviously his looks helped, but I think it was more his swagger. He came across as confident and sexy, without sounding arrogant.

 

On a more personal note, I saw a movie with Helen Hunt called "The Sessions" I believe, back in 2013. She played a sex surrogate, and her clientele were mostly disabled shut ins. And then several years ago I was watching LOGO and stumbled upon an episode of "1 Girl 5 Gays" and there was a panelist named Andrew Gurza. He also happened to have cerebral palsy, like myself. I follow him on social media and he has his own brand called Disability After Dark. It entails sex with the disabled and how to break down barriers. Anyway, he wrote an article which was published in the March 2016 issue of Out magazine, about the time he hired a sex worker. It was so beautiful and empowering, honestly reading that article solidified my decision to forge ahead with booking an escort.

 

It's hard to date period, then you add gay and disabled into the mix, it just compounds the issue. I've tried hook up apps, but everyone is just so superficial. Surprisingly hiring an escort has given me a great confidence booster, something I didn't even know I needed!

[MikeBiDude]

"You know what ELSE is legal in Vegas?!

You realize of course it's NOT legal in Las Vegas, right? Legal in some Nevada counties but not Clark County

[mike carey]

@Shiloh, thank you so much for sharing your story. So many of us think how hard it is for us to find love, or to hire someone, that we lose sight of the fact that as able bodied men it's all about our inability to take on the challenge of overcoming our fears. There is so much, 'What will he think', or 'Will I be good enough for him', that we ignore ourselves. Thank you for reaching out to someone that many of us would envy you for meeting, thank you for relaying your joy at what happened, you have done us a service. You have demonstrated your character to us, and you have also demonstrated Derek's.

[Shiloh]

@MikeBiDude Escorting is legal because you're paying for time, whereas prostition you are paying for sex. It's all in the wording.

[MikeBiDude]

@MikeBiDude Escorting is legal because you're paying for time, whereas prostition you are paying for sex. It's all in the wording.

 

You know what ELSE is legal in Vegas?!" And I still wasn't following, so he said "The oldest profession ever." And then the wheels in my head started turning LOL!

 

And your assistant meant the "oldest profession ever" was what specifically? Lol

[slightly]

And your assistant meant the "oldest profession ever" was what specifically? Lol

 

@Shiloh shares something deeply personal and honest about his life and this is what you're focused on from his post? Ok.

 

Shiloh, thanks for that, it's good to hear a wide perspective of experience that exist within the diversity of society. I might have to check out your favourite guy!

[MikeBiDude]

@Shiloh shares something deeply personal and honest about his life as this is what you're focused on from is post? Ok.

 

Shiloh, thanks for that, it's good to hear a wide perspective of experience that exist within the diversity of society. I might have to check out your favourite guy!

Ok, my bad. Sounded disingenuous

[Rod Hagen]

Well everyone should have a Plan B, especially escorts, whose longevity in the biz is often limited by the younger and prettier boys that come up behind them.

 

Some young guy is going to come up behind me? Does he have a strong tongue? :-)

[jjkrkwood]

Some young guy is going to come up behind me? Does he have a strong tongue?

 

That's for you to find out, if he makes you an offer you cant Refuse...

[liubit]

Go for it, @DMICS, go for it! And, my, oh my, you are young (jealous sigh...) :rolleyes:

[DMICS]

Go for it, @DMICS, go for it! And, my, oh my, you are young (jealous sigh...) :rolleyes:

 

Thanks, it's weird because your signature is actually what I'm mainly into doing when it comes to play. Now I feel bad.

[+ poolboy48220]

I started hiring at 27. It was more of a closet thing at that point, but yeah, there was certainly some of the "guys I want wouldn't give me a second look".