Reasons for hiring

[liubit]

Now I feel bad.

Don't, please don't

[+ poolboy48220]

it's naughty, but in a good way :-)

[Reluctant Daddy]

For me, hiring is like having a paid FWB. I enjoy the sex and the personal connection when it happens.

[+ Eric Hassan]

I've only had five escorts so far, but they have all been top of the line and fucked my brains loose. I'm a little bit in love with each one, because I never had a male lover until 2015. I want new escorts, but I also want the comfort and incredible joy of spending more time with each of my past escorts. I'm afraid of hurting their feelings, even though I know they have made love with many men since me, and have no expectation or desire to connect with me emotionally beyond our two hour session. Does it get easier to balance hormonal and emotional need?

 

It's never a bad thing to be considerate of others. I would assert that we escorts are a very understanding bunch and a stand for your happiness. It will get easier to find clarity between your emotions and hormones. You can definitely create a win-win situation here - you might find a balance between "regulars" and some new guys might suit you well. It's kinda like going to your favorite restaurant every week and then, once a month, trying a new place.

[pubic_assistance]

 

So...I often feel guilty when I'm about to hire. I wonder if I'm pathetic (paying money for sex seems sad and desperate in one moment and super exciting the next), wonder if I'm exploiting people.....

There is absolutely NOTHING "pathetic" about admitting (given your circumstances) that you occasionally get lonely for human touch and the intimacy of sex. DOING something about it, is what makes escorting "the world's oldest profession". You are human, like everyone else who's reached out for a professional over the last several thousand years. EXPLOITATION is relative. If a professional arranges to willingly provide you with services, in exchange for payment, then the pro is in charge and therefore is NOT being "exploited". They are choosing for themselves how to make money. "Exploitation" is only evident in situations where DESPERATION is concurrent to the meeting. Desperation in money for drugs, or money to escape an abusive relationship, and homelessness are the only things you might be conscious of. The rest is dwelling well within the decision making of an adult service provider who has set their own standards as to what they want and don't want to do for money. People hire for many reasons...and commonly when you are in a relationship. It is very common with ALL couples straight and gay for their sex life to die off a bit or even completely over the years. Two hours of make-believe love making, for pay certainly is not going to interfere or overlap as it would if you were actually "seeing someone else". So hiring is less like "cheating", when you're not getting your sexual-intimacy needs met at home. Making the "hire" practical, not "pathetic" at all.

[DMICS]

Just finished my first experience...heavenly.

[+ Keith30309]

Just finished my first experience...heavenly.

Awesome! I'd sit down and compose a review of the gentleman you met so others can benefit from your experience. Plus, I find writing reviews is a fun way to relive the experience and mull all the wonderful things that happened.

[liubit]

Just finished my first experience...heavenly.

Fantastic! Good for you, @DMICS. You see, it is not difficult, after all. Welcome to the wondeful world of hiring.

[DMICS]

Awesome! I'd sit down and compose a review of the gentleman you met so others can benefit from your experience. Plus, I find writing reviews is a fun way to relive the experience and mull all the wonderful things that happened.

 

Did that already

[DMICS]

Fantastic! Good for you, @DMICS. You see, it is not difficult, after all. Welcome to the wondeful world of hiring.

 

Thank you. Isn't difficult if you get someone cool and personable. I've already dealt with some that are assholes obviously I passed on booking.

[liubit]

I look forward to reading your review!

[+ muscleboyinsd]

I've been hiring escorts and masseurs for erotic massage since I was 18, partly because I was really young horny and partly because it was the late 80's and I didn't know gay boys or men. I was afraid of being gay, was depressed and was always wondering if I would be happy one day.

 

I would pick up the local fag rag and hire for erotic massage mostly and escorts sometimes when I could afford it. Most of the guys I hired were at least a few years older than me. Some were weirdos, but some were really nice cool guys. One guy talked to me for a long time... his parents didn't know, but his grandfather just knew... pulled him aside one day and told him everything was going to be OK.

 

I also called an escort agency -- because they had "agencies" back then. I met up with a cute kid about my age... and the guy who ran the agency asked me to be an escort. I did that for just a few calls. It was interesting. The guys were always much older than me, and they really enjoyed talking among other things.

 

When I turned 21, my best friend who was straight arranged for us to go to Vegas because he wanted to rent a hooker. And I ended up calling an agency there and got set up with this really cute young blond kid. He walked into my hotel room, all feisty and sassy and laid down all the rules... one of his rules was "I don't get fucked." I said OK and he came in. So we were making out in bed, and he whips out a condom and rolls it onto my dick. Then he hops on top and lowers himself down onto my dick -- and I had never fucked anyone before in my life. It was amazing... and the kid shot geysers. Afterward, he called into his agency and told them he was going out for a drink with me. We took a cab to a gay bar somewhere, and he actually bought me a drink. He was sweet.

 

I've had lots of good luck in the past finding amateurs who were nice and sweet... mostly for erotic massage... and a good number of them ended up hopping on my dick. For most of the 90s and 2000's I had a regular masseur... and sometimes a regular escort who had really been someone looking for "gen" on craiglist. I was usually able to find someone cool and hot and I was a good client.

 

I actually learned a lot about gay life and how things were from the guys I hired over the years.

 

I don't really have a good regular masseur or escort now. Haven't had one in a while. I look sometimes, but haven't actually found anything.

[Poincare]

I greatly enjoyed reading all these stories, especially the first entry by sniggy. I have a lot in common with me wrt reasons for hiring escorts.

I started out by going to gaiety in NYC in the early 2000's. My actor friend dragged me, then after the first visit I started dragging him there. What memories! Those skanky chairs, that fetid smell, the weird person at the front desk, the incredibly gorgeous and sexy dancers, who would flirt with us between dances. I was at least 80 lbs overweight then, so I could never have sex with a hot guy looking like that. Over about 1 year, I hired about a half dozen dancers. We would go back to their rooms in a Times Square hotel, and they would massage, stroke, me. No intercourse.

I has in year 6 of my current 20+ year relationship. We already stopped having sex by then, so gaiety was a great alternative.

That got me hooked. Since then I have hired more than 100 escorts, many of them pornstars, many newbies, and everything in between. I have had such a marvelous time. In general, I think they are reflective of overall population in terms of personality types. I met some true gems who are smart, sexy, witty, charming. Some are terrible so bored and treated me poorly. I have fallen in love with about 5 of them, carried on an affair with three of them, one lasting 7 years and included a marriage proposal....ended very badly with broken hearts on both sides.

Now I started using Seeking Arrangements. Wanted to try something different. Got about 200 messages in first month. Had some fascinating conversations, Warning: Things move quickly on that site. Before you know it, you have 10 people exchanging tests, whatsapp messages and emails. I ,are a really good living and am generous, so very dangerous site for me to be on. I have two upcoming weekends scheduled with two incredibly gorgeous guys....like male model type who need money. They seem to be way above what I ever saw on rent boy, which I miss a lot by the way. Will let you know how those meetings go.

Overall, I'm so happy that I first discovered escorts all those years ago at gaiety....so many fond memories, friendships, dnexperineces. When in a long term relationship like me, I would have never been able to enjoy sex without them. Sex dies after marrieAge, right?

[liubit]

Thanks for sharing, @Poincare.