Anyone else experience post-orgasm melancholy?

[+ glutes]

I was comparing notes with a friend, he said the same thing I feel post coitus/orgasm. A general feeling of almost depression, as in  " not what? ".

Any Brothers feel the same?

[NipLuvr212]

8 minutes ago, glutes said:

I was comparing notes with a friend, he said the same thing I feel post coitus/orgasm. A general feeling of almost depression, as in  " not what? ".

Any Brothers feel the same?

wow absolutely yes - a little bit more so in commercial situations,  but not exponentially more 

i get hungry... but i do get melancholy as well,,, issue is: is it simply brain chemistry or is there a more complicated set of factors going on?

[+ sf westcoaster]

Not melancholy, but certainly a period of reflection and introspection.

[nate_sf]

When I was younger, that melancholy was mixed with a sense of guilt and remorse. Fortunately that's all behind me, but there's still definitely a mood reset that happens. And yes, I start thinking about food! 

[ICTJOCK]

I totally understand what you are referencing.    For me I wouldn't call it "melancholy",  but a reset and at times tend to be a little more logical with focus.

[+ azdr0710]

some combination of let-down/is that all there is/guilt/undefined.......lasts from about five seconds after thru to a minute after......then back to normal daily doings or go take a nap.......I've theorized that it's a sudden upset in the testosterone balance that creates the feeling, but no idea.......

 

 

[+ PhileasFogg]

I’ve not…except that in my Catholic school days, I would have attributed that to post coital guilt…or occasionally, disappointment with the encounter. 

[maninsoma]

6 hours ago, azdr0710 said:

some combination of let-down/is that all there is/guilt/undefined.......lasts from about five seconds after thru to a minute after......then back to normal daily doings or go take a nap.......I've theorized that it's a sudden upset in the testosterone balance that creates the feeling, but no idea.......

 

 

Funny that my first thought when seeing this thread was that same Peggy Lee song.

[+ robear]

AKA Post-Nut Clarity

[CuriousByNature]

21 hours ago, sf westcoaster said:

Not melancholy, but certainly a period of reflection and introspection.

[+ SirBillybob]

Sounds all very Henri Existential Cat tristesse, bleakly staring through a window following la petite mort. Though, unlike most of us, he didn’t impulsively trade in a can of tuna. 

Regrette rien. Refractory has an inevitable shelf life. 

Edited August 25 by SirBillybob

[MikeBiDude]

4 hours ago, PhileasFogg said:

except that in my Catholic school days

Those days still haunt me!

[ACluelessGent]

The moment I cum, I turn around and sleep. No time for melancholy 😅

Edited August 25 by ACluelessGent

[CTguy]

I don’t feel sad or melancholy, in my experience I feel relaxed and tend to want to order a pizza. 🙂

[Phlmuscle]

I have that feeling. also. Usually think why did I bother. Wasn't that great. Was it really worth  the money.

[Becket]

The one thought that sometimes goes through my head is, "well, I could have done it myself and then I'd still have the $300."

But not all the time. Only when the experience is kinda MEH.

[+ purplekow]

On 8/24/2026 at 9:15 AM, nate_sf said:

When I was younger, that melancholy was mixed with a sense of guilt and remorse. Fortunately that's all behind me, but there's still definitely a mood reset that happens. And yes, I start thinking about food! 

I will be sure to have a pizza ordered for delivery the next time we get together.   

[+ purplekow]

For me, I consider if there is going to be a round two and making sure my partner is satisfied and does not need any further assistance.  After all, it is not all about me, even if I am paying.   If I am alone, then it is right off to sleep.  

Edited August 26 by purplekow

[Nue2thegame]

Only once when I awoke next to a coyote ugly partner.