ACluelessGent Posted May 24 Posted May 24 Hi all! This is my first post. So, I’ve been hanging out with this guy for a bit, and he’s constantly like two or three hours late. It used to really get to me, but now I just expect it and plan my day around him. He's young and hot, so I just let it slide.
Nue2thegame Posted May 24 Posted May 24 7 hours ago, ACluelessGent said: Hi all! This is my first post. So, I’ve been hanging out with this guy for a bit, and he’s constantly like two or three hours late. It used to really get to me, but now I just expect it and plan my day around him. He's young and hot, so I just let it slide. Welcome to the forum. That’s great if that works for you. I can imagine a day and a date that would be fine with me, too, but most of my days are too structured for that to work.
Mark_fl Posted May 24 Posted May 24 7 hours ago, ACluelessGent said: Hi all! This is my first post. So, I’ve been hanging out with this guy for a bit, and he’s constantly like two or three hours late. It used to really get to me, but now I just expect it and plan my day around him. He's young and hot, so I just let it slide. People treat you how you allow yourself to be treated. If you want his services more than he wants your money, this will work out for you. If you cancel every time he's going to be late because you have other plans, he will either stop being late, or you will stop seeing him. Like you said, you're OK with it, so it works for both of you. If his communication is good, and he asks if it's OK, that's a different story, but if he was just late without communication, I'd just treat that as cancelation.
ACluelessGent Posted May 24 Posted May 24 12 minutes ago, Nue2thegame said: Welcome to the forum. That’s great if that works for you. I can imagine a day and a date that would be fine with me, too, but most of my days are too structured for that to work. Thank you! My days are packed, but my evenings are free. So I pour a gin and tonic, put on some music, and just unwind. Luv2play 1
ACluelessGent Posted May 24 Posted May 24 16 minutes ago, Mark_fl said: People treat you how you allow yourself to be treated. If you want his services more than he wants your money, this will work out for you. If you cancel every time he's going to be late because you have other plans, he will either stop being late, or you will stop seeing him. Like you said, you're OK with it, so it works for both of you. If his communication is good, and he asks if it's OK, that's a different story, but if he was just late without communication, I'd just treat that as cancelation. It's OK, I am used to it and he is giving my play-by-play of his commute and ETA. MikeBiDude 1
nomad Posted May 31 Posted May 31 Good communication goes a long way. Some send a live location link which give you a very accurate idea of when they will show up. Love it when they use the technology to both of parties benefit. + Just Chuck and Luv2play 2
manorbrown Posted Sunday at 06:28 PM Posted Sunday at 06:28 PM All 3 of my favorite guys are chronically tardy. Instead of reacting with anger or not seeing them anymore, I decided to show them grace. While they’re no more punctual than before (😁) they all seem to even more eager to please when they arrive.🤷🏿♂️. I just chalk it up to this newer generation not being as professional as us Gen X’ers….. mtaabq and MikeBiDude 2
+ PhileasFogg Posted Monday at 08:50 AM Posted Monday at 08:50 AM Many of us have lives and schedules that are packed. I was raised in the character of “if you’re not early, you’re late!” The greatest respect that can be offered a busy person is honoring the value of their time. Especially if they’ve honored yours by being on time themselves. I had a regular in another city that just couldn’t get that. Whether traveling, or just something simple, he just couldn’t get it. I like him, but the liability to my schedule became too much. Ironically, I tested the waters twice with him later. He even said “I know it’s important to you…I’ll be on time”…and he was horribly late. There won’t be a third time testing the waters. + Just Chuck, Wings246 and MikeBiDude 1 2
Wings246 Posted Tuesday at 04:57 AM Posted Tuesday at 04:57 AM 19 hours ago, PhileasFogg said: I was raised in the character of “if you’re not early, you’re late!” Same here. I was (still am) conditioned & brainwashed by my late father, who was neurotically punctual / early for every commitment. If I don't arrive AT LEAST 15 minutes prior to the agreed upon time, I'm considered late. Unfortunately, that's not how our current world operates. So, once in a very, very, very blue moon, if someone shows up early, I'll be thoroughly impressed and amused. Going back to the central question of this thread, a 30-minute tardy is a test of my tolerance; anything touching the 1-hour mark will induce a mental breakdown. Becket, + Just Chuck and liubit 3
nomad Posted Tuesday at 10:01 AM Posted Tuesday at 10:01 AM 5 hours ago, Wings246 said: Going back to the central question of this thread, a 30-minute tardy is a test of my tolerance; anything touching the 1-hour mark will induce a mental breakdown. You have identified your threshold for throwing in the towel! + Just Chuck 1
Wings246 Posted Wednesday at 02:33 AM Posted Wednesday at 02:33 AM (edited) 18 hours ago, nomad said: You have identified your threshold for throwing in the towel! Luckily, for me, my "worst" provider tardy record so far was only a 10-minute delay (due to downtown traffic accidents that I could verify on my GPS). So the limits of my tolerance have not yet been fully tested. Edited Wednesday at 05:01 AM by Wings246
Heart It Deep Posted yesterday at 12:26 AM Posted yesterday at 12:26 AM A lot of good stuff in this thread. I have had some providers push 30 minutes or more, and I typically don't rebook in that case.. I typically am early, so this means, I was waiting in a hotel lobby for 30 minutes, or ended up killing time at a nearby bar or eating spot, for a meeting and someone's apartment for an incall. In all three instances, that providers were 30+ minutes late, they all happened to be European or South American. I gave the benefit of the doubt that this was a cultural difference? That said, it's makes the experience start off on the wrong foot for me. I also recently, had a provider cancel on my same day recently due to illness. Unfortunately, we rescheduled, and then it happened a second time. The kicker for me on this one, was that I had already cleaned out to bottom. Not feeling well is a legitimate excuse, but twice is a row is suspicious.
Bargara Leatherboy Posted yesterday at 03:45 AM Posted yesterday at 03:45 AM For some of us hiring is a special occasion - and sometimes to fit it into our life with our husbands / partners the timing has to be critical. So delays are annoying. My most recent hiring experience, he said up front that he was not going to be able to make the time, as I was on my own in a city hotel that was good. We settled on a time, he was operating out of a serviced apartment in a big block, I go there, messaged him and he said he was not quite ready but would message me when he was, there were places to sit where it was not obvious so that was fine. When he did message me to say he was ready, the session was amazing. He was not a clock watcher and we spent a long time snuggling on the bed as our cum dried, talking. This will be a repeat. As in everything in this hobby/ business it comes down to good communication msenge and Nue2thegame 1 1
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