Do you share your location for safety?

[+ 7829V]

I’m curious how others handle personal safety when meeting someone new for a massage or escort for the first time, especially when there are no reviews here and you’re in a foreign country or city.

Have you ever shared your live location with a trusted friend, or let someone know where you’d be and who you were meeting, just as a precaution?

Do you have any other safety tips? 

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

6 minutes ago, 7829V said:

Do you have any other safety tips? 

 

 

 

Edited Tuesday at 06:13 PM by Vegas_Millennial

[+ azdr0710]

I periodically have mentioned here in the forum that, on the rare occasion that I meet with a new person, I'll write down all the particulars about him on a piece of paper and leave it on the floor in the middle of my living room........that way, when my friends break down my door after a few days of no text or phone answers, they'll know who killed me...... 

[Nightowl]

I only do incall and carefully research the provider’s name, phone and the address he gives me.  If anything appears out of whack, I cancel.  Providers presumably research me as well.  So far, every guy I’ve hired has turned out to be exactly who he said he was and I’ve never felt unsafe.  I might be a little anxious before the first meeting with a new provider but when things go okay, the next meeting is fine.

[Danny-Darko]

22 hours ago, 7829V said:

I’m curious how others handle personal safety when meeting someone new for a massage or escort for the first time, especially when there are no reviews here and you’re in a foreign country or city.

Have you ever shared your live location with a trusted friend, or let someone know where you’d be and who you were meeting, just as a precaution?

Do you have any other safety tips? 

I personally NEVER bring an escort to my home. I always hire when out of town and meet him usually somewhere and bring him to my hotel. If he's a repeat, then he can just come directly to my room at the hotel. On very few occasions a very well reviewed escort has been given hotel addresses and room numbers without knowing them prior. I know these rules don't work for everybody, but those are the rules I play by and have worked for me. I rather rent a room and be safe than give my home address and any personal info like work locations or company to avoid problems or any personal phone numbers. Only an email address to contact me for future communication if the meeting went well and I'm interested in future possible meetings. I've only had one problem with an escort who turned out to be a hustler and stole from me. The hotel dealt with him by banning him from the property and not passing calls to my room. (That was the benefit of staying at a small boutique hotel where I was a regular client and known by most of the staff whom half were gay men themselves). 

Edited yesterday at 04:21 PM by Danny-Darko

[+ JamesB]

I don’t bring new providers into my home. The first meeting is always at their place or at a hotel. I also make sure one person knows where I am, who I’m with, and for how long.

[DMonDude]

I don't do the thing of giving a friend the identity/address of who I'm seeing and where I'm going, but i absolutely should and would if i could. I just don't have anyone I can give the "if i don't text you by the morning, call the police" responsibility to that also wouldn't ask a million questions as to why and what precisely I'm doing, and i have no intention of telling anyone in my life about this hobby of mine. 

Like others have said though, I always meet providers at a hotel in the lobby and then bring them up to my room/go with them up to their room. Or i go to their apartment, i definitely have less control and am taking more risk in that scenario and i don't really have any risk mitigation for that. A hotel and meeting in the lobby is the next best thing i can think to do for in person vetting. I also usually stay at hotels where the lobby is fairly populated and well lit. I have no issues about being seen meeting a provider in the lobby, no one around knows what we're going to do or how i know them, so that's not something i worry about. So it ends up being a nice mostly neutral place to meet them at where if something feels off, enough people are around i know that they aren't going to try anything and i can say "actually something's not right, no you can't come up to the room, sorry" if i need to (have never needed to do that though).

Edited yesterday at 06:53 AM by DMonDude

[jackcali]

17 hours ago, Danny-Darko said:

I personally NEVER bring and escort to my home. I always hire when out of town and meet him usually somewhere and bring him to my hotel. . . . I rather rent a room and be safe than give my home address and any personal info like work locations or company to avoid problems or any personal phone numbers. Only an email address to contact me for future communication if the meeting went well and I'm interested in future possible meetings.  

These are my rules as well, except I have a burner phone for my communications with providers.  Email seems to be too difficult for many of them.  Kids these days!  

[+ Pensant]

I’ve hosted at my houses for years and never had the slightest issue. Maybe I have superior discernment skills? But then again. I could easily subdue most of them.

[whatsinaname]

Honestly I'm more inclined to do it for Grindr hookups than stuff like this. I'll usually just text my best friend with something like "i'm going to this address for this long, if you don't hear back by this time.... avenge me" 

[+ SirBillybob]

On 1/20/2026 at 3:21 PM, azdr0710 said:

I periodically have mentioned here in the forum that, on the rare occasion that I meet with a new person, I'll write down all the particulars about him on a piece of paper and leave it on the floor in the middle of my living room........that way, when my friends break down my door after a few days of no text or phone answers, they'll know who killed me...... 

Mice when it works, for them. … 

Edited 18 hours ago by SirBillybob

[+ DrownedBoy]

I keep a note.

I also make sure they see the camera in the hall of my condo building, that they have to face directly if they're entering my door.