When do you consider your client/provider a regular?

[Wings246]

The question applies to both sides (clients & providers).

And do you treat him any differently after achieving the "regular" status?  If so, in what way(s)?

[56harrisond]

 

[sjmuktop]

Client here.

I suppose after I've been to see an escort maybe 3 or 4 times, and with every intention in my mind of seeing him many more times after that; that is when he has become a 'regular' to me.

I've had a number of regulars over the years, and have a couple of them at the moment. One of them I have been seeing since early 2018, and the other I've been seeing since early 2024.

Do I treat my regular guys any differently to any of the other escorts I hire who are not regulars? Nope. The non-regulars receive the same level of respect, kindness, courtesy, and gratitude from me as my regular guys do. 

What is different is the dynamic that exists between me and my regular guys. What I mean by that, is things like the fact that I can have banter with my regular guys that I wouldn't be able to have with new hires. Also the way I would interact with the regular ones is like how I would interact with old friends. There is familiarity, long and well established rapport, and a general feeling of total ease and comfort. In other words, you 'know' your regular guys, and this is reflected in the dynamics during interactions. 

Now, this is purely anecdotal, but I also find that it isn't unusual for guys who you've been hiring for a long time (maybe once you've been hiring them regularly for many months or for more than a year), to be OK with letting you see them for a lower rate than they would charge to newer or less frequent / irregular clients. I would never expect that from any of them, but it is appreciated whenever a guy allows me to pay for a session at a reduced rate from the one that he advertises on his Sleepyboy or RentMen profile (suppose it's rewarding customer loyalty, in the same way that traditional businesses sometimes offer loyal customers discounts on products / services). 

Edited January 5 by sjmuktop

[Nue2thegame]

I’ve asked a few of my providers this question and my favorite response was, “after 2 visits “. Sometimes the interval is > a year but they still remembered me and have treated me like an old friend. I think it’s more of a feeling that exists between client and provider than a minimum set requirement. 

Edited January 5 by Nue2thegame

[Mark_fl]

There is one provider that I saw and can't wait to see again, but he's most of the way across the country.

But if he ever travels to my neck of the woods, I will see him again, or if I'm ever wealthy enough to fly him in and put him up myself. So I occasionally drop him an email now and again, asking how he's doing and wishing him Merry Xmas and such. I don't think he minds, as he always reaches back in kind. In my mind, he's a regular,  even though we've only spent the two nights together. 

[+ PhileasFogg]

As a client, it’s when you are so much of their income that they build their schedule around yours.

That’s not healthy for either 

Edited January 5 by PhileasFogg

[Occasional]

When they tell you their real name?

[aiseeya]

9 hours ago, Occasional said:

When they tell you their real name?

This here. Sharing real personal information is a legit milestone.

[Nightowl]

If I’ve seen someone a dozen times, I hope he considers me to be a regular, even if those dozen times were spread out over several years.  

[big-n-tall]

I would say if you see someone more than once over a given amount of time… you’re a regular. Even if it’s like once a year.

I don’t necessarily think someone giving me their real name is something I’d use to determine if they were a regular. I’ve had guys I met on the first meeting tell me their real name and other personal info. Also sometimes I’ll bring someone to me for the first time for an overnight or longer. If I buy their plane or train ticket, they usually tell me their names. Also I have seen some providers repeatedly over years and still don’t know their real names or full names.

[+ FLOutdoors]

16 minutes ago, big-n-tall said:. Also I have seen some providers repeatedly over years and still don’t know their real names or full names.

That’s funny you noted that! I’ve seen one particular provider 7-8 times in the last 12 months and I still don’t know his real name and he only accepts cash for discretion and privacy reasons….but I’m definitely a regular!!