First time advice

[DonVan]

I’m looking for some advice as I prepare for my first experience with a man. I’ve spent some time on Rentmen and, while there are certainly some very attractive guys, I was hoping for a bit more communication beforehand.

The overall vibe on RM feels very rushed — a lot of “I’m available right now.” That may be fine down the road, but for my first experience I’d really prefer to exchange a few emails and have a conversation first. I have questions and would feel more comfortable getting to know someone a bit before meeting.

I’m a bottom, so there are things I’d like to discuss in advance, and I’m completely fine paying a premium for someone who’s patient, communicative, and understands that this is new for me.

Any advice will be greatly appreciated. 

Thanks,

DonVan

 

[Blnj856]

I would do a thorough search and narrow down your choices to a handful or so. Add those potential providers to your buddy list. For me, this is important because I can see which providers post “available now” and how often. I see it as the ones that don’t post as often, tend to have a comfortable client base built up, and seem to be more reliable and open to conversation (don’t go overboard) when it’s time to make an appointment. Remember, there are probably a lot of people that reach out with no real intention of meeting, which is why some providers don’t want to get into the back and forth. But nothing wrong with asking questions to see if they will be a good fit or not. 

[+ azdr0710]

https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/161836-newbie-question/#findComment-2482282

[aiseeya]

Just be upfront that this is your first hire and you would like to ask some qns. Clear communication is key. Never assume, always ask and clarifies where needed.

[+ SidewaysDM]

As someone who just recently had their first experience with a man, I will tell you what helped me tremendously. Once I narrowed down my search, with a handful of local providers, who were my type and had a fair amount of good reviews on RM. I checked them with Company of Men, to get some trusted reviews. After they passed that test, I paid for an hour of their regular rate to meet them in person. I only did this with 2 local providers. We had coffee or quick meal, and I was able to ask every imaginable question, and share my concerns about my first experience with a man. It also allowed me to see if we had a connection and real chemistry. I was able to find an awesome provider who has been kind, patient and loving, as I explore my sexuality with a man.This is not a conventional way go, and some of you will disagree with my method, but it sure worked well for me. I wish you the best with your journey.