The ‘too busy to meet’ conundrum among seekers:

[JB_Studio38]

This isn’t about flaky clients or time-wasters. It’s a general assessment of what I observe across Rent sites as a whole. Clients will contact me and suggest meeting, but then when it comes down to them having the time to set aside: it becomes a problem.
 

Some basic insight about me: I’m a low volume provider, I do not live in the metro area of a major city. I’m not standing on a virtual street corner with a red light 🚨 on, waiting to be picked up. I have my time booked typically only 2 to 3 clients a week, more if I’m traveling and less when I’m home. It’s been that way for awhile. I used to enjoy and be able to accommodate high volume, last minute inquiries: but times have changed. Although I still do it every so often from the comfort of a hotel room, it’s not often that I can come across someone whose schedule matches up with each other short notice.

That said, it’s a bit grating when a seeker asks to meet: but then it’s limited by time restrictions because they are busy with work, family, alternative plans etc etc. It puts me in a position where I feel I have to rush, cancel personal plans, upend my schedule etc to meet. Then suddenly it’s not sexy anymore. 
 

This is especially the case this time of year. With the sun going down earlier, I prefer to spend my daylight hours getting things done. I also live 1-2 hours minimum from ANY sex work action so: seeing a client earlier means cutting out 2-4 hours of my day to accommodate. Sometimes I can do that, most times: guys wanting to meet coincide with other things I already had considered getting done. Things that are many times, may be related to accommodating the session. Sometimes a 6 p.m. has to be moved to 8 p.m.

Of course I always communicate with clients ahead of time and ensure whether or not they have any other plans in the vicinity of our time. However, when I’m actively in a city visiting, it’s usually only 10-20 minutes to get to a client. I can often get there sooner, but I’ve still found myself cancelling plans to accommodate. Say I get a 2 p.m., “are you available today” request. 9/10 they won’t be available after 5 p.m. It’s always, “oh I can’t do after that time, maybe next time”. Then I have to drop my plans or cancel on friends. Over the summer, I had a situation where a client wanted a same day booking on the same day a date of mine booked us a hotel. I hated turning down $400, but I agreed to meet the date first. The client was only in town for 1 day. 
 

In some cases I may have wanted to plan my schedule better, but other cases: I’m having even serious previous clients ask about a booking and then not being able to keep it because they already planned XXX and it leaves no time to meet.

Maybe I’m just a bit intolerant at times, but I hate when someone reaches out for plans and then changes up to say they’re too busy to meet. Or I give them a time, but then anything after 4 or 5 p.m. is “too late”. Or they magically have dinner plans that I was never informed of. 
 

I understand we’re a business but: we’re also individuals. Meeting clients isn’t necessarily a routine thing. A different city, different neighborhood, different schedule is not always easy to plan within a day or 2 notice. But I do appreciate the clients who are willing to allow flexibility in their time. I’m even considering getting rid of doing hourly sessions all together and only offering 1 and 2 day engagements, that way an hour or 2 buffer won’t necessarily mean the entire booking is lost. However I know many seekers aren’t able to extend that much time with a provider at first.

Edited 5 hours ago by JB_Studio38

[SecretProvider]

20 minutes ago, JB_Studio38 said:

Then suddenly it’s not sexy anymore.

It's YOUR job to make it sexy, not for the clients to make it sexy for you.  Getting into the mind frame to make it sexy is what separates the men from the boys. 

 

21 minutes ago, JB_Studio38 said:

This is especially the case this time of year. With the sun going down earlier, I prefer to spend my daylight hours getting things done.

This is your choice. One of the joys for me about sex work is that I get to set my schedule. This has to be balanced with saying No to clients who want to see me at 2am.  You can set out 'open hours' like any other service does - we cannot be available 24hrs a day 7 days a week. We all need to make the choice at times - would we prefer see the client, or would we prefer 'getting things done'?  

But if you want to make money, and you want to be busy, you must be flexible and have an understanding that YOUR schedule needs flexibility to ensure you can get as many bookings as possible.  

23 minutes ago, JB_Studio38 said:

Maybe I’m just a bit intolerant at times

Welcome back to the forum - yes you are. But the way you have been writing in this new profile is a sign that you are doing better with these challenges.

It's true that there are a lot of guys out there that use Rentmen profiles to jerk off to and use us as 'interactive porn'. Some of the clients here on this site for eg, rate, reach out, comment about us, look up and critique our profiles when they have not hired for YEARS and have no intention in doing so. Lots of people will contact you with no intention to meet up and get off on just the thought of it. 

But there are also a lot of people who reach out with intention but also trepidation, and if your sales and marketing skills or bedside manner is not accommodating enough- you wont land the sale.  It's a tough balance to weigh up being open enough for these people and closed enough for the tire kickers who are jerking us around to not drain you.