Running into your masseur

[MassageCommunityMember]

I started going to a new gym recently and there is a masseur I recognize from rentmasseur there.  It seems like he's there no matter what time I go, which explains why he looks the way he looks.  I haven't hired him, and today it occurred to me that now I probably never will.  It would be awkward for me to see him every day. 

On the other hand, I would definitely say hi to the masseurs I have hired if I just saw them around town now and then...but every day? 

Would you hire someone you know you'd see every day?  At the gym, no less?  Now that I'm thinking about it, it would be less awkward if I saw a masseur at the grocery store or a coffee shop every day than at a gym.  It would feel like I'm invading his space for some reason, even though it isn't his space.

[56harrisond]

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Edited Wednesday at 09:41 PM by 56harrisond

[Nightowl]

I probably wouldn’t hire someone I see often on the outside.  There’s a certain appeal in seeing someone only in situations where we are going to be together.  Seeing him at the gym would destroy that.  I also keep my “normal” life and “hiring” life completely separate.  I don’t think I would want them to overlap.

[DMonDude]

It wouldn't bother me personally. I wouldn't be obligated to go say hi or talk to them or workout with them every time I'm there. It's very much a "it's only weird if you make it weird" thing in my opinion.

[Whippoorwill]

Yeah, don't make it weird, it doesn't need to be. San Francisco, my hometown, is a small place, and over the years my regular masseurs and I inevitably bump into each other. Give a nod of recognition, or say hi and move on, as you would with any other acquaintance. Neither you nor he have exclusive rights to the gym. You don't embarrass him, he doesn't embarrass you. Easy. Don't overthink it. 

[+ poolboy48220]

This has happened to me several times, it's mostly not weird.  Probably the most awkward was running into a go-go boy at the gym (with his daughters) and he said something like "My worlds are colliding". I've run into a guy I hired at a mutual friend's Halloween party, and saw a guy at the gym in the afternoon who'd just showed up on Rentmen that morning (and hired him later that night). As long as you don't "out" them as an escort/dancer/whatever when you see them...

[+ KensingtonHomo]

I have run into providers - particularly at nightclubs and bars - a few times at a concert. As others have said, we just acknowledge each other, chat briefly and move on. I don't find it awkward in the least. And it may also be the inherent anonymity of NYC, but if anyone asks, I just say, "Oh, he's a friend of friend I've hung out with a few times." 

[soloyo215]

I wouldn't feel weird, but I'd let him decide if he wants to say hello or acknowledge me. Some providers prefer not to have any contact with clients in public, and I respect that. Never experienced seeing a provider outside the business setting regularly, so I don't know how I'd react.

[+ Jamie21]

This happens the other way around too. I ran into a client at a naked beach in Mykonos. He was with his husband. He saw me walking along at the edge of the sea. Told me he recognised my cock first 😂. 

[+ Act25]

I tell providers (masseur & escort) they are always welcome to acknowledge me if we meet in public.  I cannot envision a scenario where that would be awkward or uncomfortable for me.  I also tell them I will not make the first move when we see each other. 

[big-n-tall]

I don’t recall randomly running into providers out in the wild.

However, there are a few that I’ve become rather close with and if we’re in the same town but don’t have time for a hiring situation we have sought each other out, to at least say hi.

The most recent time this happened was in July. I was in San Diego and one of my close regulars was dancing there. He had a brief opportunity to meet and I went to see him. We gave each other a hug and kiss talked a bit. Hugged each other goodbye and he was on his way back to his dancing gig.

With that said, I guess I don’t have a problem overall if a provider and I run into each other in public… but it might be situational. If I was at a work event I would at least acknowledge the guy but probably wouldn’t engage. Any other time I would have no problem with interacting out in the wild.

[mrkileen]

On 10/1/2025 at 2:03 PM, MassageCommunityMember said:

I started going to a new gym recently and there is a masseur I recognize from rentmasseur there.  It seems like he's there no matter what time I go, which explains why he looks the way he looks.  I haven't hired him, and today it occurred to me that now I probably never will.  It would be awkward for me to see him every day. 

On the other hand, I would definitely say hi to the masseurs I have hired if I just saw them around town now and then...but every day? 

Would you hire someone you know you'd see every day?  At the gym, no less?  Now that I'm thinking about it, it would be less awkward if I saw a masseur at the grocery store or a coffee shop every day than at a gym.  It would feel like I'm invading his space for some reason, even though it isn't his space.

It would most likely be awkward, in my humble opinion.