Revisiting topics in the forum

[Archangel]

Not everyone has been here as long as others. Not every new person here knows about the search function. And just because they do and may have used it does it mean they want to sift through multiple pages of multiple threads on a topic that might not be exactly what they’re looking for as far as an answer or a discussion.

Why do I say this?

Because saying “We’ve talked about this before” or some variation of it really isn’t helpful. And it’s almost rude to someone who’s asking and to those who might be involved in the conversation. I don’t know about others here, but in my family, workplace, and friends circles, we rehash the same topics often. Most of life’s topics don’t have an expiration date or a moratorium having been once discussed…

Might I suggest this response if the urge to say “We’ve talked about this before” or something similar itches:

[samhexum]

Might I suggest that if someone responds that way to you that you just scroll past it.

[Archangel]

1 hour ago, samhexum said:

Might I suggest that if someone responds that way to you that you just scroll past it.

Physician, heal thyself! 😂 

[Archangel]

I’m aware that I’m more than likely casting pearls before swine here, but I was pregnant with an opinion that needed delivering! 

[Nightowl]

I agree with you.  The search function here is not sophisticated enough to easily find previous threads on a a topic.  I always try but rarely succeed.  I do appreciate the longtime users on the site who point to previous discussions, however.   (BTW, @Archangel, I like your new profile pic!)

[Archangel]

2 minutes ago, Nightowl said:

I like your new profile pic

Thanks! I would like to find his ad on RM – my suspicion is his BFE would be heavenly 🤣 

[Johnrom]

Yes. Please be kinder to the newbies on the site.  If you are annoyed by topics previously discussed then just skip the topic.  No need for snarky comments. Plus perspectives do change over time with new experiences.  So always good to hear fresh opinions or chime in your knowledge from your wisdom of past  experiences.  Simple civility ! 

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

2 hours ago, Archangel said:

Not every new person here knows about the search function.

To help: 

 

 

[Archangel]

2 hours ago, Johnrom said:

Yes. Please be kinder to the newbies on the site.  If you are annoyed by topics previously discussed then just skip the topic.  No need for snarky comments. Plus perspectives do change over time with new experiences.  So always good to hear fresh opinions or chime in your knowledge from your wisdom of past  experiences.  Simple civility ! 

Curmudgeons don’t handle change well. Nor do they handle newbies well—unless of course newbies do it the way we always did it. Curmudgeons aren’t known for their civility!

 

It’s also not at all welcoming to say “We’ve talked about this before” and provide only links to other threads. It shuts a person down. It also has an “I know better than you” air about it. And it doesn’t take whoever took the time to post something seriously enough to engage what they posted, but does take them seriously enough to effectively say, “Shut up.” It also breeds an in-group/out-group cliquish culture. Although some are okay with that—when they’re part of the in-group.

What exactly is gained by wading into a discussion and saying, “We’ve talked about this before?” Who benefits from that? The OP certainly not. Perhaps the one making the remark, but likely at the expense of someone else. Again—hardly civil behavior! 

 

[Luv2play]

4 hours ago, Archangel said:

I’m aware that I’m more than likely casting pearls before swine here, but I was pregnant with an opinion that needed delivering! 

In this forum, it’s age before beauty. With a nod to Dorothy Parker. Lol

[Archangel]

10 minutes ago, Luv2play said:

In this forum, it’s age before beauty. With a nod to Dorothy Parker. Lol

She was a homely sort. 

[+ Alabastrine]

Life would be too boring unless us newbies did stupid shit for you to laugh or narrow your eyes at. Eventually, as time whittles down our newbishness we'll feel the sting of wisdom and wish to kick our former selves down the stairs. 

[Archangel]

Old timers should be happy newbies are asking questions and interested. It’s a chance to impart “wisdom.” It also means that the show keeps going as the old timers age out and newbies take over—in any endeavor. What you’ve worked for isn’t lost!

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

18 hours ago, Nightowl said:

I do appreciate the longtime users on the site who point to previous discussions, however.

Always glad to help 😊