Red flags to lookout for

[panpanda]

Hey y'all. I think we've all had our fair share of keeping a lookout for any potential red flag(s) that happens when we're going through a provider's profile. What are some of red flags that you look for as you're evaluating whether to hire or don't hire?

For me, I check if the profile pictures are up-to-date and the photos are not taken with the quality of a 2007 smartphones.

Also, cross-reference this forum. Y'all have been amazing.

[56harrisond]

 

[56harrisond]

 

[+ Alabastrine]

I reach out to the clients of a provider for feedback, if I hear similar negative input from two independent clients that's a red flag to me. It helps me cross names off a "potential" provider list, the same time it kind of sucks: one provider was really hot and I was so disappointed. Better safe than sorry. 

Edited July 21 by Alabastrine

[Decatur Guy]

Red flags:

Profiles with just a few pictures and just a few words in the descriptions.
Providers asking for a deposit upfront.
Profiles with pictures that I recognize from five or 10 years ago.
Pro-active complaints about clients.
Super vague descriptions.
Name changers (I don't mind one name change, but when it becomes a habit). 
 

[marylander1940]

PNP and attitude!

Bad work ethic, laziness, etc

[jcmiami1]

Anywhere in their ad saying they love parties, have party favors aka pnp. Poor texting grammar and one worded replies. Takes hours or day’s between text messages. Over exaggerated positive reviews “amazing” “incredible” “life changing” blah blah blah.  Multiple reviews within 24 hours. New on site but asking way above market rates.

 

 

[marylander1940]

AI pictures!

[Pepper Young]

Red flags:

Poorly written ads: bad grammar and spelling, too much slang, it's all about them and their desire for luxury goods and/or money.

Photos: None or just a few. Poor quality. Obviously dated. No dick pics.

Poor reviews: Reviews by other clients that average less than 4.7. 

Vibe: Desperation. Not sexy.

[+ JamesB]

Constant profile name changes.

Overly polished, edited or professional photos. Pic that by their quality or other clues are obviously old. Check for inconsistencies, like photos that don’t match the description like age, body type or seem overly generic.

Vague or Incomplete Information. The use of words like VIP, Model, Exclusive, High class, etc. 

Asking for deposits or full payment in advance.

Unrealistic rates compared to the local market or promises of unlimited services.

Lack of online presence. Reputable escorts often have some online footprint or a verified social media presence with consistent activity.

Profiles with only glowing, overly similar reviews containing words like Amaizing, the best in my life, etc. Very short reviews. Reviews made by recently created accounts or accounts that only have that one review. Several reviews within a very short time. 

Providers that take a long time to answer messages, respond vaguely, avoid answering all questions. Use of VoIP numbers.

If something feels off, trust your instincts. Legitimate providers prioritize mutual respect and clear communication.

[Constantine]

19 hours ago, marylander1940 said:

PNP and attitude!

Bad work ethic, laziness, etc

Just curious, why is PNP a red flag?

[marylander1940]

1 hour ago, Quincy_7 said:

Just curious, why is PNP a red flag?

Drugs and escorting.

What can possibly go wrong?

[MscleLovr]

2 hours ago, JamesB said:

Constant profile name changes.

Overly polished, edited or professional photos…..Check for inconsistencies, like photos that don’t match the description like age, body type…

Vague or Incomplete Information. The use of words like VIP, Model, Exclusive, High class, etc. 

Asking for deposits or full payment in advance.

 

Very good list of warning signs, in my opinion.

1 hour ago, Quincy_7 said:

why is PNP a red flag?

Simple: I don’t want people doing drugs or getting high on a date with me.

The only time I’ve ever been threatened was when a guy after a good dinner (on our 4th date, and at his request our 1st overnight) took some substance in the bathroom and then in bed started to complain that ‘the rich always get what they want’. I threw him out.

[Constantine]

1 minute ago, MscleLovr said:

Very good list of warning signs, in my opinion.

Simple: I don’t want people doing drugs or getting high on a date with me.

The only time I’ve ever been threatened was when a guy after a good dinner (on our 4th date, and at his request our 1st overnight) took some substance in the bathroom and then in bed started to complain that ‘the rich always get what they want’. I threw him out.

 

4 minutes ago, marylander1940 said:

Drugs and escorting.

What can possibly go wrong?

 

Do poppers count? 

[NYXboy]

8 minutes ago, Quincy_7 said:

Do poppers count? 

No, poppers do not count as PNP. 

[marylander1940]

16 minutes ago, Quincy_7 said:

 

 

Do poppers count? 

I think you know that's a silly question. 

 

[NYXboy]

11 hours ago, marylander1940 said:

I think you know that's a silly question. 

honestly I didn't know he was being silly.  I have seen way more silly question posed on these boards thats for sure!

[marylander1940]

7 hours ago, NYXboy said:

honestly I didn't know he was being silly.  I have seen way more silly question posed on these boards thats for sure!

you're no silly, never said that. 

Many times, we've talked about gay pornstars and escorts who died of an accidental overdose. I hope some on here think doing meth, G, and other stuff while hiring is the right approach to life. I think it's more like Darwinism. 

I think poppers are safe, I don't buy conspiracy theories about them and HIV, cancer, etc. Poppers are not harmful at all! 

[maninsoma]

On 7/22/2025 at 6:15 AM, Pepper Young said:

Red flags:

Poorly written ads: bad grammar and spelling, too much slang, it's all about them and their desire for luxury goods and/or money.

Photos: None or just a few. Poor quality. Obviously dated. No dick pics.

Poor reviews: Reviews by other clients that average less than 4.7. 

Vibe: Desperation. Not sexy.

Commenting on the part of your post that I bolded, I'm always perplexed when I come across ads like that. I mean, even if a guy is looking for extremely wealthy clients do those clients want someone who's more focused on getting material things versus what they can provide to the client?  I would think not unless the client wants to be "dominated" financially.  How many clients are into fin-dom?

[MuscSami]

Regarding things like deposits, in my experience. I do ask for deposits if:

1.) They want me to travel internationally

2.) They repeatedly ask for custom videos / replies to horny messages throughout the day.

This in my opinion is a fair ask, they don’t need to pay it. However I’ll not be responding to messages like: “You have my new speedo pics for me”, “have you ever fucked someone so hard they piss themselves I really love that if you can do it to me”.

These types of messages go hand-in-hand with time wasters, and I’ll not allow my time to be wasted. I’ll respond and engage with them to a large extent but they should be prepared to pay for that time.

[mtaabq]

4 hours ago, MuscSami said:

Regarding things like deposits, in my experience. I do ask for deposits if:

1.) They want me to travel internationally

2.) They repeatedly ask for custom videos / replies to horny messages throughout the day.

This in my opinion is a fair ask, they don’t need to pay it. However I’ll not be responding to messages like: “You have my new speedo pics for me”, “have you ever fucked someone so hard they piss themselves I really love that if you can do it to me”.

These types of messages go hand-in-hand with time wasters, and I’ll not allow my time to be wasted. I’ll respond and engage with them to a large extent but they should be prepared to pay for that time.

As a customer, I can’t argue with that logic. You make a valid point. Thank you for your input. 

[Hen]

On 7/22/2025 at 1:54 PM, MscleLovr said:

Very good list of warning signs, in my opinion.

Simple: I don’t want people doing drugs or getting high on a date with me.

The only time I’ve ever been threatened was when a guy after a good dinner (on our 4th date, and at his request our 1st overnight) took some substance in th e bathroom and then in bed started to complain that ‘the rich always get what they want’. I threw him out.

I do love that you throw them out! I have done that a few times and am grateful I did not get thrashed by the escorts in question. I do take an exception to marijuana though, especially if I have hired the escort before and feel comfortable with them. 

[marylander1940]

On 7/22/2025 at 1:54 PM, MscleLovr said:

Very good list of warning signs, in my opinion.

Simple: I don’t want people doing drugs or getting high on a date with me.

The only time I’ve ever been threatened was when a guy after a good dinner (on our 4th date, and at his request our 1st overnight) took some substance in the bathroom and then in bed started to complain that ‘the rich always get what they want’. I threw him out.

[Austin Lewis]

On 7/22/2025 at 2:05 PM, NYXboy said:

No, poppers do not count as PNP. 

I'm glad someone asked this question, because I've been wondering about that very thing.

[Nightowl]

On 7/22/2025 at 10:56 AM, JamesB said:

The use of words like VIP, Model, Exclusive, High class.

The use of superlatives to describe oneself drives me crazy.  If I hire you, I’ll be the judge of just how wonderful you are.  If you describe yourself as “high class” I’ll automatically assume you aren’t.