Should a provider be a little more encouraging to a newbie ?

[Ali Gator]

Yesterday, I contacted a 'older' masseur I had my eye on for months, who has moved to my city. He's available seven days a week, from 10 am  - 6 pm.  I contacted him for a sensual one hour massage for sometime in the afternoon today (Mother's Day). I told him I found his ad on MF. He did respond about six hours later (fine) and sent me all the 'spa' services he offered at different rates (I didn't care since I knew what I wanted already when contacting him - but OK), and the cross-streets of where he lived (he works out of his apartment).  I responded to him reiterating I wanted a one hour sensual massage, and I was familiar with his address - I live nearby. I think the info I was providing him showed I was a serious new client, and living so close, very possibly a potential regular. 

Again, I asked him if he was available in the afternoon, as I see his hours on Sunday are 10 am - 6 pm.  He responded he could meet me at 11 am.  I responded, "11 am won't work for me. Nothing after 1 pm ?" He responded with a solid "No". 

OK - so I responded back with "Perhaps I'll try for another day, or maybe next weekend." He responds with 'OK.' That's the end of our conversation. 

Maybe I'm seeing it differently, but if I was a provider and this potential client was texting me with interest and this info - and I could see he was serious and close by (as I mentioned above) - I would do my best to encourage the newbie to call again this week and book another afternoon. Instead of answering with just "OK" for an ending, I would say something along the lines of, 'Do any weekdays work for you ? I still have openings in the afternoon on Mondays and Tuesdays, if you want to come by' or 'Would you like to book next Sunday now, as I have the afternoon open at this time?'  If he'd been encouraging that way, I would've booked something this week / weekend right away. Show me (a newbie) you want my business! 

Alas, I've lost interest in booking with him now. Who knows - maybe I'll regain some interest by the end of the week, depending on if there are any visitors (or not) whom I could book with, instead. But as a new provider who could've become my regular go-to, he didn't make a great first impression. 

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

1 hour ago, Ali Gator said:

Yesterday, I contacted a 'older' masseur I had my eye on for months, who has moved to my city. He's available seven days a week, from 10 am  - 6 pm.  I contacted him for a sensual one hour massage for sometime in the afternoon today (Mother's Day). I told him I found his ad on MF. He did respond about six hours later (fine) and sent me all the 'spa' services he offered at different rates (I didn't care since I knew what I wanted already when contacting him - but OK), and the cross-streets of where he lived (he works out of his apartment).  I responded to him reiterating I wanted a one hour sensual massage, and I was familiar with his address - I live nearby. I think the info I was providing him showed I was a serious new client, and living so close, very possibly a potential regular. 

Again, I asked him if he was available in the afternoon, as I see his hours on Sunday are 10 am - 6 pm.  He responded he could meet me at 11 am.  I responded, "11 am won't work for me. Nothing after 1 pm ?" He responded with a solid "No". 

OK - so I responded back with "Perhaps I'll try for another day, or maybe next weekend." He responds with 'OK.' That's the end of our conversation. 

Maybe I'm seeing it differently, but if I was a provider and this potential client was texting me with interest and this info - and I could see he was serious and close by (as I mentioned above) - I would do my best to encourage the newbie to call again this week and book another afternoon. Instead of answering with just "OK" for an ending, I would say something along the lines of, 'Do any weekdays work for you ? I still have openings in the afternoon on Mondays and Tuesdays, if you want to come by' or 'Would you like to book next Sunday now, as I have the afternoon open at this time?'  If he'd been encouraging that way, I would've booked something this week / weekend right away. Show me (a newbie) you want my business! 

Alas, I've lost interest in booking with him now. Who knows - maybe I'll regain some interest by the end of the week, depending on if there are any visitors (or not) whom I could book with, instead. But as a new provider who could've become my regular go-to, he didn't make a great first impression. 

I prefer the provider to respond exactly as he did.  If I say "I'll keep you in mind for another time in the future" (similar to your "Maybe another day", although more clear that I'm not trying to set something up right now), I expect nothing more than "OK" as a reply, if that.  When a provider counters with "What about Tuesday evening or Wednesday morning", I actually find THAT a turn off.  I already said no and will reach out at a future time, so respect that.

This provider did exactly as you asked.  If you wanted him to reply with  times he was available, a more direct "what times do you have available after after 3pm this Wednesday or after 1pm next weekend" would have been the phrase to use, not "Maybe another day".

Edited May 11 by Vegas_Millennial

[Thelatin]

Did you offer an exact donation?  I’m always very specific and generous if I’m interested.  I want to meet on x - this is what I pay, this is what I want. 

[viewing ownly]

It isn't in the provider's interest to care about a brand new client's schedule. If he was a regular, he'd be more flexible. If you really want to see him, try again. 

Something that possibly turned him off was you letting him know you're already familiar with where he's at. Doubtful, but possible. 

[+ KensingtonHomo]

Perhaps he has a lot of clients, so he doesn't want to encourage new ones. But then, why have an ad? 

I do think he could have responded with more than an "okay. " For example, "I'm sorry, but 11 a.m. is the only time I have available tomorrow." 

His responses seemed a bit cold. 

[Dingdi]

I usually don’t believe someone who is not patient to answer a sentence may provide real service. 

[Ali Gator]

5 hours ago, viewing ownly said:

It isn't in the provider's interest to care about a brand new client's schedule. 

True... but it should be in the provider's interest to grow his business with new clients, and the way to do that is to be more encouraging.

[Nightowl]

I think he was expecting you to offer an alternative, “ How about Tuesday?” By saying you’d try another time he  figured you’d contact him later.  Unless he’s desperate to see you, I wouldn’t expect him to be the one to offer alternatives.

[Ali Gator]

5 hours ago, Thelatin said:

Did you offer an exact donation?  I’m always very specific and generous if I’m interested.  I want to meet on x - this is what I pay, this is what I want. 

He stated his rate. I agreed, and I told him which service I wanted from the menu he texted me.

[jmichaeliii]

I have found this to be the nature of the business.  Some providers respond very tersely and others tend to be more chatty.  If I get a terse one, I try one more time and try to be ultra specific.  If that doesn't work, move on.

[+ purplekow]

If you are interested then try again.  Providers screen many calls and no doubt this one has seen and heard it all as you mentioned he is experienced.  That being the case, he may have read you as a time waster.  That misjudgment should not preclude you from trying again.  He was not rude, just matter of fact.

[italianboyph]

Everyone is different, even though he chose to give one word answers. Sometimes schedules don't align and people go about it differently.  This happens with me, but I always try to follow up and accommodate  to set up for another day if that one couldn't work. If you're interested in him seeing, see what day works for you both. 

[SirBillybob]

Works both ways. A standard “OK” typically evokes a 🤗 from me, in which he unambiguously realizes his minimalism isn’t labelled as perfunctory even if the intent, second-guessed, was withholding enthusiasm. 

Edited May 12 by SirBillybob

[LookingAround]

He responded appropriately. To be blunt you're acting like a piece of work. It's not your place to evaluate his business practices. I, too, would probably have replied ok. Reply again and suggest something else. Get off your high horse and stop being uppity/and needy. 

[coriolis888]

You said that you contacted an "older" masseur.

Rather than him trying to be more flexible to your schedule, it is possible that since he is "older" that he does not need money and that scheduling a client is not that critical. 

It is possible that he needs only to keep busy with something to do and earn a little cash on the side as a validation factor.  

[aiseeya]

Business worthiness varies. Its not uncommon for thriving business to not chase potential client for myriad of reasons. That aside, your last response ia deff a conversation stopper. I would have propose alternative timing instead of waiting for a proposal from him. He is unlikely to 'move mountain' for a potential one hour booking. 

[+ Alabastrine]

Rentmen being one of the more popular platforms, does a "gift" through RM make a difference to a provider in sorting the diamond clients in the rough in the world of potential new clients? And if so what price range.