mhsmhsmhs Posted April 22 Posted April 22 Was this a wink/nudge that I totally missed? I've been going to him for a few months and it's always been 100% therapeutic. I'd love to hear your thoughts.
+ poolboy48220 Posted April 22 Posted April 22 Depends on his tone. I often have masseurs ask if I have any problem areas, anything that's particularly sore or stiff. I've refrained from pointing to my cock when they ask that. thomas, Whippoorwill, mhsmhsmhs and 8 others 1 1 9
BrooklynIrish Posted April 22 Posted April 22 To me, this depends a lot on context. Is this at home (his or yours) or a spa? Does he work fully dressed? Are you draped? If that's the case, you could suggest losing the draping or him working in his undies. Or even ask what he means by "special requests." bichiguy, Whippoorwill, pubic_assistance and 1 other 4
mhsmhsmhs Posted April 22 Author Posted April 22 8 minutes ago, BrooklynIrish said: To me, this depends a lot on context. Is this at home (his or yours) or a spa? Does he work fully dressed? Are you draped? If that's the case, you could suggest losing the draping or him working in his undies. Or even ask what he means by "special requests." Fair point. Yes, it's at his home. He works fully dressed (but barefoot). I am partially draped. Yeah, I was gonna suggest him working in his undies for starters. That's not too bold, right? Ali Gator and Monarchy79 1 1
BrooklynIrish Posted April 22 Posted April 22 Is he gay? Does he know you're gay? If so, you could say "I think you're really cute.. would you ever work shirtless?" I think I'd work up to nude. Or, if he's open and take the hint, he might just offer to be naked. whatdoidowiththisagain, Redwine56, Whippoorwill and 1 other 4
mhsmhsmhs Posted April 22 Author Posted April 22 He is and knows I am and we've discussed both being queer men. I think asking for shirtless / in undies is a good first step.... polythome, Ali Gator, BrooklynIrish and 1 other 3 1
+ Vegas_Millennial Posted April 22 Posted April 22 58 minutes ago, mhsmhsmhs said: Was this a wink/nudge that I totally missed? I've been going to him for a few months and it's always been 100% therapeutic. I'd love to hear your thoughts. The appropriate response is: "Can you massage my scalp? Or feet? Or calves?" Whippoorwill, Your Man in Arlington and Monarchy79 2 1
mhsmhsmhs Posted April 22 Author Posted April 22 Just now, Vegas_Millennial said: The appropriate response is: "Can you massage my scalp? Or feet? Or calves?" Funny you say this, Vegas -- my only reply on the spot was to spend more time on the sensual elements around my scalp / ears. + Jamie21 1
moonlight Posted April 22 Posted April 22 Also depends on where you found this guy. That's a common question in therapeutic massages. With no other physical cues or obvious suggestive tone of voice, I would not read anything sexual into it. MikeBiDude, Whippoorwill and pubic_assistance 1 2
mhsmhsmhs Posted April 22 Author Posted April 22 5 minutes ago, moonlight said: Also depends on where you found this guy. That's a common question in therapeutic massages. With no other physical cues or obvious suggestive tone of voice, I would not read anything sexual into it. Found him on MF and he's says in the ad that it's therapeutic only. pubic_assistance 1
moonlight Posted April 22 Posted April 22 In that case, I don't think it's likely that you missed anything. It was probably just a "we're running out of time, any muscles you want me to get before the session's over?" kind of thing. pubic_assistance and fancyboot 2
mhsmhsmhs Posted April 22 Author Posted April 22 4 minutes ago, moonlight said: In that case, I don't think it's likely that you missed anything. It was probably just a "we're running out of time, any muscles you want me to get before the session's over?" kind of thing. it was said BEFORE the massage though... + Vegas_Millennial 1
Thelatin Posted April 22 Posted April 22 (edited) My response would be “feel free to do whatever” or “surprise me” maybe “you’re the professional” etc. Something along those lines so it’s up to him. Edited April 22 by Thelatin Boaxxx, Monarchy79, Whippoorwill and 1 other 3 1
moonlight Posted April 22 Posted April 22 21 minutes ago, mhsmhsmhs said: it was said BEFORE the massage though... In that case, probably just asking if there's any areas you want to focus on or spend extra time on. Again, a common question for therapeutic massages. Sorry if I'm being a wet blanket . pubic_assistance, + Vegas_Millennial, MikeBiDude and 2 others 5
mhsmhsmhs Posted April 22 Author Posted April 22 17 minutes ago, moonlight said: In that case, probably just asking if there's any areas you want to focus on or spend extra time on. Again, a common question for therapeutic massages. Sorry if I'm being a wet blanket . haha, no I appreciate this. I was wondering if I was being too hopeful. Probably so. pubic_assistance 1
+ Jamie21 Posted April 22 Posted April 22 I always find that if the client’s legs are wide, back slightly arched, they enjoy (audibly) the inner thigh work…then it’s a sign to me that their bum needs plenty of work, in every way. Perhaps you need to signal this whilst on the table? If he’s up for it he’ll read the signs. If he’s not then he’ll gently close your legs and ensure the towels stay in place. pubic_assistance, Whippoorwill, polythome and 3 others 1 2 1 1 1
+ Vegas_Millennial Posted April 22 Posted April 22 4 hours ago, mhsmhsmhs said: I'd love to hear your thoughts. Welcome to the Company of Men. There are multiple discussions on this subject. Take some time and peruse the existing topics in "Questions About Hiring". pubic_assistance and Whippoorwill 2
Nightowl Posted April 22 Posted April 22 If you were lying on your back and had a hard-on when he asked, you told him what he needed to know. If he didn’t do anything about it, he was asking whether you had tight spots that needed more therapeutic work. Whippoorwill 1
Ali Gator Posted April 22 Posted April 22 6 hours ago, mhsmhsmhs said: Found him on MF and he's says in the ad that it's therapeutic only. Very possible he doesn't want to offer anything more than therapeutic to 'one timers'. Now that you've seen him a few times, it sounds like he's willing to tailor your massage to what you REALLY want. Go for it. Redwine56, Whippoorwill and Johnrom 1 2
mhsmhsmhs Posted April 28 Author Posted April 28 Update: most of y'all were right. He refused to go shirtless (politely declined) and strictly therapeutic means strictly therapeutic.. even though I found him on MF. Oh well. Redwine56, soloyo215, Your Man in Arlington and 1 other 2 1 1
Ali Gator Posted April 28 Posted April 28 20 hours ago, mhsmhsmhs said: Update: most of y'all were right. He refused to go shirtless (politely declined) and strictly therapeutic means strictly therapeutic.. even though I found him on MF. Oh well. I think the fact that you found him on MF will tell you he's more therapeutic. RentMass is another story. Whippoorwill 1
bichiguy Posted April 28 Posted April 28 20 hours ago, mhsmhsmhs said: Update: most of y'all were right. He refused to go shirtless (politely declined) and strictly therapeutic means strictly therapeutic.. even though I found him on MF. Oh well. Sorry I didn't see this sooner. My first step would be I asking/saying I don't need to be draped. If he insists you do, usually that's a sign nothing extra is going to happen. It's been my experience that some providers who are only on MF offer extras for money, offer extras to some not all, or may eventually transition to having the menu of options open. I enjoy a mostly therapeutic not strictly, that's why I stopped going to a provider who gave me blue balls (even though he's 3 years later advertising on RMas well) Hot4latin and mhsmhsmhs 2
+ Vegas_Millennial Posted April 28 Posted April 28 44 minutes ago, Ali Gator said: 20 hours ago, mhsmhsmhs said: Update: most of y'all were right. He refused to go shirtless (politely declined) and strictly therapeutic means strictly therapeutic.. even though I found him on MF. Oh well. I think the fact that you found him on MF will tell you he's more therapeutic. RentMass is another story. In 2020, there was a discussion on whether the men on masseurfinder or rentmasseur were more open to extra activities. The result was mixed, with each person having his own success rate with men on either website. No obvious winner
whatdoidowiththisagain Posted April 28 Posted April 28 i've had very good luck on masseur finder in the orlando area. pretty much everyone i texted about offering extra gladly do it, most with the same price. But i only ask about them being naked and if they will let me touch and fondle them. one even let me give him head, but i had to negotiate with him for a slightly higher price $80 more.
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