No Chat Option, No Contact Number. How to Contact??

[Jayse]

There are a couple providers I see whose ads have no chat option enabled and list no contact number when you click the “Contact Me” button.  I see they are active users and occasionally online, but see no way to contact them.  I am mystified what the point is of them being online if they cannot interact with users.  How does one contact a user like that!?

Edited March 2 by Jayse

[soloyo215]

I've tried good old-reliable Google, and find other profiles with the same name in other platforms. I hope it works for you.

[BrickBuilder]

One provider I knew once had his number on the site.  He later removed it. I asked your same question "how are new clients supposed to get in touch"?  He said "there is a link to my onlyfans page and my twitter and instagram feeds.  I will know someone is serious if they subscribe and reach out through twitter or instagram, subscribing is now a requirement before I will even meet up with anyone."

I think if I encountered that today, I would say its too many hoops to jump through to get my rocks off.

My two cents.

 

[SirBillybob]

If the escort knows full well the implications of not enabling new prospective clients to reach out he may be wanting previous clients that already possess a means of contact to know that he remains in circulation. A version of a break. It’s not uncommon for me to check the status of a listing prior to trying to book a repeat through WhatsApp, &c. If there are reviews one may also try to reach out to a reviewer on the platform for info although I realize that may be onerous and without yield. 

Edited March 2 by SirBillybob

[Jayse]

Thanks all, sounds like too many hoops to jump through for me! 😂

[BuffaloKyle]

Can you post the provider ads you are referring to? Are they expired or frozen?

[+ Gar1eth]

6 hours ago, BuffaloKyle said:

Can you post the provider ads you are referring to? Are they expired or frozen?

I've seen the same thing on Rentmen. Obviously it's not the majority of ads. But I occasionally run across guys with no contact info available. I don't know why I look since I'm not hiring. But I do.
 
Also I think occasionally an ad on RM will show expired with the escort currently on or (and I've def seen this)-an expired ad and the escort has been on in the last 24 hours. Sometimes I notice this more at the beginning of the month-and I just assumed for those whose ad eventually becomes active again that they were behind on renewing them. 
 

 

Edited March 3 by Gar1eth

[marylander1940]

23 hours ago, Jayse said:

There are a couple providers I see whose ads have no chat option enabled and list no contact number when you click the “Contact Me” button.  I see they are active users and occasionally online, but see no way to contact them.  I am mystified what the point is of them being online if they cannot interact with users.  How does one contact a user like that!?

Move on! They shouldn't be playing difficult....

[BrooklynIrish]

On 3/2/2025 at 9:18 AM, AtlTopGuy said:

One provider I knew once had his number on the site.  He later removed it. I asked your same question "how are new clients supposed to get in touch"?  He said "there is a link to my onlyfans page and my twitter and instagram feeds.  I will know someone is serious if they subscribe and reach out through twitter or instagram, subscribing is now a requirement before I will even meet up with anyone."

I think if I encountered that today, I would say its too many hoops to jump through to get my rocks off.

My two cents.

 

There are definitely a few people who are just using RM as a way to promote their OF. 

[jackcali]

9 hours ago, marylander1940 said:

Move on! They shouldn't be playing difficult....

I agree.  It's not like the escort is running a competition or setting a challenge for potential clients.   If you do get through to him, I doubt an enthusiastic "Congratulations!  You win the golden ticket!" is going to be the escort's reaction.    

[NYXboy]

I have had this issue when using Rentmen.eu. 

 

the solution is going to rent.men version of the site. 

 

it seems they have a bug that they have no interest in fixing as they focus on rent.men version of the site only now

[+ ButchAtl]

Just last week two nice looking Asian guys had ads posted both on RentMasseur and rent.men that were attractive.  

They each aha no phone, no email, and no other listed way of contact other than rent men message.  

I reached out to each via rm messenger and got no response.

Worndering why they bothered paying for a listing?  

[Archangel]

When a provider makes it difficult to contact according to the typical ways, it disinclines me to contact them at all. It’s almost a red flag. What are they so worried about? (Spare me the list. I know the risks etc.) If they can’t handle the eventuality of dealing with unpleasantness or other issues around this enterprise, then I’m not interested in investing in them. There’s already enough hassle without added hoops to satisfy whatever reasons a provider has for complicating communication.

[Archangel]

On 3/3/2025 at 9:49 AM, BrooklynIrish said:

There are definitely a few people who are just using RM as a way to promote their OF. 

This.

And it irks the living hell out of me. It’s not the primary function of the site – if a function at all. It also conveys to me the client that offering a satisfactory service isn’t the provider’s primary objective but rather satisfying their own concerns. I’m the means to that ends.

Edited March 13 by Archangel
Added a missing word

[Archangel]

A potential provider who puts his OF prominently in the ad falls in likelihood for me reaching out. I find that hugely offputting.

[SirBillybob]

1 hour ago, ButchAtl said:

Just last week two nice looking Asian guys had ads posted both on RentMasseur and rent.men that were attractive.  

They each aha no phone, no email, and no other listed way of contact other than rent men message.  

I reached out to each via rm messenger and got no response.

Worndering why they bothered paying for a listing?  

If they had been Caucasian I suspect we wouldn’t be privy to the ethnicity category. 

[Archangel]

On 3/2/2025 at 1:07 PM, SirBillybob said:

If the escort knows full well the implications of not enabling new prospective clients to reach out he may be wanting previous clients that already possess a means of contact to know that he remains in circulation. A version of a break. It’s not uncommon for me to check the status of a listing prior to trying to book a repeat through WhatsApp, &c. If there are reviews one may also try to reach out to a reviewer on the platform for info although I realize that may be onerous and without yield. 

I smell rationalizing and excuse-making for poor behavior…Why do we need to excuse things we don’t find especially savory? It’s almost like if the provider does it, it’s acceptable. But if the client does it, it’s burdensome or bothersome. These guys aren’t gods. They are allegedly businessmen and some of them have ridiculous business expectations. It’s good to call a spade a spade…

Everything here puts the onus on the client.

Imagine a contractor who has a website. But doesn’t give an address. No phone number. No email. But there are up-to-date reviews from clients and the contractor has recent info about work done and maybe even some pictures. If they have no way that makes it easy to get in touch with them by conventional means, they have a really queer business model, to say the least. It’s so silly you probably think the scenario is absurd to the point of not happening. And that’s why this notion also applies to escorts who put up hurdles to getting in touch with them for business.

[+ nycman]

[SirBillybob]

14 hours ago, Archangel said:

I smell rationalizing and excuse-making for poor behavior…Why do we need to excuse things we don’t find especially savory? It’s almost like if the provider does it, it’s acceptable. But if the client does it, it’s burdensome or bothersome. These guys aren’t gods. They are allegedly businessmen and some of them have ridiculous business expectations. It’s good to call a spade a spade…

Everything here puts the onus on the client.

Imagine a contractor who has a website. But doesn’t give an address. No phone number. No email. But there are up-to-date reviews from clients and the contractor has recent info about work done and maybe even some pictures. If they have no way that makes it easy to get in touch with them by conventional means, they have a really queer business model, to say the least. It’s so silly you probably think the scenario is absurd to the point of not happening. And that’s why this notion also applies to escorts who put up hurdles to getting in touch with them for business.

The first sentence would mean I had actually considered it an impropriety and that I’m unable to handle with equanimity life’s little speed bumps, such as somebody managing their personal paid public-facing property in the way they prefer or my flipping through a phone booth directory pages and discovering that somebody had ripped out the section on better business bureau complaint contacts. I wouldn’t consider the absence of a contact method a torrential downpour on my punting parade. If the ad were to be one of the very few that interest me there would be naughty options in terms of how to relate to it. 

Edited March 14 by SirBillybob

[Archangel]

@SirBillybob, long and short, it shouldn’t be difficult to get in touch with someone offering a service. Make whatever rationalizations you want to excuse the provider (who has a prerogative to setup business however he chooses) but at the end of the day, it’s a largely unnecessary speed bump, as you term it, to make communication more cumbersome than to ease it. I don’t have all the time in the world to play games or march in parades, rain or shine, so if the provider is going to add extra layers of difficulty to getting in touch, bye, Felicia. But you do you. 

[Rudynate]

On 3/2/2025 at 6:18 AM, AtlTopGuy said:

One provider I knew once had his number on the site.  He later removed it. I asked your same question "how are new clients supposed to get in touch"?  He said "there is a link to my onlyfans page and my twitter and instagram feeds.  I will know someone is serious if they subscribe and reach out through twitter or instagram, subscribing is now a requirement before I will even meet up with anyone."

I think if I encountered that today, I would say its too many hoops to jump through to get my rocks off.

My two cents.

 

It depends on the guy and his profile.  Mostly I agree, but if I wanted to meet him badly enough, I would jump through a few hoops.

[SirBillybob]

22 minutes ago, Archangel said:

@SirBillybob, long and short, it shouldn’t be difficult to get in touch with someone offering a service. Make whatever rationalizations you want to excuse the provider (who has a prerogative to setup business however he chooses) but at the end of the day, it’s a largely unnecessary speed bump, as you term it, to make communication more cumbersome than to ease it. I don’t have all the time in the world to play games or march in parades, rain or shine, so if the provider is going to add extra layers of difficulty to getting in touch, bye, Felicia. But you do you. 

Imma do me for sure. Au contraire, you’re making oodles of time and energy to get to bye. You’d think there was a crisis; a contact number with which you repeatedly get “message box is full”. Good luck with the toothache. 

Edited March 14 by SirBillybob

[Archangel]

1 minute ago, SirBillybob said:

Imma do me for sure. Au contraire, you’re making oodles of time and energy to get to bye. You’d think there was a crisis; a contact number with which you repeatedly get “message box is full”. Good luck with the toothache. 

Not saying bye to you, Bob. The escort 🙄 I’ll go back and forth with you and florid language as much as you engage. You feed my inner troll 🧌 

[Yukon21]

If theyre trying to sell something and communication isnt simple and the replies dont come timely I move on.  It doesnt matter how hot he looks, how big his dick is, how good he sucks, fucks or takes dick, there are too many great options out there that make it easy to connect and will welcome my business. 

Edited March 14 by Yukon21

[SirBillybob]

49 minutes ago, Yukon21 said:

If theyre trying to sell something and communication isnt simple and the replies dont come timely I move on.  It doesnt matter how hot he looks, how big his dick is, how good he sucks, fucks or takes dick, there are too many great options out their that make it easy to connect and will welcome my business. 

I think that some of the opinion and solution variance running through the topic relates to the unknown as to how exciting an actual encounter would be, notwithstanding the degree of effort to arrange it. There is usually an element of standard gamble and resource trade-off that can only be evaluated after the fact. Add to this the complexity of a bigger whispering brain on one shoulder, a smaller one on the other. 

Edited March 14 by SirBillybob