jmichaeliii Posted January 26 Posted January 26 How often do you have providers hitting you up for money? Today was the third time I had a provider I have not yet met hit me up for money for general expenses. To me it is awfully ballsy to do this and earns them an instant block going forward. The part that gets me this time is this is an established local provider that has good reviews. I was having good dialogue with this guy and had a day to meet setup then I get a text today to confirm that meeting and ask for money. Am I overreacting about this? pubic_assistance, + Pensant and Johnrom 1 1 1
+ ApexNomad Posted January 26 Posted January 26 21 minutes ago, jmichaeliii said: How often do you have providers hitting you up for money? Today was the third time I had a provider I have not yet met hit me up for money for general expenses. To me it is awfully ballsy to do this and earns them an instant block going forward. The part that gets me this time is this is an established local provider that has good reviews. I was having good dialogue with this guy and had a day to meet setup then I get a text today to confirm that meeting and ask for money. Am I overreacting about this? To be clear, are you saying the provider asked for money to cover their own random expenses before your scheduled meeting? And this is a provider you’ve never met before? And this is the third time this has happened to you (with three different providers)? Was it framed as a deposit or something more casual? Just trying to get a clearer picture since it seems like this is becoming a pattern. marylander1940 1
jmichaeliii Posted January 26 Author Posted January 26 32 minutes ago, ApexNomad said: To be clear, are you saying the provider asked for money to cover their own random expenses before your scheduled meeting? And this is a provider you’ve never met before? And this is the third time this has happened to you (with three different providers)? Was it framed as a deposit or something more casual? Just trying to get a clearer picture since it seems like this is becoming a pattern. Yes to your first question, yes to your second question and yes to your third. This time it was to cover getting some food because he was tapped out moving to a new place. The one before was because he couldn't afford his hotel bill. This one irked me in particular because up to this point everything was very professional. I thought it took a lot of nerve. Specifically he asked for $35. I lent money to my best regular once because he had a car accident and was in a pinch to get a car. I trusted him since I knew him for a year and a half and it worked out fine. This guy has never even met me in person. + Pensant, Peter Eater, pubic_assistance and 2 others 3 1 1
+ ApexNomad Posted January 26 Posted January 26 1 minute ago, jmichaeliii said: Yes to your first question, yes to your second question and yes to your third. This time it was to cover getting some food because he was tapped out moving to a new place. The one before was because he couldn't afford his hotel bill. This one irked me in particular because up to this point everything was very professional. I thought it took a lot of nerve. Specifically he asked for $35. I lent money to my best regular once because he had a car accident and was in a pinch to get a car. I trusted him since I knew him for a year and a half and it worked out fine. This guy has never even met me in person. You’re not overreacting. Block. marylander1940, pubic_assistance, Medin and 10 others 1 12
Jack Vernon Posted January 26 Posted January 26 You're not overreacting. This guy is throwing up all sorts of red flags. Block, ignore, avoid, move on. + DrownedBoy, EastbayMike, pubic_assistance and 1 other 4
jmichaeliii Posted January 26 Author Posted January 26 All blocked. Doesn't sound like this is a common occurrence...maybe it's just me! 😀 + DrownedBoy, pubic_assistance, Peter Eater and 2 others 5
GTMike Posted January 27 Posted January 27 Which service/website are you originally finding these folks from? marylander1940 1
jmichaeliii Posted January 27 Author Posted January 27 17 minutes ago, GTMike said: Which service/website are you originally finding these folks from? Rentmen pubic_assistance and marylander1940 2
DunwoodyGuy Posted January 27 Posted January 27 Instant and irrevocable block. + DrownedBoy, + Pensant, Your Man in Arlington and 2 others 1 4
Guest Posted January 27 Posted January 27 I've had multiple providers hit me up for money over the years. They get in a bind in their personal life and ask for help. It's very off-putting. I believe they target clients who are overly nice. (I'm also on the spectrum, so that could be another reason.)
+ BenjaminNicholas Posted January 27 Posted January 27 3 hours ago, jmichaeliii said: How often do you have providers hitting you up for money? Today was the third time I had a provider I have not yet met hit me up for money for general expenses. To me it is awfully ballsy to do this and earns them an instant block going forward. The part that gets me this time is this is an established local provider that has good reviews. I was having good dialogue with this guy and had a day to meet setup then I get a text today to confirm that meeting and ask for money. Am I overreacting about this? Not overreacting. This is telling behavior. This is the kind of escort you don't ever need to meet. The kind of guy who you block and move on from. That he thinks it's okay to pull this bullshit says all you need to know. jackcali, + Pensant, jmichaeliii and 5 others 3 1 3 1
jmichaeliii Posted January 27 Author Posted January 27 6 minutes ago, 123guy321 said: I've had multiple providers hit me up for money over the years. They get in a bind in their personal life and ask for help. It's very off-putting. I believe they target clients who are overly nice. (I'm also on the spectrum, so that could be another reason.) Funny you say the nice part. I am very nice with my providers... until someone pulls a stunt like this. I'll say I am nice, but not naive. MscleLovr, NJF and Johnrom 3
GTMike Posted January 27 Posted January 27 9 minutes ago, jmichaeliii said: Funny you say the nice part. I am very nice with my providers... until someone pulls a stunt like this. I'll say I am nice, but not naive. Seems like testing to see how much they can get away with using the least amount of effort possible or didn't really plan on meeting regardless unfortunately. pubic_assistance 1
Thelatin Posted January 27 Posted January 27 Happens to me frequently, I’m just seen as that gullible….because I was. + Pensant 1
+ Jamie21 Posted January 27 Posted January 27 Your kind nature is evident by you actually considering the request and asking here whether the request is reasonable. I totally agree with everyone who said ‘block him!’. Lucky you didn’t go through with meeting him. pubic_assistance and + Pensant 1 1
jmichaeliii Posted January 27 Author Posted January 27 38 minutes ago, Jamie21 said: Your kind nature is evident by you actually considering the request and asking here whether the request is reasonable. I totally agree with everyone who said ‘block him!’. Lucky you didn’t go through with meeting him. I have not been hiring that long (about a year and a half) but it has always been my personal policy to be kind and pleasant with the guys I hire and for the majority, that has been reciprocated by great times, providers willing to travel to me (I am a good hour and a half away from a major city) and repeat encounters. I consider myself very fortunate to have found 4 guys fairly local to me that are wonderful people, so there is no need to let a bad apple here and there spoil the party. I am just glad this incident happened prior to us meeting so I can just cross him off my list. + Jamie21 1
pubic_assistance Posted January 27 Posted January 27 17 hours ago, jmichaeliii said: Today was the third time I had a provider I have not yet met hit me up for money That is the most bizarre situation I've heard about Rent.men for some time. I've certainly had young providers hit me up for help AFTER having met them ( and fucked them )..so there is a friendly relationship of sorts established. But asking someone who you've not even MET for help is a total red flag announcing a con-artist. AVOID AVOID AVOID Your Man in Arlington 1
jmichaeliii Posted January 27 Author Posted January 27 Just now, pubic_assistance said: That is the most bizarre situation I've heard about Rent.men for some time. I've certainly had young providers hit me up for help AFTER having met them ( and fucked them )..so there is a friendly relationship of sorts established. But asking someone who you've not even MET for help is a total red flag announcing a con-artist. AVOID AVOID AVOID I completely agree. I mentioned above I have a guy I met when I first started hiring and we see each other regularly. He had a personal situation come up and he needed a rather large sum of money. We talked, he did not really want to take it, but I lent it to him. Our agreement at that time was my next 3 sessions are paid for and he was good with it. It was a risk no doubt, but we had known each other well over a year and are very friendly with each other, so I rolled the dice. It all turned out fine and we continue to see each other. But for someone you never met to ask you for anything is just crazy. Again, just glad this came up before we met. pubic_assistance 1
+ purplekow Posted January 27 Posted January 27 It was likely a con. How desperately does one need $35 dollars that they did not have any one else to ask but a stranger they are supposed to meet in the future? + Pensant, Ali Gator and Your Man in Arlington 3
jackcali Posted January 27 Posted January 27 I'm totally in agreement with blocking these guys, but I admit that I have given guys money before meeting them to pay for a hotel room. I leave it to them to secure the room and then I reimburse them, and a few times I've had an escort reach out and say they can't afford to book the room. I handled it by meeting them in person, giving them some cash to deposit at their bank and then proceeded as usual. I figured if the escort came out to meet me he wouldn't scam me for the hotel cost and miss out on an escort fee of 2-4x that. Only once was I scammed and, as I saw the problems other clients had with him in the few months that he escorted, I figured I was lucky to get away from him when I did. + Pensant 1
SirBillybob Posted January 27 Posted January 27 (edited) These escorts understand that it makes more sense for you to decline than accommodate the request. As everybody here indicates, anybody claiming otherwise either doesn’t understand or doesn’t want you to. However, some brazen requests may be absorbable psychologically. My lifetime longest frequent regular tried to play me from the get go, upselling a basic sexual act that nevertheless sustained his active role preference, with standard STI protection, by $500 above the initial fee, some twenty years ago. I know I know, a particular version of the ask category. After being momentarily stunned as a very experienced hirer I declined to fall off the turnip truck and negotiated it as inclusive based on the original trick fee. The following few hundred sexual encounters with him were terrific. He couldn’t have forecasted the reliability of regular bank from one client. Among the Top 5 in terms of personal lifetime pleasure. Edited January 27 by SirBillybob
+ PhileasFogg Posted January 28 Posted January 28 On 1/26/2025 at 5:38 PM, jmichaeliii said: All blocked. Doesn't sound like this is a common occurrence...maybe it's just me! 😀 It’s not just you 😉 + DrownedBoy 1
+ PhileasFogg Posted January 28 Posted January 28 On 1/26/2025 at 7:04 PM, jmichaeliii said: Rentmen We might benefit knowing what city they’re in
Trick Posted January 28 Posted January 28 When I could not book with a provider due to schedule conflicts, he asked me if I could help him with tuition money. Ali Gator and pubic_assistance 1 1
jmichaeliii Posted January 28 Author Posted January 28 56 minutes ago, PhileasFogg said: We might benefit knowing what city they’re in Philadelphia pubic_assistance 1
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