How far to schedule in advance?

[GCMan]

I only hire when I travel. I generally schedule my travel 4-6 weeks in advance. Would escorts prefer to schedule 4-6 weeks out, or 4-6 days or 4-6 hours? I’m pretty new to this so I’m trying to understand preferences. I like scheduling far in advance to ensure my preferred providers. But is that practice OK? Thanks!

[NJF]

When I travel, I would make the initial contact approximately the week before and finalize the appointment 1-2 days ahead of time.

[GCMan]

44 minutes ago, NJF said:

When I travel, I would make the initial contact approximately the week before and finalize the appointment 1-2 days ahead of time.

Thanks - I like that plan. 

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

48 minutes ago, GCMan said:

I only hire when I travel. I generally schedule my travel 4-6 weeks in advance. Would escorts prefer to schedule 4-6 weeks out, or 4-6 days or 4-6 hours? I’m pretty new to this so I’m trying to understand preferences. I like scheduling far in advance to ensure my preferred providers. But is that practice OK? Thanks!

I try to reach out 3 days before my travel, giving each person a half day to respond.  For example, on Monday, "Hello, I'll be arriving in XXX on Thursday morning.  Are you available for a 2 hour session Thursday afternoon?  I can host near XXX or travel to you, whichever is easier"

Either I succeed, or I still have all day Tuesday and Wednesday to find somebody else to schedule.

[Simon Suraci]

Advance notice really depends on the provider. What are their booking preferences? Many list that on their profile, like same day only or whatnot.

Are they a popular fans site model? Lots of travel, and engagements? Are they trans, have a rare or unique attribute, porn famous, or otherwise some flavor of low supply / high demand? If yes to any of these, you have much better chances booking several weeks in advance, maybe more.

For your typical run of the mill provider who isn’t any of the above, a few days to a week is just perfect. Same day is a total crapshoot.

[BuffaloKyle]

A week out is my usual for the first contact. If you want to message a provider say a month ahead of time don't book a slot and set it in stone. A lot can happen in a month, for both you and the provider, where if you would have to cancel or change the booking say a couple weeks later that it might ruffle some feathers. I'd keep it very brief with a month out message saying for instance "Hi. I'll be visiting Chicago the end of next month for work/leisure. Are you going to be in town that weekend and usually have availability on Fri or Sat evenings? If so please let me know your rate and once we get closer to my arrival we can make concrete plans."

[Jarrod_Uncut]

3 hours ago, GCMan said:

I only hire when I travel. I generally schedule my travel 4-6 weeks in advance. Would escorts prefer to schedule 4-6 weeks out, or 4-6 days or 4-6 hours? I’m pretty new to this so I’m trying to understand preferences. I like scheduling far in advance to ensure my preferred providers. But is that practice OK? Thanks!

I often have a regular 1 to 2 day notice preference, and a separate 2 to 4 hours (minimum) same day notice preference. Most bookings seem to be within a week time frame, however same day notice is common: in which I’ll tell people, “2 hours MINIMUM notice required”. But otherwise yes, same day notice is a crapshoot.

Had one guy in one of my travel cities who kept trying to meet me same day, and this is what I told him (me in green):

 

That’s the kind of stuff that creates a breakdown in communication. Instead of trying to actually coordinate a convenient day and time, dude just kept trying to meet me right away and would say, “I’ll check back with you” when I said I wasn’t available until the next day. Then same thing the next day, and getting the same answer. On top of that, without a deposit they haven’t gotten on my schedule to cancel in the first place.  

4 to 6 weeks notice is a bit far out for me personally just because, I travel like every 2-3 weeks. And I don’t want to be concerned to return home for 1 appointment, especially if I’m doing well on tour. 

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[Jarrod_Uncut]

I’ll add too:

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE to the universe, clients STOP 🛑 using Rent messenger or email to arrange bookings on anything same day notice. Example (me in green):

 

Now granted, I know this person is real because we’ve met before…but it’s been awhile (like over 2 years), and he mentioned RM doesn’t send him pop up notifications anymore. So, he didn’t see my message until the morning. 
 

I try to let clients know; SENSE OF URGENCY. I’m normally not a rushed person, and my days are fairly relaxed. It’s not that I’m impatient on their response, but when I’m working on HOTEL time, or I’m driving between places…I don’t have time for back and forth messages or half ass responses. 
 

I probably come off angry sometimes (maybe even all the time lol) when I discuss certain situations. But people have to understand when you’re being limited on time by outside forces, the urgency for a plan/reply is real. It’s not angry, it’s just emphasizing something that doesn’t seem to resonate with the vast majority. Escort encounters aren’t like hookup apps, there’s a different dynamic. We’re not always looking at the exact same time.
 

In this case, I almost missed the guy because the hotel wouldn’t let me check out later than 1 pm without an extra charge. And he had somewhere to be at 2. And I originally wanted him to come to my hotel, but I then had to leave and go to his place: If we would have settled all the details the DAY PRIOR HINT HINT ADVANCE NOTICE, I could have been ready to meet him at 10:30 or 11, and still had at least an hour left to checkout.

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[Jamie21]

At the moment I have clients booked in for July. One of those booked it 2 months ago. Those guys plan ahead! 🙂

[56harrisond]

 

[BuffaloKyle]

15 minutes ago, Jamie21 said:

At the moment I have clients booked in for July. One of those booked it 2 months ago. Those guys plan ahead! 🙂

Wow, so how understanding would you be if tomorrow he said my plans have changed can I cancel? Like how close to the actual meetup day would you be ok with a cancellation?

[Jamie21]

8 minutes ago, BuffaloKyle said:

Wow, so how understanding would you be if tomorrow he said my plans have changed can I cancel? Like how close to the actual meetup day would you be ok with a cancellation?

It would be fine, he can do that. Usually people that book that far in advance are serious and they plan very well so it’s unlikely they’ll cancel unless their travel plans change.

Obviously the he earlier I know the better. If he cancelled an hour before I’d be pissed of course but to counter that happening I always message clients the day before the session to make sure they are still all ok and if it’s a new client I’ll also message on the day with “see you later” as a further reminder. If I don’t get a response to that (or at least see that it’s been read) then I’ll follow up with a message to check he’s still ok. If those pre meeting messages are ignored and it’s a new client then I’ll cancel it and assume he won’t show. 

My time waster radar is highly tuned now so I can usually sift out these types before it even gets to a booking being made. Most of these are the ones who like the idea of a session (usually when they’re horny) and so they book it ….but then when it comes to the day of the session they get anxious and either don’t show or they come up with some excuse to cancel.

The pre meeting reminder messages I send tends to be effective with these guys. Plus they tend to try again a year or so later (they forget they were in contact!) but I keep the records so I know they got cold feet previously. There’s a few like that who clearly build up the horn to book a session every year or so and then who cancel it with some excuse when the reality hits home! I find it amusing because when they book they’re clearly running some fantasy in their head “I want you to do x and x to me, I want to have y and z etc….I’m definitely going to be a regular…I love big cocks, I’m very tight etc etc”. Then the day before they message with “sorry Jamie my mother’s cat died…my car has a flat tyre…I’ve got Covid…I’ll rebook soon etc”. Then I hear nothing from him for a year or so until it happens again 😂. 
 

[+ Pensant]

I’ve been successful with a few days’ notice locally and a week or two when traveling. If I’m headed to Europe, I begin the dialogue earlier; e.g., I’ve planned a session with a beautiful blonde Ukrainian ballerino in Prague in early May.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

If the provider keeps a busy travel schedule, sooner than later is a smart move.

[+ keroscenefire]

I honestly think it's not a bad idea to both plan ahead and have a couple back-up choices for a last minute meet. Unfortunately, I have had several instances of providers cancelling on me last minute after I had planned in advance to meet with them while travelling. In many cases, I found some very good providers as last minute replacements. 

My recommendation: Definitely plan ahead for that one guy you really have your eyes on and hopefully it'll work out. But look at maybe 2-3 other guys (particualrly if they have available now on) and just have them in mind in case you need to find a last-minute back up. 

[Jarrod_Uncut]

21 minutes ago, keroscenefire said:

I honestly think it's not a bad idea to both plan ahead and have a couple back-up choices for a last minute meet. Unfortunately, I have had several instances of providers cancelling on me last minute after I had planned in advance to meet with them while travelling. In many cases, I found some very good providers as last minute replacements. 

My recommendation: Definitely plan ahead for that one guy you really have your eyes on and hopefully it'll work out. But look at maybe 2-3 other guys (particualrly if they have available now on) and just have them in mind in case you need to find a last-minute back up. 

And just so people know, I’m sure by “in mind”, doesn’t mean call them all within  the same time? Sometimes I’ve had people contact, maybe I stepped out the room without my phone and didn’t notice the message until I went to do my routine phone check (also having two separate phones is very easy for it to happen). If I reach back out and they say they’ve “called someone else” and it hasn’t even been 30 minutes to an hour, not cool.

[Jarrod_Uncut]

9 hours ago, Jamie21 said:

There’s a few like that who clearly build up the horn to book a session every year or so and then who cancel it with some excuse when the reality hits home! I find it amusing. Then I hear nothing from him for a year or so until it happens again 😂. 
 

Nah, see…lately I’ve moved to the 1 chance cancellation. Especially if like the other day; dude sends me pictures, an elaborate text about wanting to meet, and then saying “outcall to a hotel in (insert city but with no hotel name). Then, goes ghost or cancel? I’ll give them a 2nd chance; if they send a cancellation fee. But if they then proceed to decline the request (either thru cash app/venmo), they’re blocked. 

I don’t need someone getting the opportunity to not be reliable more than once. Once is enough as it is. And if they try to slide thru a 2nd time later, they will be reminded. 

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[Jamie21]

1 hour ago, Jarrod_Uncut said:

Nah, see…lately I’ve moved to the 1 chance cancellation. Especially if like the other day; dude sends me pictures, an elaborate text about wanting to meet, and then saying “outcall to a hotel in (insert city but with no hotel name). Then, goes ghost or cancel? I’ll give them a 2nd chance; if they send a cancellation fee. But if they then proceed to decline the request (either thru cash app/venmo), they’re blocked. 

I don’t need someone getting the opportunity to not be reliable more than once. Once is enough as it is. And if they try to slide thru a 2nd time later, they will be reminded. 

You’re very strict! I understand why given the model you operate. My model is different so I can go along with it a few times because it doesn’t cause me any hassle (they cancel before the day so I’m not incurring costs etc. By the third time they cancel with some lame excuse I usually say to them that if they’re anxious then to talk to me.

These clients tend to be inhibited, usually not out, often exploring their sexuality. Their chat reveals they have a lot of misconceptions about gay or bi sex. I don’t want to be difficult to them; one day they might actually pluck up the courage to come for a session and that would be fantastic for them. I like helping clients with their sexuality and helping them to be comfortable with their sexuality. Those kind of clients are lovely because they’re so appreciative of what you do for them. 

[Jarrod_Uncut]

31 minutes ago, Jamie21 said:

You’re very strict! I understand why given the model you operate. My model is different so I can go along with it a few times because it doesn’t cause me any hassle (they cancel before the day so I’m not incurring costs etc. By the third time they cancel with some lame excuse I usually say to them that if they’re anxious then to talk to me.

These clients tend to be inhibited, usually not out, often exploring their sexuality. Their chat reveals they have a lot of misconceptions about gay or bi sex. I don’t want to be difficult to them; one day they might actually pluck up the courage to come for a session and that would be fantastic for them. I like helping clients with their sexuality and helping them to be comfortable with their sexuality. Those kind of clients are lovely because they’re so appreciative of what you do for them. 

Awe, sounds so romantic…and it’s true some are exploring. However, my thing is: if they’re going a whole year in between, and then doing it again a year later. And the same thing the following year: where does it end?

On top of that, some of the ones I’ve comes across will often want to book it last minute/short notice. When I suggest that I can meet at a certain time instead/need more notice, they just ignore it. Then months later do it again and contact me like they never hit me up before previously.

I deal with that a lot in Midwest USA area where I market, and I found the best way to cut down on that behavior was to just remove my phone number from my ads. If they aren’t registered clients to the site, my number doesn’t appear. They have to be willing to do some work and click/read my ad, versus going straight to contact number. Hasn’t fully resolved all but, I’m so happy now that I don’t wake up to a phone full of messages in the morning, from guys who aren’t willing to coordinate or go thru with a visit.

On top of that, many of them aren’t new as you may think. Especially in America. I have seen bi-curious guys before, who have never met a provider or guy period. But they go thru everything without the added fantastical drama.

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[Jamie21]

1 hour ago, Jarrod_Uncut said:

On top of that, many of them aren’t new as you may think. Especially in America.

Wow and I believed them all when they said they were virgins. 

[JamesB]

When I travel, I typically reach out about a week in advance, and I always have a backup plan, a couple of other providers just in case something happens with my first choice. By the way, it's never a good idea to disclose to a backup provider that they weren't your initial preference.

[Archangel]

I’ve actually had some terrible experiences trying to book ahead. And some folks on this site have also tried explain to me why it was my fault for wanting to book ahead.

I prefer to book ahead for two reasons, among many. 1) I’m a planner and need to accommodate work schedules and 2) I need to also have a cushion financially. It’s point 2) right now that’s kept me from hiring for a few

months now…Health bills are real…

[marylander1940]

18 hours ago, GCMan said:

I only hire when I travel. I generally schedule my travel 4-6 weeks in advance. Would escorts prefer to schedule 4-6 weeks out, or 4-6 days or 4-6 hours? I’m pretty new to this so I’m trying to understand preferences. I like scheduling far in advance to ensure my preferred providers. But is that practice OK? Thanks!

That's way too early and many escorts would take it with a grain of salt. 

You should always confirm when you get to town to remind them about the appointment. 

 

[Simon Suraci]

45 minutes ago, marylander1940 said:

You should always confirm when you get to town to remind them about the appointment.

Nothing wrong with booking ahead, but I agree it’s wise to check in a day or two before your appointment to confirm, and maybe even the day-of.

I’m organized so I don’t need this, but I appreciate clients who check in. It shows me they are serious about following through. It takes almost no time to confirm.

When you book a session with me, you can count on me to show up and be ready. The rare case I have an issue I will reach out to the client to delay, reschedule, or cancel. Those are exceptions, not the rule. Like when my Airbnb host made me vacate partway through a weeklong stay (another story).

[marylander1940]

3 minutes ago, Simon Suraci said:

Nothing wrong with booking ahead, but I agree it’s wise to check in a day or two before your appointment to confirm, and maybe even the day-of.

I’m organized so I don’t need this, but I appreciate clients who check in. It shows me they are serious about following through. It takes almost no time to confirm.

When you book a session with me, you can count on me to show up and be ready. The rare case I have an issue I will reach out to the client to delay, reschedule, or cancel. Those are exceptions, not the rule. Like when my Airbnb host made me vacate partway through a weeklong stay (another story).

Agreed and I never said there was anything wrong about it but most providers know trips get cancelled, etc.