Asking for face pics

[+ Pensant]

I know this subject has been covered ad nauseum, but I wanted to share my response to a hottie who’s now asked twice for a pic.

”I’m a potential client who doesn’t send pics to strangers. This isn’t Grindr; it’s Rentmen.”

[+ azdr0710]

(**azdr bookmarks this thread for use in future forum inquiries about face picture requests and resulting hand-wringing and agonizing**)   

[marylander1940]

9 hours ago, Pensant said:

I know this subject has been covered ad nauseum, but I wanted to share my response to a hottie who’s now asked twice for a pic.

”I’m a potential client who doesn’t send pics to strangers. This isn’t Grindr; it’s Rentmen.”

Move on!

sooner or later he'll realized it's not a good policy for this kind of business. 

[soloyo215]

9 hours ago, Pensant said:

I know this subject has been covered ad nauseum, but I wanted to share my response to a hottie who’s now asked twice for a pic.

”I’m a potential client who doesn’t send pics to strangers. This isn’t Grindr; it’s Rentmen.”

I'd be curious about what his reply is, including getting ghosted. Please, do tell.

[+ Pensant]

8 minutes ago, soloyo215 said:

I'd be curious about what his reply is, including getting ghosted. Please, do tell.

His response: Okay, I am also willing to FaceTime prior to meet up, it’s for both sides (sic) safety.🤞

[soloyo215]

1 minute ago, Pensant said:

His response: Okay, I am also willing to FaceTime prior to meet up, it’s for both sides (sic) safety.🤞

So he still wants to see you before booking, for "safety". Interesting. He seems smart.

[+ Pensant]

No doubt; but he’s a novice and I don’t want to go through his interview process. He’s like my 5th choice in Seattle right now.

[+ KensingtonHomo]

As a client, I sometimes feel like other clients minimize an escort's concern for safety. Sure, a texted face pic could be BS and doesn't guarantee safety. But, how many of us we welcome a stranger into our home or hotel room sight unseen? Of course, we don't want to feel like a provider is screening us out (though I often think that's for the best), but I'm sure providers also get cat fished and deal with nutty clients. So perhaps we can all be a bit more empathic? 

[+ Pensant]

10 hours ago, KensingtonHomo said:

But, how many of us we welcome a stranger into our home or hotel room sight unseen?

True, though I planned to host as I always do.

[+ KensingtonHomo]

10 minutes ago, Pensant said:

True, though I planned to host as I always do.

Sure, but would you enter a home of someone you don’t know? Especially another man? Again, I’m not saying some providers aren’t screening and I do respect people’s desire for discretion. But if I put myself in a provider’s position, I’m confident I’d want to know who is coming over or who I am visiting. Plus, unless the client is using a burner phone, a provider can easily find out your name, address, etc. 

[DWnyc]

17 hours ago, marylander1940 said:

sooner or later he'll realized it's not a good policy for this kind of business. 

No because there will be enough people including in this forum validating the ask saying it’s a providers right etc 

 

[marylander1940]

5 hours ago, DWnyc said:

No because there will be enough people including in this forum validating the ask saying it’s a providers right etc 

 

Do you send your pics to providers? 

[DWnyc]

7 minutes ago, marylander1940 said:

Do you send your pics to providers? 

As a rule no.

 

[ICTJOCK]

I like your response,  but is he wanting to evaluate you or just gain confidence as to who you are before a booking?

Asking questions isn't a bad idea,  from either party.   The better each knows the other before meeting the better the result may be.

Edited January 7, 2024 by ICTJOCK

[+ SirBillybob]

I give to get; they’ll get what they see. The laxity of escorts’ screening never ceases to amaze. I find that most Grindr images sent directly thru chat are spread cheeks not subject to facial recognition or reputation-doxxing risk, so I don’t quite grasp the comparison to Rentmen reference. 

Edited January 7, 2024 by SirBillybob

[Jeff Meuller]

I had one do this recently in Berlin. Guy was hot, my type and was highly rated. It's a pain for me to find a suitable picture so usually I am not motivated to comply but this time I did. He was very good, no attitude and met all expectations. I had to meant to ask him why he asked for a photo but forgot about it in the moment.

 

[TorontoDrew]

I've been asked for a pic once...by a provider who doesn't share his.

[marylander1940]

21 hours ago, TorontoDrew said:

I've been asked for a pic once...by a provider who doesn't share his.

[+ DrownedBoy]

On 1/9/2024 at 10:13 AM, TorontoDrew said:

I've been asked for a pic once...by a provider who doesn't share his.

That was bad enough when I encountered it on Grindr.

Guess they were selling a "surprise " session. 

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

On 1/5/2024 at 8:54 PM, Pensant said:

I know this subject has been covered ad nauseum, but I wanted to share my response to a hottie who’s now asked twice for a pic.

”I’m a potential client who doesn’t send pics to strangers. This isn’t Grindr; it’s Rentmen.”

Love it!

[Patrocles]

Red flag, or NBD?

[Nue2thegame]

What kind of “therapist”?

[Patrocles]

Massage

[Pd1_jap]

1 hour ago, Patrocles said:

Red flag, or NBD?

Not clear cut, totally depends on the context. 

Some guys want to screen out people they work with/know IRL. Some are picky and only want hot clients. In the end you as the client get to decide how much you disclose. 

I would never send pics to a guy that wasn't reviewed or discussed here. Who knows who is on the other end. Sextortion is real. 

[Nue2thegame]

Some say it’s a security precaution, which is dubious   If things go south, they know who to go look for. Alternatively, they may use it to screen clients for whatever parameters they are looking for or wish to exclude. Once a photo is sent, it’s permanently in the cybersphere. I’ve almost never done it and have very rarely been asked for one. It’s a red flag for me.