First time hiring a provider

[badger]

Hi, I'm new here, just set up my first appointment with an escort. Will be seeing him tomorrow. In our initial message exchange, he asked what I was interested in. I didn't know how much I should go into it, so I gave him some basic info. That I'm a transmasc bottom, looking for aggressive masc top to push me around, tell me what to do, etc. We agreed to meet tomorrow.. should I offer more info? Or pics/videos of myself? Or.. just wait and meet him?

[liubit]

My advice is, don’t overthink it, answer questions he might ask before the meeting, go with the flow once he gets there and ENJOY yourself. Remember that this is supposed to be FUN…and it is.

Believe me, I have been hiring for 30+years. Have a great time with your man, @badger 

Edited December 26, 2023 by liubit

[+ azdr0710]

you don't need to send him pictures or video as long as you've described yourself accurately.....all sounds set as long as you've come to an agreement on the cost, meet place and time, and other logistics.....don't pre-pay or send a deposit, but tell him you'll pay at the end if he wonders (you may need to flash the money at the beginning to appease any worries he may express)......smile, talk slowly, look him in the eye, firm handshake, fun and kick-back time.......don't send too many giddy texts!!.....a quick reconfirmation at some point tomorrow, then let him do the texting if he's coming to you......if going to him, one "here" text to him and he'll let you know if he's ready........some small talk, then offer to massage him a bit, then let him start pushing you around (if he hasn't started already)......I assume you picked somebody who is comfortable and experienced with what you want to happen......if you want more advice for a newbie.......

 

https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/142802-etiquette-for-initial-communication/

https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/130365-caveats-in-hiring-please-contribute/

https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/83821-advice-for-a-newbie-please/

https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/103088-newbie-question/

https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/13389-recommendations-for-newbie/

Edited December 26, 2023 by azdr0710

[badger]

Thanks for all the links, I appreciate it! It's funny, I've got lots of experience meeting strangers for hookups and am generally super comfortable, know what to do, etc, but this is a new experience and suddenly I feel like I don't know what to do lol

[BuffaloKyle]

It's weird and exciting when you first hire someone but be sure to have fun! Let him know if there's something you wanna do. He can't read your mind remember. You're paying so don't be afraid to direct the session they way you'd like. And let us know how it goes afterwards on here and if you'd like to share who it is after that's great so other members can know if he's a good hire or not. This forum is a great resource to find info on providers and make sure they deliver a good time. Be sure you have done a search on here too for who you're hiring so you know he's for real and doesn't have any red flags.

[Nodakman]

You all are lifesavers for us newbies!!! 

[nate_sf]

On 12/25/2023 at 8:49 PM, badger said:

Thanks for all the links, I appreciate it! It's funny, I've got lots of experience meeting strangers for hookups and am generally super comfortable, know what to do, etc, but this is a new experience and suddenly I feel like I don't know what to do lol

The advantage of a hire vs a hookup is you can be more direct if you’d like. He’s there to provide you a service, on your terms. If he walks in the door and you want to jump his bones right then and there, you can do it! Or if you want to take it slow, chat and maybe have a drink first, that’s your call too. You don’t need to be too worried about what he might think the way you might with a hookup.
 

Of course don’t be a jerk since he’s a person too, but don’t be afraid to ask for what you’d like. 

[BuffaloKyle]

Let us know how it went @badger! He hasn't logged on since the day of his appt. I hope he's ok!

[badger]

On 1/2/2024 at 2:16 PM, BuffaloKyle said:

Let us know how it went @badger! He hasn't logged on since the day of his appt. I hope he's ok!

Yes hi! I'm ok! That first interaction wasn't great. It wasn't horrible, but it wasn't what I was looking for (or paying for!)

But I decided to try again with someone else a few weeks later and had an amazing time with that guy. I ended up seeing him several times.

I've hired a couple of people since I first posted and all but the first have been amazing. I'm meeting someone new tomorrow actually

[BuffaloKyle]

7 minutes ago, badger said:

Yes hi! I'm ok! That first interaction wasn't great. It wasn't horrible, but it wasn't what I was looking for (or paying for!)

But I decided to try again with someone else a few weeks later and had an amazing time with that guy. I ended up seeing him several times.

I've hired a couple of people since I first posted and all but the first have been amazing. I'm meeting someone new tomorrow actually

Nice! Glad to hear you've had mostly amazing experiences!

[CuriousByNature]

14 hours ago, badger said:

Yes hi! I'm ok! That first interaction wasn't great. It wasn't horrible, but it wasn't what I was looking for (or paying for!)

But I decided to try again with someone else a few weeks later and had an amazing time with that guy. I ended up seeing him several times.

I've hired a couple of people since I first posted and all but the first have been amazing. I'm meeting someone new tomorrow actually

Are you willing to share the links of those you were happy to meet?

 

[jmichaeliii]

I've been hiring for about a year.  Up to that first hire, I'd never done anything with a guy before, only in my mind.

I was so nervous in that first encounter and he knew it.  He went out of his way to put me at ease provide a great time.  He is now a regular for me and I see him monthly.  I admitted all this to him and thanked him for how he handled it.

Now that we know,  like and trust each other, there is very little we don't do.   I will continue to hire him as long as it is possible.

[+ ThroatCummer]

On 12/25/2023 at 11:49 PM, badger said:

Thanks for all the links, I appreciate it! It's funny, I've got lots of experience meeting strangers for hookups and am generally super comfortable, know what to do, etc, but this is a new experience and suddenly I feel like I don't know what to do lol

Think of him as a long lost friend you haven't seen in forever. Ask him about himself a little too -- he is a person with his own struggles, and issues, and family, and work. I find if you take a small interest in knowing them as a person, that puts them at ease because you see them as human.  Of course, they won't share details and everything, but just asking is what counts. 

 

HAVE FUN!

[+ ThroatCummer]

Oh wow, I didn't read the whole thread. Glad you found a few others. Like any business or interaction, sometimes it just isn't the right fit and that's okay. Glad you didn't let that first experience turn you off from trying again because as you have found out, they're out there.  For me, I had to go through three guys at first before I found that "magic" connection and that changed my world. Years later, I still hire him and engage and we talk about the dumbest stuff (like the Orville episode with Topa, because he's even a bigger Star Trek geek than me).  lol. 

[badger]

On 5/7/2024 at 2:34 PM, CuriousByNature said:

Are you willing to share the links of those you were happy to meet?

 

Sure! Dominik Ward and Donnato, both from rentmen

[BuffaloKyle]

19 minutes ago, badger said:

Sure! Dominik Ward and Donnato, both from rentmen

https://rent.men/DominikWard

https://rent.men/DONNATO

 

[NYXboy]

My advice is - hire someone with plenty of reviews, someone who does NOT do PNP.

 

Secondly, give as much information about what it is you want. although providers are very experienced in the field, they are not mind readers - the more you tell them about what you want, what you don like - the better your experience will be!  I think this is even more vital in circumstances where you are wanting him to be aggressive with you - for eg. what do you mean by aggressive? do you want to be thrown around, slapped? hair pulled? spat on?  spanked? or just bossed around verbally - tell him what are you limits, as well as your desires. 

 

The more open and honest you are, the more likely you will get what you want.  I would be shocked if you are asking for something they haven't already heard! 

 

ENJOY!!!!!

[Johnrom]

Definitely.  It’s all about clear communication.  No one is a mind reader. That is also why I like establishing a reporter with a masseur and becoming a regular client.  Makes life so much easier for both parties.  Plus lets you build respect and friendship along with having a great time !  Nothing like a solid connection which builds over time. 

[jmichaeliii]

34 minutes ago, Johnrom said:

Definitely.  It’s all about clear communication.  No one is a mind reader. That is also why I like establishing a reporter with a masseur and becoming a regular client.  Makes life so much easier for both parties.  Plus lets you build respect and friendship along with having a great time !  Nothing like a solid connection which builds over time. 

So true.  I have a provider I have been seeing for a year..a hire from Rent Masseur.   What started as a massage session has evolved into something way more than I bet many escorts provide.  It's almost like an out of body experience it's so good...and gets better every time.  

After the session is over, we can relax and talk about what's going on in our lives and other stuff. We are very different people in our personal lives, but that doesn't mean we can't be friends.  I have much respect and appreciation for him because I was nervous as can be with my first hire, and he is as sexy as they come, and he has always treated me wonderfully.

If he ever gives up or leaves the area, he would be greatly missed.  

[socurious]

The first time I hired was during the pandemic. It took me several month to finally meet with the escort I liked. Poor guy. I flaked so many times after contacting him because of my nerviousness... 

The day I met him I was so nervious that I decided to have a few drinks before meeting him. It was still awkward. I couldn't stop acting goofy the whole time. At the end I couldn't fuck him like I wanted. But we indeed had a decent session ( I'm sure he enjoyed it because the guy cum right away almost without touching). He was a very handsome muscle latino specimen very popular on RM. It's funny because he wanted to hookup with me recently and even before I hired him. He was married though.

Edited Saturday at 11:29 PM by socurious