First time hiring a provider

[badger]

Hi, I'm new here, just set up my first appointment with an escort. Will be seeing him tomorrow. In our initial message exchange, he asked what I was interested in. I didn't know how much I should go into it, so I gave him some basic info. That I'm a transmasc bottom, looking for aggressive masc top to push me around, tell me what to do, etc. We agreed to meet tomorrow.. should I offer more info? Or pics/videos of myself? Or.. just wait and meet him?

[liubit]

My advice is, don’t overthink it, answer questions he might ask before the meeting, go with the flow once he gets there and ENJOY yourself. Remember that this is supposed to be FUN…and it is.

Believe me, I have been hiring for 30+years. Have a great time with your man, @badger 

Edited December 26, 2023 by liubit

[+ azdr0710]

you don't need to send him pictures or video as long as you've described yourself accurately.....all sounds set as long as you've come to an agreement on the cost, meet place and time, and other logistics.....don't pre-pay or send a deposit, but tell him you'll pay at the end if he wonders (you may need to flash the money at the beginning to appease any worries he may express)......smile, talk slowly, look him in the eye, firm handshake, fun and kick-back time.......don't send too many giddy texts!!.....a quick reconfirmation at some point tomorrow, then let him do the texting if he's coming to you......if going to him, one "here" text to him and he'll let you know if he's ready........some small talk, then offer to massage him a bit, then let him start pushing you around (if he hasn't started already)......I assume you picked somebody who is comfortable and experienced with what you want to happen......if you want more advice for a newbie.......

 

https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/142802-etiquette-for-initial-communication/

https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/130365-caveats-in-hiring-please-contribute/

https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/83821-advice-for-a-newbie-please/

https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/103088-newbie-question/

https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/13389-recommendations-for-newbie/

Edited December 26, 2023 by azdr0710

[badger]

Thanks for all the links, I appreciate it! It's funny, I've got lots of experience meeting strangers for hookups and am generally super comfortable, know what to do, etc, but this is a new experience and suddenly I feel like I don't know what to do lol

[BuffaloKyle]

It's weird and exciting when you first hire someone but be sure to have fun! Let him know if there's something you wanna do. He can't read your mind remember. You're paying so don't be afraid to direct the session they way you'd like. And let us know how it goes afterwards on here and if you'd like to share who it is after that's great so other members can know if he's a good hire or not. This forum is a great resource to find info on providers and make sure they deliver a good time. Be sure you have done a search on here too for who you're hiring so you know he's for real and doesn't have any red flags.

[Nodakman]

You all are lifesavers for us newbies!!! 

[nate_sf]

On 12/25/2023 at 8:49 PM, badger said:

Thanks for all the links, I appreciate it! It's funny, I've got lots of experience meeting strangers for hookups and am generally super comfortable, know what to do, etc, but this is a new experience and suddenly I feel like I don't know what to do lol

The advantage of a hire vs a hookup is you can be more direct if you’d like. He’s there to provide you a service, on your terms. If he walks in the door and you want to jump his bones right then and there, you can do it! Or if you want to take it slow, chat and maybe have a drink first, that’s your call too. You don’t need to be too worried about what he might think the way you might with a hookup.
 

Of course don’t be a jerk since he’s a person too, but don’t be afraid to ask for what you’d like. 

[BuffaloKyle]

Let us know how it went @badger! He hasn't logged on since the day of his appt. I hope he's ok!