Hosting providers at home

[Bmxman]

I’m tempted to host a seemingly cool and reputable (per online reviews and presence) provider at my home for an hour or two. He’ll be in town but can’t host. How do the hobbyists on here feel about hosting first-time encounters in your own home vs booking a room at a hotel in your hometown? Never hosted before and I want to check in on anything I may not be considering. Thanks all!

[ICTJOCK]

Before becoming a member of this site,  I would discourage it,  but I think a relevant review of all facts is in order and making the right decision.     I'd just make sure a trusted friend is aware of your visitor  and take defensive steps in your home.  (no money out or wallets and any jewelry or valuables secured.

 

[Marc in Calif]

17 minutes ago, Bmxman said:

I’m tempted to host a seemingly cool and reputable (per online reviews and presence) provider at my home for an hour or two. He’ll be in town but can’t host. How do the hobbyists on here feel about hosting first-time encounters in your own home vs booking a room at a hotel in your hometown? Never hosted before and I want to check in on anything I may not be considering. Thanks all!

Try using the site/app Day Use. You can book a room at a local hotel for four hours or less. It's much easier and less stressful than inviting a stranger into your home -- and especially giving him your address. And the hotel room rate is much less expensive than booking for a full 24 hours.

Edited September 28, 2023 by Marc in Calif

[KrisParr]

Don’t, just don’t. Lots of reasons. I’d suggest $pending the money on a hotel (as noted) and if it goes well, the chemistry is right, etc., then maybe the next visit. But never the first. I’ve been hiring masseurs for 25+ years and could write a book.

[+ DrownedBoy]

2 hours ago, ICTJOCK said:

Before becoming a member of this site,  I would discourage it,  but I think a relevant review of all facts is in order and making the right decision.     I'd just make sure a trusted friend is aware of your visitor  and take defensive steps in your home.  (no money out or wallets and any jewelry or valuables secured.

 

This. I personally find at-home visits to be safer. Probably because anyone walking into my condo walks directly in front of a clearly visible security camera.

If a provider is well-reviewed and such, and has a large number of such votes, it's probably safe. But yes - for Christ's sake - hide your wallet and stuff. And keep at least your phone handy - most would run the moment you dial 911.

I would also keep a means of defense nearby, but don't let the provider see it, or they might get freaked out.

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

While I've frequently hosted in my home, I've only hosted five or six first-time providers.  I think it is no different than hosting someone in my hotel room when traveling and follow the same security standards as I would then.  Always use the peep hole or side window to make sure they match a photo before opening the door, make sure they are alone, and don't have valuables sitting out where they can be seen.  In addition, I don't drink any alcohol with this new person to help me remain alert to the situation.  

As to other things, I make sure my place is tidy, including the front porch.  (Since I go through the garage 99% of the time for my personal use, I've had guests arrive to find cobwebs across the front door, and they were not Halloween decorations.)   I also assume that he will want to use the bathroom before we meet to quickly freshen up.  Also I don't know that it is needed, but I always assume that the escort may want a shower afterwards and have fresh towels in the bathroom for him.  I also have bottled water on hand to offer after the session.

 

[maninsoma]

I used to host a lot when I was a renter.  After I bought my place I started preferring to do outcalls. 

[Simon Suraci]

I had no problems hosting at my apartment in Dallas. It helped that the building was secure, requiring a fob for access to the lobby and elevator. Clients couldn’t come up to my door without me first escorting them from the lobby up the elevator.

In San Diego, I host at a place I rent for work only. I feel better not having clients at the home I own. The primary reasons for the separation are practical. I live in a more remote part of the county and fewer clients are in that area or willing to travel to that area. Also, the quality of clients in that area is much lower, on average. My studio location attracts much higher quantity and quality of clients, including travelers since it’s a lot easier to get to from the areas travelers tend to stay. 

One of my neighbors is a creep and I know he would be taking note of the comings and goings. The last thing I need is him reporting something.

[BuffaloKyle]

I prefer hosting at my home when I'm able. Just more comfortable for me. But I also follow the basic rules everyone laid out. I put all my valuables away and the only cash I have laying out is the fee. And besides letting the provider use the bathroom I'm always with them. It's pretty doable as well because the max time I hire for is never more than two hours.

[ICTJOCK]

I like much of what I have heard here.   I will certainly consider the "incall"  at home.    If I have worked with the client over a period of time and have a positive synergy,  I can see where this can be a very valid answer.

[+ KensingtonHomo]

We generally host and prefer it. The distinction is that as a couple we outnumber the provider. That doesn't mean nothing bad could happen but I am generally concerned that the provider is comfortable. 

That said, I do think it is wise for anyone hosting a provider, especially for the first time, to take some precautions. 

[marylander1940]

On 9/28/2023 at 3:28 PM, Bmxman said:

I’m tempted to host a seemingly cool and reputable (per online reviews and presence) provider at my home for an hour or two. He’ll be in town but can’t host. How do the hobbyists on here feel about hosting first-time encounters in your own home vs booking a room at a hotel in your hometown? Never hosted before and I want to check in on anything I may not be considering. Thanks all!

I have a feeling you're NOT comfortable with hosting someone at your home at least for the first encounter. As pointed by @Marc in Calif  I would suggest you get a hotel room in order to fully enjoy the encounter. 

[marylander1940]

On 9/30/2023 at 5:02 PM, BuffaloKyle said:

I prefer hosting at my home when I'm able. Just more comfortable for me. But I also follow the basic rules everyone laid out. I put all my valuables away and the only cash I have laying out is the fee. And besides letting the provider use the bathroom I'm always with them. It's pretty doable as well because the max time I hire for is never more than two hours.

Agreed, just plain old  common sense while hosting a stranger from Grindr or in this case Rentmen. 

[blck37]

99% would prefer to host at home - just more comfortable for me. Only events that wpuld warrant a hotel booking is if i am hosting an orgy. But i am just that careless so not a good example to follow LOL

[+ DrownedBoy]

3 hours ago, marylander1940 said:

Agreed, just plain old  common sense while hosting a stranger from Grindr or in this case Rentmen. 

Oh, I'd trust someone from RentMen a lot more than I'd trust someone from Grindr. We all have our horror stories.

[marylander1940]

55 minutes ago, DrownedBoy said:

Oh, I'd trust someone from RentMen a lot more than I'd trust someone from Grindr. We all have our horror stories.

Without a doubt! At least RM has their CC saved!

[Guest]

On 9/28/2023 at 12:28 PM, Bmxman said:

seemingly cool and reputable (per online reviews and presence

That should quell most anxiety from the thought of bringing a man of the night into your home ( from the internet 😜 ) Again, someone with a good reputation to keep and protect should not be as much as of a concern. I'm in peoples homes 99% of the time.  
I don't host... my home is my home and nothing related to  my "professional" life. It's how I've kept all the boxes organized all these years.... at least in my case, it has served me well. 

Edited October 4, 2023 by Vin_Marco

[Jamie21]

I never see clients at home. I like to keep it separate. I use a studio I rent for seeing clients, or visit them in an outcall. Where I live isn’t somewhere clients would easily visit. My work studio is extremely convenient for clients because it’s in central London. 

I’ve never felt unsafe, probably because I’d decline a client if I got a sense that they were threatening. I’m also very aware of my surroundings and able to defend myself (martial arts). That gives me a degree of confidence, and a better ability to assess risk. 

I think it also helps that I’m working in an environment where the work is not unlawful. If sex work was unlawful here then I think there would be more risk for the sex worker. If I’m in trouble I’ve recourse to the police. That is less of an option if you’re working at something that’s prohibited. 
 

Edited October 4, 2023 by Jamie21

[+ BobPS]

I think a lot of it is just common sense. I’ve never had a problem hosting, but I’ve always checked out the provider first. If you’re hiring, talk to the person, and look at their reviews. I can learn more about a person in a five minute phone conversation that I can in endless texts and emails. Regarding  Grinder and the like, first meeting should be for coffee and take it from there. Several friends of mine have been drugged and had their identity stolen because of bad hook ups, caused by the fact that all their blood was in their dick and not their brain.The same goes to bars. If you are seen  driving up in an expensive car and wearing expensive clothes/jewelry, you’re a target. I am saying this as a MOCA. They are not interested in me because of my youthful good looks, ripped physique and big dick.

Edited October 5, 2023 by BobPS

[Guest]

26 minutes ago, BobPS said:

I think a lot of it is just common sense. I’ve never had a problem hosting, but I’ve always checked out the provider first. If you’re hiring, talk to the person, and look at their reviews. I can learn more about a person in a five minute phone conversation that I can in endless texts and emails. Regarding  Grinder and the like, first meeting should be for coffee and take it from there. Several friends of mine have been drugged and had their identity stolen because of bad hook ups, caused by the fact that all their blood was in their dick and not their brain.The same goes to bars. If you are seen  driving up in an expensive car and wearing expensive clothes/jewelry, you’re a target. I am saying this as a MOCA. They are not interested in me because of my youthful good looks, ripped physique and big dick.

Oh, I beg to differ 🤪 you're exceedingly good looking and handsome. A tall drink of water 😘 Sweet, kind and smart! 

[BuffaloKyle]

I posted this on another thread that a local provider by me does not like to host unless absolutely necessary. He told me he doesn't like every client to know where he lives and then it's a little unsettling to give out his address to potential clients and then to get ghosted. Makes sense!

[+ BobPS]

8 minutes ago, BuffaloKyle said:

I posted this on another thread that a local provider by me does not like to host unless absolutely necessary. He told me he doesn't like every client to know where he lives and then it's a little unsettling to give out his address to potential clients and then to get ghosted. Makes sense!

It works both ways!

[rvwnsd]

I host first-time playdates in my home all the time without issue. 

[+ Pensant]

Yep, I host at my places. Never had an issue. I do the necessary vetting and also have a “back-up” option if things got threatening, but they’ve never even remotely reached that point. I also exude a strong “man of the house” vibe, if you know what I mean.