I have a slightly different take on the Spunk events at Monster ... I don't find the dancers pushy. I think it has the best diversity of dancers at any party. And I've had fun in the back without getting watched. And I've been more than a few times.
I don't have firsthand experience but I think BeautifulKeith on RM based out of Philly used to do wrestling vids as Mark Muscle. I bet he could provide the type of fun you (and me btw tee hee) are looking for
I once got a lapdance from him at an Adonis party and found him to be quite handy behind that curtain. He is very hot. Bodybuilder body on point. Also straight and all business