Question on "ask me" or "anything goes" bottoms on RM

[Simon Suraci]

On 12/16/2023 at 8:26 AM, Roger Smith said:

With the general prevalence of breeding in gay culture these days, it didn’t occur to me it would be so hard to find in an escort!

Really? I’m surprised. Some top clients seek out providers specifically for that fantasy, and who better to fulfill it?

I’m down to get bred, never been a problem, as long as I have notice so I can prep. My strength is topping but I never shy away tops wanting to breed me. As long as they’re respectful and paying my escort rate, all good. It’s hot fulfilling client fantasies.

My best long term clients have been flip fuckers. They usually want to breed or get bred after several rounds of back and forth. Sometimes they want me to cum somewhere else (or for me to cum somewhere else on them). Most often they want to end the main part of their session by getting bred.

Any flip fuckers looking for this fantasy, see me. I’m good at it.

[Walt]

On 9/8/2023 at 7:10 PM, DWnyc said:

What does “ask me” even mean? Is it “I’m too embarrassed to say it here” or “if you don’t ask no one needs to know” or what? Just adds an extra layer of ambiguity - which some may find exciting - and some may do to maximize clients - but I think makes things more awkward. 

I totally agree that layer upon layer of "embarrassment," "ambiguity." and "awkwardness," reside for both the provider and client within the area of "ask me" -- but you simply MUST, MUST, MUST grit you teeth, push through it, and ask EXPLICIT questions to be sure the situation will be what you want it to be. It may be hard, but you can do it.

[DznNYC]

On 9/11/2023 at 5:09 PM, dbar123 said:

If the bottom provider is doing outcall, they may not want to be dripping cum afterwards. I think the courteous thing to do is ask.

Are you kidding?  This is a badge of honor!  This is how you know it was a job well done.  💦🏆💦

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

The only escorts I don't hire are "Safe Only".  For "Ask Me" and "Anything Goes" and "blank" profiles, I let the escort know I love to be bred.  That usually is enough to establish what I'm looking for and to let the escort chime in if he's unable to do that (I can't think of anyone who hasn't complied with my request).

[+ Jamie21]

On 12/28/2023 at 5:43 PM, DznNYC said:

Are you kidding?  This is a badge of honor!  This is how you know it was a job well done.  💦🏆💦

Ha ha I only just saw this but it reminded me of a session I did for a couple of clients. I wore shorts and had somehow lost my underwear in the session. On train ride home it was leaking out. Big wet patch. I was so proud 😂

[DznNYC]

1 hour ago, Jamie21 said:

On train ride home it was leaking out. Big wet patch. I was so proud 😂

Hahahah.  I had the same experience - minus the lost undies - with a top client who I love dearly, and I believe connected with here. 

Late night train home was a *very* leaky experience  

Love a king who can give you multiple loads.  😈 

[Guest]

"Ask me" means "Consent" to me. As in, they may do it certain things if they are vibing with the client, but don't expect all options beforehand.

Definitely ask them, although it is a red flag for me. Providers shouldn't burden clients with more enquiries than they need to make.

[soloyo215]

My two cents: "Ask me" in my experience has meant willing to do things, but for an additional charge. Seems like a way of up-selling extras. I'm sure that's not the case with all, but that was my experience.

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

1 hour ago, soloyo215 said:

My two cents: "Ask me" in my experience has meant willing to do things, but for an additional charge. Seems like a way of up-selling extras. I'm sure that's not the case with all, but that was my experience.

I've experienced that too, but only south of the USA and in Europe.  The escorts I hired there told me they would bareback for extra money because they don't have access to the same level of STI prevention and treatment, and it would cost them money to treat an STI.  In the USA, I've never been quoted a hire price to forgo a condom.

To be fair, I've only hired a few dozen men outside of the USA so my sample size is small.  But I've hired hundreds of men in the USA and have never been quoted different prices with condoms or without 

Edited June 18 by Vegas_Millennial
Discaimer that I haven't hired outside of the USA as much as I've hired within the USA.

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

On 9/8/2023 at 12:16 PM, Nodalguy said:

If a bottom has "ask me" or "anything goes" safe sex status and is fine barebacking with you, is it generally the case that they are fine if you actually finish inside them, or is that a separate point to discuss?

I find that even if men are fine with playing without condoms, some have hangups about cum in the mouth, or the eyes, or the anus.  So I would always ask.

[+ sf westcoaster]

The only way to know is to ask them!

[+ Jamie21]

3 hours ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

I find that even if men are fine with playing without condoms, some have hangups about cum in the mouth, or the eyes, or the anus.  So I would always ask.

Cum in the eyes is the worst thing. I definitely don’t like it there. Anywhere else is fine. I keep eyewash handy in case it goes in my eye. One time I got poppers in my eye. this wasn’t in a client session, it was just a hookup but he was clumsy when taking poppers and happened to pour some of it in my eye. It stung so much we had to stop. So now I keep eyewash handy just in case.