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Hi.  I enjoyed being massaged by a man, in the nude.  One of the big turn-ons for me is having the masseur's cock rub my face.  Do I ask if I can suck it as in do I have his permission and health-wise is it ok?  Do I do this upfront at the start, or in the moment?  How big of a risk is it, health wise?

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4 hours ago, jetlow said:

I wonder how this is done on the other side of the pond @Jamie21

Blowing the masseur is all part of the experience in my massage. I don’t upsell it. Not all clients want it but if they do, then they’re most welcome to have a good suck and if it leads to a mouthful that’s fine too. I’ve one regular client who likes to start the massage that way. 

I think some masseurs will consider cuming in the clients mouth an extra and charge more for it. I don’t because I like to make the massage flow nicely, and many clients fantasise about a great massage that turns more sexual. So it’s a proper massage and with sexual acts included. 

That’s the difficulty of having a menu type price list with massage. The massage gets very erotic because the intention is to seduce the person on the table, slowly but inexorably building the sexual tension up to a climax.

As the massage goes on the touch becomes increasingly intimate and to have to stop and discuss a rate change part way through kills the spell. So I discuss what they’re comfortable with beforehand and the only thing that would change the price during the massage is if my client asks for more time, or if they want to top me. 

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I'm a big believer in consent and being upfront. So I will ask a new provider what an erotic massage includes, including "can I blow you?" If it's not been discussed up front, you can simply ask "may I suck you?" But doing it that way may make the provider feel pressured so I think it's best to be upfront. Also, if you really want that as part of your experience, you want a provider who includes that. 

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4 hours ago, KensingtonHomo said:

I'm a big believer in consent and being upfront. So I will ask a new provider what an erotic massage includes, including "can I blow you?" If it's not been discussed up front, you can simply ask "may I suck you?" But doing it that way may make the provider feel pressured so I think it's best to be upfront. Also, if you really want that as part of your experience, you want a provider who includes that. 

Concurring and adding to @KensingtonHomo, particularly if you are at a spa of cheap rates ($60-75 an hr neighborhood), masseurs will be inclined to do extras such doing the session nude, mutual touch & bjs only with a generous tip and please don’t think restaurant rules apply to this type of industry (they essentially make their money on tips) if you can’t afford to tip at least 100% of the session rate, is best to book independent masseurs who are likely to offer erotic massages for their standard fee.

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On 2/26/2022 at 4:34 AM, Jamie21 said:

Blowing the masseur is all part of the experience in my massage. I don’t upsell it. Not all clients want it but if they do, then they’re most welcome to have a good suck and if it leads to a mouthful that’s fine too. I’ve one regular client who likes to start the massage that way. 

I think some masseurs will consider cuming in the clients mouth an extra and charge more for it. I don’t because I like to make the massage flow nicely, and many clients fantasise about a great massage that turns more sexual. So it’s a proper massage and with sexual acts included. 

That’s the difficulty of having a menu type price list with massage. The massage gets very erotic because the intention is to seduce the person on the table, slowly but inexorably building the sexual tension up to a climax.

As the massage goes on the touch becomes increasingly intimate and to have to stop and discuss a rate change part way through kills the spell. So I discuss what they’re comfortable with beforehand and the only thing that would change the price during the massage is if my client asks for more time, or if they want to top me. 

On my experience is different when dealing with a masseur from a spa that when hiring an independent masseur, with the later you just read their profile and see if the offer erotic massage or not. At spas, particularly trying new masseurs you don't know the comfort level or if that masseur is willing to turn sensual to erotic. Offering the right tip can convince even straight masseurs but in any case I am not expecting MT or BJ as part of an actual massage.  

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Over time I have come to the conclusion that it’s best to be upfront. I usually apologize for being blunt but then proceed to state what I am interested in experiencing. It’s usually not anything out of bounds for a sensual massage as I prefer a fairly vanilla experience. That being said, if I change my mind once things get going I ask but don’t demand. Most of the time the masseur is fine with it.  One time he was fine with what I asked but didn’t feel properly prepared and would have to take a break to get himself ready. I passed and we just continued what we were doing. No problem. Always best to be respectful.

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My friend got more than he asked for when he was getting a massage in one of the asian massage parlors in Chelsea. He was so engrossed with sucking off the masseur, that after the massage and for a few week's after that, he suffered from a "stiff" hyperextended neck. His bf at home was not amused. I guess it's better than bringing home an STD. 

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Can I also point out that as many clients hate piecemeal and a la carte rates, requests like this are largely where they come from.
 

You want a massage with a side of oral and the masseur cumming on you, and so forth, but don’t want to pay an escort rate, and the provider doesn’t want to lose business. 
 

all I’m saying is that requests like this are largely where those come from. 

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9 minutes ago, Shawn Monroe said:

You want a massage with a side of oral and the masseur cumming on you, and so forth, but don’t want to pay an escort rate, and the provider doesn’t want to lose business. 

I see a lot of masseuses will offer a tiered package offering of a therapeutic, sensual, or erotic massage for 60 min, 90 min, or two hours. So if you're that client booking a one hour therapeutic massage and then trying for oral and cum that's pretty low and cheap I agree. Just pony up if you know you are going to want to go further and get the two hour erotic session. 

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On 2/25/2022 at 11:27 PM, Shawn Monroe said:

In my sessions, I sat light oral is fine. If you’re looking to get me off or if this turns into something where the massage is not the main focal point, then we need to talk about an escort rate. Of course this varies person to person. 

Unfortunately to most clients the point of getting a masseur is paying less to get off.

 

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4 hours ago, marylander1940 said:

a frequent poster even bragged about not giving a warning to the masseurs and forcing them to swallow his load. He said "if I warn them 5% would swallow so better NOT to say I'm close". His own word! 

That's borderline sexual assault. Consent to blow someone is not consent to swallow. 

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12 hours ago, cany10011 said:

Isn't it easier to just hire an escort who massages, than a masseur who escorts? That way you can avoid the a la carte pricing mentioned here. 

If you want a good massage then I’d suggest don’t hire an escort who massages. It’s likely the massage will be brief or not good. Not always of course,  but massage isn’t the main purpose of the session. And don’t expect an escort service for a massage rate. 

It’s very difficult for me as a masseur who likes to include oral, rimming, prostate massage and kissing as part of the massage (these being a natural progression of sensual massage as a seduction towards release) to draw the line at where massage work ends and escort work begins. 

I’ve some regular clients where the session is now effectively both a proper massage and a sex session which is charged only at massage rates. My fault for letting that develop. 

I’m clear with clients about what’s not on offer as part of the massage but it doesn’t stop some trying unfortunately. 

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I personally don’t initiate on the first meeting. He’s either brought it up before like “light mutual touching is ok” and from there maybe he’ll create a situation of contact. Can’t hurt to ask if unsure, at the point where it seems organic for you. 

Look for guys with dual profiles, and really read the massage page, training and experience will be described and enumerated in profile. Do 60m massage first time, keep convo and meeting discreet. (Similar to first meetup for coffee rather than dinner and a show. $$)

Say you click. If you want more, ask to schedule another visit for the extended or more mutual service, telling him you’re aware of the higher rate, and you’ll already have some sort of rapport. Tip well regardless of massage quality, though. At the very least you get a massage and a handjob, don’t make him remember you as cheap if you want to call again. 🤣

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