Potential encounter?

[+ sniper]

I mean, if you think those tickets cost what is a significant amount of money for him, I'd consider reimbursing him for them and saying let's start from scratch.  

[lonely_john]

On 6/10/2021 at 10:03 AM, sniper said:

you and this guy are lesbian-level with the drama. Keep it simple and keep your eyes open. 

LMAO, good to know I was not alone on this. But instead of lesbians I was thinking teenagers.

It's been 2 weeks and by now I would have definitely laid the cards on the table, without going through the ordeal of arranging more dates and dinners, especially after 3 other relationships and knowing that his main interest is money.

Too many hot guys in the sea to lose my sleep over just one.

Edited June 11, 2021 by lonely_john

[Typical]

This is all fake, you all get that, right?

I hope so....

If you don't get it that.....Then I'm Melinda from Nigeria and I want to send you $10 million!  But first I need a $10,000 processing fee, your bank account number and your social security number.

Let me know when you want to wire the funds.

[KrisParr]

Reality check.

I called Ted, a good friend, yesterday, who lives about 2 hours away, and we met for dinner last night. He and I taught together years ago in another state and he went on to be a tenured professor in Georgia which was cool when I moved. Anyhow, we’ve  stayed in fairly close contact and I value his pragmatic approach to life. He’s also aware of my predilections and he has some as well, of a much different nature. Anyhow, I decided to let him read my posts, which was highly entertaining. Words like, “holy fuck”, “bullshit”, “no fucking way”, “damn”, and about a dozen “OMG” came out at various points.

And it went something like this - pretty close, but of course with some editorial liberty:

T-You need to get the hell away from this guy.

K-Why?

T-He’s fucking with you and you’re thinking with your goddamn dick

K-Possibly. Want to see his picture? (And I bring up HD’s auto dealer website) He’s beyond hot.

T-When’s the last time you saw your shrink?

K-Screw you.

T-Seriously, this is so wrong. He’s a nut case. Why would you want to get involved with someone who’s a pimp, which I don’t believe. And all the mystery of not telling you where he lives, and carrying two phones. And offering to sell you sex and turn around and …. Coke, meth, Molly?

K-I get it. Stop.

T-No, you need to stop. He’s been stalking you. Think about it. How many other guys at the gym does he talk to or hang out with?

K-Dunno.

T-Exactly. You ever heard of mid-life crisis?

K-No, grandpa, tell me about it.

T-You are such a …

K-Sorry - go on.

T-You need to break it off. But not too fast. I really think there’s something wrong with him, and you don’t want to be a victim, and again, this could hurt you.

K-How?

T-Did you ever talk about STI’s? HIV? Is he on drugs? Did you use condoms? 

K-Seriously? I don’t even know where to go with that. I’ve hooked up for years and you know it.

T-And I assume you’ve always been safe or at least knew what you were sticking it into.

— long pause— You’re in love with this guy, aren’t you?

K-Possibly.

T-He’s not. Because people who are in love don’t treat each other like this. They are honest and open and there aren’t any secrets and they don’t ask for money to fuck and offer discounts and… and …

K-Shit. 

T-Take some time off. Cut back your gym time - go to a different gym. If he texts, water down your replies, or ignore half of them. If he asks you out, you’re busy. I guarantee it won’t be long and he’ll find someone else. You’re just one of many. 

K-How do I break the news to my cock?

T-You know, I wouldn’t normally say this, but you might think about getting a massage, or even, you know … get laid .. watch porn (laughing)

K-I know, I know. Letting someone else “get a grip” on things

T-And you need to let me know what’s going on - this really is not a good thing; I think COVID really fucked you up and he took advantage of you. Who kissed who first? Who grabbed who’s ass? Who sucked who’s cock first? Shall I go on? Man, he initiated everything! Every fucking time! Get it?

K-Okay. I got a lot to process.

T-No you don’t. It’s damn straight - cut it out. Now.

 

There wasn’t too much more. We changed the subject a lot, and then kind of rehashed everything. Ted is an amazing guy. He’s been very successful, has a nice family and is one of the most level headed people I know, which is why I called him. His first wife died about 5 years ago, and we were really close during all that. He has a new partner, and I don’t know her very well, but Ted has always been there for me. Anyhow, it was good to catch up, and I rehearsed our chat all the way back home.

Thinking.

[Luv2play]

It was great you could have a long talk with someone close you can trust. He could be objective in a way we can't here because we are projecting our own experiences with other men onto your situation. I think his views merit serious consideration.

For my own two cents worth, I think HD is pursuing you a little too aggressively for a mere fuck buddy and I doubt very much he is in love with you.

[topunderachiever]

I disagree with everyone who tells you to run, especially Ted.

Be cautious and keep your guard up, yes.  But you're a big boy, aren't you?  This guy is quite intriguing and fascinating to say the least.  Why the heck would you reject this wild chance to explore what's going on in his handsome head and play this out, all while exploring what's going on in yours?  

If YOLO doesn't apply here, where does it?

Edited June 12, 2021 by topunderachiever

[+ nycman]

12 hours ago, Typical said:

This is all fake, you all get that, right?

Sigh…..there’s one at every party.

Who invited her?!?!

2 hours ago, KrisParr said:

T-No you don’t. It’s damn straight - cut it out. Now.

I don’t like you’re friend.

grin

[LookingAround]

Ted is right on the money. HD is big trouble. There’s nothing genuine about him. It’s all about his ability to manipulate and accomplish his mind fuck. If you continue it’s at your own peril. You’ve been warned by many. 
 

The fact that you don’t readily see this and that you enjoy his attention and the drama around all this shows you have your own significant issues. Ted is right. You should see a therapist. Lots to work through. You’re enjoying the drama created here—so much so that some people think it’s made up. It’s drama you love and it’s not healthy or normal. 

The above is assuming it IS real and you haven’t manufactured a fantasy for your and others’ dramatic ‘pleasure’. I assume it’s real but I wouldn’t be shocked to find out it’s creative fantasy. 

Edited June 12, 2021 by LookingAround

[+ Lucky]

Conceding that Ted may have insights into @KrisParrthat I don't, I do wonder if he is overreacting. I'd certainly be careful with the hot guy but I don't know that I wouldn't have sex with him. If drugs are involved, then yes, take a fast U turn!

[Luv2play]

29 minutes ago, Lucky said:

Conceding that Ted may have insights into @KrisParrthat I don't, I do wonder if he is overreacting. I'd certainly be careful with the hot guy but I don't know that I wouldn't have sex with him. If drugs are involved, then yes, take a fast U turn!

I would have sex with him too, but on a pay as you go basis. That way, I would be calling the shots. As I do with all the escorts I see.

[+ glutes]

On 6/1/2021 at 12:58 PM, Axiom2001 said:

Kriss asked for opinions;   

Here's my opinion, this fairytale 'story' has gone on way too long. Who's screwing who here.

[RadioRob]

Per request from the OP, I’m locking this thread. I was originally going to hide the thread, but I did not want anyone to wonder why the thread disappeared.