Bottoms of the board: What kind of pleasure do you feel when getting it? I need tips

[lonely_john]

Also THIS!

 

 

It's very useful for beginners but if you can't get it quickly through Amazon you will find at your local pharmacy some equivalent products in ointment or gel form containing Lidocaine. Especially useful if your guy is BIG. Just don't get tricked into thinking that after applying it you can TAKE IT immediately as a veteran without any problems. Let the product act for a few minutes and you will still need to go slow.

Edited April 28, 2021 by lonely_john

[CuriousByNature]

Also THIS!

 

 

It's very useful for beginners but if you can't get it quickly through Amazon you will find at your local pharmacy some equivalent products in ointment or gel form containing Lidocaine. Especially useful if your guy is BIG. Just don't get tricked into thinking that after applying it you can TAKE IT immediately as a veteran without any problems. Let the product act for a few minutes and you will still need to go slow.

Oooh... that looks painful, but I suppose it could be possible if you insert the cap end first. ?

[lonely_john]

Oooh... that looks painful, but I suppose it could be possible if you insert the cap end first. ?

[dbar123]

You might also want to try the Aneros massagers instead of conventional dildos and use your pelvic muscles to get them to stimulate your prostate. They are a lot more pleasurable

[Luvfurrytops]

So NYCBoi did you take the plunge and all the advice and get the real thing up there? Did it meat your expectations? Did you find some skilled tops to give you a good opening night?

Inquirering minds? 😄

[jtwalker]

I never cared for dildos.  The first time I enjoyed anything was an aneros.  From there, I found that lube was my best friend.  The initial penetration is the hardest / most painful for me.  Once he is in, he can go crazy and I'll enjoy every second of it.  Real penises flex and fit better than any dildo and a seasoned top knows how to make it fit for mutual enjoyment.

[CuriousByNature]

3 hours ago, jtwalker said:

... a seasoned top knows how to make it fit for mutual enjoyment.

Any paricular combo?  Oregano, paprika... just a little salt and pepper? 😁

[jtwalker]

2 hours ago, CuriousByNature said:

Any paricular combo?  Oregano, paprika... just a little salt and pepper? 😁

Gotta be very careful with the spices!  🤪

[keefer]

2 hours ago, CuriousByNature said:

Any paricular combo?  Oregano, paprika... just a little salt and pepper?

I'd swear the oregano in New York pizza makes me still crave it 40 years on... You can never have too much Oregano.... 

Edited January 2, 2022 by keefer

[jeezifonly]

@nycboi Have you made progress over the fall? Excellent  tips on this thread from all! What have you noted about when it feels best? Crowning at its widest?  Slow and deeper? Moving abs and pelvis as it stays in one place?

I believe in confidence in cleanliness, taking time doing kegels (clench-relax-push-relax etc, with increasing the tension to really feel the “relax”, and even if alone, spend time with a lot of finger stimulation and good lube. Often three fingers, just around the rim (not even first knuckle) feels better than a full poke with one, and alternate strong circular motions with soft tickling and slapping. A good top who enjoys ass will do all this and more. This is where “the want” comes from, which as pointed out by others is very important for enjoyment of being penetrated. I love to climax from it, whether it’s stretch or depth or repetition that ultimately pushes the right button (you may have more than one, btw…) And if you’re lucky to enjoy all three 🎇🎆

I will never be convinced that what is biologically an exit portal wasn’t also designed with  penetration as a fun alt use…

Our hands were designed to do the hard work of survival, but they also work great for scratching our balls…

 

[Luvfurrytops]

5 hours ago, jeezifonly said:

@nycboi Have you made progress over the fall? Excellent  tips on this thread from all!  
—SNIP—

I will never be convinced that what is biologically an exit portal wasn’t also designed with  penetration as a fun alt use…

 

I agree, there’s got to be a reason that there are so many nerve endings back there and the neighboring prostate. Of course those anal nerve endings can be a blessing or a curse if you and your top don’t know enough to stretch, relax and distract for the entry.

[big-n-tall]

I believe nycboi has left the building. So for those inquiring about updates, probably won't get it.

He kind of left in a huff because he felt attacked in another forum topic (the one he started about becoming an escort). Not to say he won't eventually return, but who knows.

[+ StLouisOct]

1 hour ago, big-n-tall said:

I believe nycboi has left the building. So for those inquiring about updates, probably won't get it.

He kind of left in a huff because he felt attacked in another forum topic (the one he started about becoming an escort). Not to say he won't eventually return, but who knows.

I wondered if he was just getting a thrill out of starting discussions. I mean, one week the inexperienced guy wants to learn how to bottom and on the next he’s thinking about becoming an escort! 🤔

[big-n-tall]

16 minutes ago, StLouisOct said:

I wondered if he was just getting a thrill out of starting discussions. I mean, one week the inexperienced guy wants to learn how to bottom and on the next he’s thinking about becoming an escort! 🤔

Possibly. But as many people pointed out in that particular topic... his business model left much to be desired.

[+ StLouisOct]

1 hour ago, big-n-tall said:

Possibly. But as many people pointed out in that particular topic... his business model left much to be desired.

Yes. Consistent with my comment, it may have been written merely for the author’s pleasure.

[CuriousByNature]

5 hours ago, StLouisOct said:

Yes. Consistent with my comment, it may have been written merely for the author’s pleasure.

He mentioned his social awkwardness in the post, and I think his posting habits might also support that conclusion.  I hope he is doing okay and not feeling alienated.  

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

The first time I really enjoyed a penis in my arse was in a 3-way, with one man's penis in my arse and the other's in my mouth.

Having another penis to suck on distracts from the initial discomfort of anal penetration.  Plus, you get both the joy of oral and anal at the same time!

[socurious]

On 1/3/2022 at 8:47 PM, CuriousByNature said:

He mentioned his social awkwardness in the post, and I think his posting habits might also support that conclusion.  I hope he is doing okay and not feeling alienated.  

No. I don't think I'm socially awkward at all. But I do deal with my demons at times. I'm not going into detail. It's not even important. 

You haven't mentioned the most important factor: language. Things can be taken out of context if you don't elaborate well enough in English. Even a word choice can ruin a whole thread or intention. I am in my early 30's right now. I learnt English during my mid 20's. Wouldn't make sense?

Btw., a few people here are RACIST. I was called stupid/dumb on another without me provoking or anything like it. They think someone having an accent is being unintelligent 

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

1 minute ago, nycboi said:

Btw., a few people here are RACIST. I was called stupid/dumb on another without me provoking or anything like it.

 

1 hour ago, Vegas_nw1982 said:

Having another penis to suck on distracts from the initial discomfort of anal penetration.  Plus, you get both the joy of oral and anal at the same time!

Intelligence/stupidity knows no race.

Another advantage to sucking cock while trying to bottom, is it prevents one from talking and saying something that could ruin the mood!

[socurious]

6 minutes ago, Vegas_nw1982 said:

 

Intelligence/stupidity knows no race.

Another advantage to sucking cock while trying to bottom, is it prevents one from talking and saying something that could ruin the mood!

Yeap. But having a thick accent will make you look odd/funny of you try to say something the right way and can't. 

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

1 minute ago, nycboi said:

Yeap. But having a thick accent will make you look odd/funny of you try to say something the right way and can't. 

Not a problem when sucking cock!

[CuriousByNature]

4 hours ago, nycboi said:

No. I don't think I'm socially awkward at all. But I do deal with my demons at times. I'm not going into detail. It's not even important. 

You haven't mentioned the most important factor: language. Things can be taken out of context if you don't elaborate well enough in English. Even a word choice can ruin a whole thread or intention. I am in my early 30's right now. I learnt English during my mid 20's. Wouldn't make sense?

Btw., a few people here are RACIST. I was called stupid/dumb on another without me provoking or anything like it. They think someone having an accent is being unintelligent 

Just to clarify, I only made the comment about you being socially awkward because you referred to yourself as being socially awkward in your post back on December 26, 2021.  This was in the string 'Nevermind', and you wrote:  "I am socially awkward. I don't think I can handle the night club environment around so many people. I am also not that young (late 30s)."

I agree that language differences are a significant consideration, and English is very difficult to learn as an adult, from what I've heard.  Nobody should ever call anyone stupid or dumb, whether or not that person is making the statement based on race, or any other characteristic.

When I made the post about social awkwardness, it was out of concern that you may have been alienated by the forum.  It's good to see you are back

Edited November 23, 2022 by CuriousByNature