Do you prefer your escort to host, and if they can’t: what’s the alternative?

[BtmBearDad]

When I first started engaging in this hobby, it was word of mouth recommendations from other hobbyists, so the gents were known quantities. As such, I felt comfortable hosting or traveling. When I expanded this hobby to Rentboy at the time, I was less comfortable hosting at my home, so I would rent a hotel room. As the years have gone by, and after discovering this forum, I’m fairly comfortable hosting now, and honestly prefer it. Partly due to having established regular contact with some gents, and for new ones, because of the reviews given by trusted forum members.

 

When I’m traveling for work, most of the time I host at my hotel. But again, when a degree of regularity has been established, I’ve no objections to traveling to theirs. In fact one regular in London was very house proud (he had just bought his flat) and was eager to host me in his new digs, so of course I couldn’t say no to his invite. My only negative about traveling, is when everything is done, and dusted the journey home whether on foot or taxi lol

[Guest]

It sounds like there are a number of valid reasons that client's can't host at their place: (1) married or in another LTR, (2) live too far from most escorts, so cost to get the escort to them is prohibitive, (3) sensitive job or position, making it too risky to let the escort know the client's home address, (4) security concerns. There are also some reasons that a client might prefer the escort come to them, the most valid I saw being the inability to drive (though in most cases I'd guess the cost of the client taking Lyft/Uber would be less than the travel costs of the escort). The concern of being led to a squatted domicile is real, I suppose, but probably an unusual concern for most clients. I would venture that an escort probably loses more business by refusing to do in-calls than by refusing to do out-calls, though he's better off doing both if at all possible.

[BtmBearDad]

That was a fantasy of mine to meet in a bathhouse (though act like we were both there looking at first before going off together, go to the steam room, dark maze, etc.) lol

 

I’ve done this a few times some years ago. Not with a provider, but with a regular FB. He’s married (to a man) now, we’re still in touch, see each other, but no FB business anymore. We’d always act like we didn’t know each other, engage to a degree with some others while we watched each other, then wind up putting on a show so to speak for the others to watch us go at it. It was quite hot!

Oh to be that young again! Lol

[Bargara Leatherboy]

I have done this on multiple occasions and I highly recommend it. I often will save it for a 2nd or 3rd meeting. “I want you to walk in in sweatpants and a tank top. Walk around the whole place, make sure everyone sees you, then come back and pick me and make sure as many people as possible notice that you’re picking me.” Soooo Much fun

 

that sounds hot - most of the SOP. (Sex on premises) venues here have a by law that no sex for payment can occur, but then how would they know.

[rvwnsd]

A novel solution is to have the playdate in the back of a van! A hook-up once wanted to mess around in the back of his van in the parking lot of an Osco Drug store. Not a Walgreens. Not a Jewel-Osco food/drug combo store. An Osco Drug.

 

I took a pass.

[Jarrod_Uncut]

n fact one regular in London was very house proud (he had just bought his flat) and was eager to host me in his new digs, so of course I couldn’t say no to his invite. My only negative about traveling, is when everything is done, and dusted the journey home whether on foot or taxi lol

 

that was very nice of you to do! I recall a similar instance: I was in Phoenix the other month and was upgraded to a nice spacious, two room suite with a view downtown. I really wanted to host, but all my bookings were outcalls! Nobody showed up to my room the whole 2 days I was there.

 

I was like, oh the irony. The days I’m hosting, I end up with outcalls. The days I am not hosting, they want to come to me ?

[Jarrod_Uncut]

It sounds like there are a number of valid reasons that client's can't host at their place:

 

Well I’ll just say this: if I were a client, I would feel safer having an escort come to me. In fact, my hookups usually go that way.

 

Reason being: I have wasted time once in awhile going to meet guys at their place, and they pull the dreaded, “I don’t feel comfortable” excuse. I know that’s not a discretion standpoint, but I’m much less likely inclined to go visit guys than I am to have them come to me. Not to mention, I can handle the annoyance of someone not showing up, better than I can of going on a blank trip. And some guys out here just be having guys come over to waste their time.

 

The only time I travel (go to their place) for hookups is for clients. I don’t trust the vast majority of guys out here to be who and where they say they’ll be, especially having been played a few times before.

 

I even had to cancel a hookup tonight with a guy I met before: he said, “I’ll sneak you thru my window, because of my roommate.” Young college kid but still. I’m like, bruh: I am 33 years too old to be sneaking in anywhere. There’s too much going on in the news, I don’t even want to chance it. Either introduce me or we can meet at a hotel or air bnb like the 1st time.

 

It’s silly how many guys out here who do host, have to seemingly “sneak” someone in. I tell them everytime, I won’t feel right doing it... I’m 33, not 13.

Edited April 19, 2021 by Jarrod_Uncut

[Guest]

... “I’ll sneak you thru my window, because of my roommate.” Young college kid but still. I’m like, bruh: I am 33 years too old to be sneaking in anywhere. There’s too much going on in the news, I don’t even want to chance it. Either introduce me or we can meet at a hotel or air bnb like the 1st time.

 

It’s silly how many guys out here who do host, have to seemingly “sneak” someone in. I tell them everytime, I won’t feel right doing it... I’m 33, not 13.

Sneaking into a domicile through a window in the middle of the night, with other member(s) of the household not aware. Now what could possibly go wrong, I wonder...

[Rudynate]

I like the provider to host.   It's more comfortable for me.  I like peace and quiet and solitude when I'm getting together with a guy.   One time, I hosted a provider.  He was staying with friends in town and  therefore couldn't host.  I got us a room at a nice hotel in FiDi on a day rate so that it didn't cost much and it was very comfortable - nice hotels are my favorite venue. 

If I were single, I would be happy to host a provider at my place.

[Boink]

I know this sounds weird, but even though I'm about to engage in an intimate act with a provider, I feel awkward 'invading their domain' to meet.  At least until I get to know them better.  I'd be too self conscious about messing up their sheets!  I prefer to get a nice hotel room. Maybe it's a nice little get away for them, too.

[+ 7829V]

I prefer to host when possible. I enjoy to be in my familiar territory, where I've more control.

[BuffaloKyle]

I prefer to host as well when I can. More comfortable in my own place. 

[Luv2play]

My order of preference is my place, my hotel room, his place. The choice a few times has been based on amenities he can provide such as a sling. 

[jtwalker]

I prefer to host at a hotel.  It gives me a chance to get comfortable.  Whenever I go to a provider, I'm always really nervous and it starts things out on the wrong foot.

Edited May 28, 2022 by jtwalker

[+ The Big Guy]

I live in a mid rise and have really nosy neighbors……remember Galdys Kravitz from the sitcom bewitched?   Also the concierge at my building gives me a knowing smile when I have a young man come to visit.  So I prefer not to host. If they cannot host, I usually just move on to someone else.  

Edited May 29, 2022 by The Big Guy

[Guest]

 

[Kevin Slater]

Lifetime-to-date gigs by venue:

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[Luv2play]

14 minutes ago, Kevin Slater said:

Lifetime-to-date gigs by venue:

Kevin Slater

Do you have a sling at your place?

[mike carey]

37 minutes ago, Luv2play said:

Do you have a sling at your place?

According to his website, yes.

[Luv2play]

5 minutes ago, mike carey said:

According to his website, yes.

In that case his ranking and mine align perfectly.😊

[jeezifonly]

Never host. It’s not available as an option for me. I move on.

[+ LIguy]

https://bestcumdumps.com/         This is a free website that lists hotels in many cities where elevator keys and stopping at front desk is not required so would be great to host escorts,,,,they also have a twitter feed and listings for cumdump parties if into that.

[HornyLatinBi]

12 minutes ago, LIguy said:

https://bestcumdumps.com/         This is a free website that lists hotels in many cities where elevator keys and stopping at front desk is not required so would be great to host escorts,,,,they also have a twitter feed and listings for cumdump parties if into that.

wow thank you

[Guest]

9 hours ago, Kevin Slater said:

Lifetime-to-date gigs by venue:

Kevin Slater

Thanks for bringing up actual statistics. This presents truly helpful information to anyone thinking of escorting--not just a bunch of people answering an online question. It looks as though an escort really needs to be able to host in order to be really successful. 

[Guest]

On 5/28/2022 at 11:16 PM, Kevin Slater said:

Lifetime-to-date gigs by venue:

Kevin Slater

@Kevin Slater, you've inspired me. 

I don't have lifetime stats, but here's this year so far: