Longtime Forum Member 'Bigvalboy' Has Died

[+ azdr0710]

Met him several years ago a few times for breakfast, dinner, and/or a Jimmy Z show in his native southern California.....he leaned toward an energetic "alpha"-type of dude and the first time we met up at a Ventura Blvd restaurant he was dressed in all black and looked like an FBI agent!......I remember he got into a slight tussle with another patron at the Jimmy Z show!.......after a successful real-estate career, he cashed out, left a much-changed LA area ("it was paradise here when I was a kid", he told me), and moved to Ft. Lauderdale to live the life on the Intracoastal with his much-loved boat docked out back.......

 

his postings here tapered off a good bit in the last couple or three years, but longtime forum members will remember him......

 

[mike carey]

I guess I must be a 'longtime forum member' so yes I remember him well. Thanks for posting this AZDR. Vale Bigvalboy.

[leeper]

I had noticed that it had been a while since he had posted, I did always enjoy what he had to say. I met him a few years ago at one of the Palm Springs get-togethers and we had a great conversation.

[+ newatthis]

Sorry to hear this. I had a memorable evening with him at Alibi and Boardwalk several years ago. Thanks for posting.

[Otto]

I had the pleasure of knowing BigValBoy, and the pleasure of actually doing a road trip with him through the Florida Keys. Always insightful and delightful, he had a knack for fine (in no particular order): food, wine, travel, dancer boys, humor and pets.

RIP BVB!!!!!

[Luv2play]

Met him several years ago a few times for breakfast, dinner, and/or a Jimmy Z show in his native southern California.....he leaned toward an energetic "alpha"-type of dude and the first time we met up at a Ventura Blvd restaurant he was dressed in all black and looked like an FBI agent!......I remember he got into a slight tussle with another patron at the Jimmy Z show!.......after a successful real-estate career, he cashed out, left a much-changed LA area ("it was paradise here when I was a kid", he told me), and moved to Ft. Lauderdale to live the life on the Intracoastal with his much-loved boat docked out back.......

 

his postings here tapered off a good bit in the last couple or three years, but longtime forum members will remember him......

 

Thanks for this news. It brings closure when knowing why a voice has gone silent in a forum such as this. I remember his posts too In a general sense. That pic of the intercostal in FLD brings back memories of when my niece was engaged to a guy whose parents had a house pictured in the centre left on the North east corner. They also had a boat that we would take to a restaurant further downtown on the same side of the canal and it was valet parking. Needless to say we always got a great table.

[Luv2play]

House on the centre right of the photo.

[+ WilliamM]

He was the kindest, most thoughtful man.

 

So sorry to read this.

[+ Oliver]

... Thanks for this news. It brings closure when knowing why a voice has gone silent in a forum such as this ...

My thoughts also. He came to one of the PS Weekends a few years ago. As I recall, he wore a white suit and looked stunning.

[Otto]

he leaned toward an energetic "alpha"-type of dude and the first time we met up at a Ventura Blvd restaurant he was dressed in all black and looked like an FBI agent!......

 

BVB said he was always mistaken for a cop, sort of a well dressed Telly Savalas in my book.

[+ FreshFluff]

I don’t know what to say. He was incredibly kind and, yes, an assertive alpha guy. RIP. I remember his love for boating. I still remember his reaction to the Boaty McBoatface story.

https://www.companyofmen.org/threads/boaty-mcboatface.112814/#post-1074536

Edited November 18, 2020 by FreshFluff

[marylander1940]

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[Luv2play]

Met him several years ago a few times for breakfast, dinner, and/or a Jimmy Z show in his native southern California.....he leaned toward an energetic "alpha"-type of dude and the first time we met up at a Ventura Blvd restaurant he was dressed in all black and looked like an FBI agent!......I remember he got into a slight tussle with another patron at the Jimmy Z show!.......after a successful real-estate career, he cashed out, left a much-changed LA area ("it was paradise here when I was a kid", he told me), and moved to Ft. Lauderdale to live the life on the Intracoastal with his much-loved boat docked out back.......

 

his postings here tapered off a good bit in the last couple or three years, but longtime forum members will remember him......

 

Rereading your post, I’m thinking about BVB’s comments on the California he knew as a child, which I’m guessing must have been in the post-war period of the 40’s and 50’s, if he was of my generation. He characterized it as a “paradise then”.

 

It reminds me of Linda Ronstad’s song, Adios. She recorded it in the 80’s, after I had made several visits in the ‘70s, and she sang of the “Paradise Lost” that was California In that song. I did go back in the 80’s and 90’s but could see hints of the rot that had set in.

 

Since that time many have moved there or visited and think it’s a great place. I haven’t been back in over 2 decades.

 

BVB then moved to south Florida and found happiness there. I’m glad as I have also spent some wonderful time there. It’s over a decade since I have been back so don’t have personal experience how it is now. But looking back through rose tinted glasses, I had a blast in my time in both California and Florida.

[+ ArVaGuy]

I’m saddened to hear this news. He was a fine contributor to this forum for many years. My condolences to his family and friends.

[EZEtoGRU]

So Sorry to hear of BVB's passing. He was always a thoughtful and interesting contributor to the forum. RIP BVB.

[+ nycman]

I am also sad to hear this.

Although I never met him, my impression of him here was that he was one of the “good“ ones.

RIP

[MikeBiDude]

Oh wow, of course I remember him. Great guy, we talked boating/sailing often. We were both diehard “Biliebers” lol. Well, we liked pics of Bieber! He was always so steady, open minded. A great loss of a long time forum friend.

[Buff Daddy]

Rest in peace ?️ my friend. I never had the chance to meet him. But I do remember reading his posts. In this business Im in I meet many wonderful people Always coming to the events, answering emails, bringing there friends to see the boys. Then all of a sudden they stop coming. I send a email but no answer. It's a shame. Many of us spend so much time with one another but never think that if something happens that the family or whoever they leave in charge has no idea of the friends from the strip clubs. We are never called, or able to attend a wake or funeral, say our last goodbyes. How many of you have experienced this?.

[+ Reisr30]

I didn’t know him but I really enjoy the community provided by this forum and it’s said to hear a long-standing member has passed away ?

[Guest]

[whipped guy]

I had heard about BVB’s passing and was shocked and saddened. He was an avid contributor to this forum for quite a number of years. I unfortunately never met him, but it was not for lack of trying!

 

When he moved to FL we lived on opposte ends of the Alley.. well it’s a rather long “alley”... so we attempted to hook up several times. In fact twice I had made arrangements to get to FTL, but both times family issues called him back to his native CA. Plans for him to make the trip in the opposite direction also fell through. Then there were a few hurricanes and other crazy occurrences that prevented things from happening. Plus I was toggling between north and south and when he was visiting up north I would be south or visa versa. So it was not to be.

 

It was obvious that he loved life and I recall him saying that FTL was always like a big party. I’m sure he was the life of those parties! Not to mention more than a few strip clubs! Also based on what I alluded to above his family seemed to be an important part of his life. So condolences to his family and his close friends. I am sure that their “boat boy” will be greatly missed.

 

[+ jrhoutex]

My thoughts also. He came to one of the PS Weekends a few years ago. As I recall, he wore a white suit and looked stunning.

 

I remember reading about that white suit. It seemed to make quite a statement at the event. So sorry to hear of the news. May he RIP.

[+ oldNbusted]

Damn

[+ WilliamM]

When a good friend was killed/ murdered three years ago, @bigvalboy sent an extremely kind message. I will also remember him.

[rvwnsd]

I am so sorry to hear @bigvalboy has passed. I never had the chance to meet him, but we corresponded via PM and, of course, through Forum posts. Very nice guy.

 

RIP.