How often is a compliment you give genuine ?

[+ barullo]

I hope this doesn’t come off weird-but I feel like compliments that come from a provider are almost “expected”. One potential provider just called me “attractive” which made me feel weird. I’m not trying to humblebrag here, just asking you guys about the ratio of honest / forced compliments you need to give when you’re seeing a client. Do you ever give a compliment just because ? How genuine is that moment ?

[big-n-tall]

I hope this doesn’t come off weird-but I feel like compliments that come from a provider are almost “expected”. One potential provider just called me “attractive” which made me feel weird. I’m not trying to humblebrag here, just asking you guys about the ratio of honest / forced compliments you need to give when you’re seeing a client. Do you ever give a compliment just because ? How genuine is that moment ?

 

Not an escort...

 

For me it really depends on how well I know the provider. There are a few I've come to befriend/know very well and when they give me a compliment, especially in an non-escorting setting I believe them wholeheartedly. if it's someone I just met, i kind of take the compliment with a grain of salt whether it be real or forced. As long as they don't over do it, I don't really get bother by it.

[+ barullo]

I totally get it. But sometimes I’m so cynical I prefer no pet names, no “baby”s or whatever when dealing with providers. I get it comes from insecurity.

Edited July 22, 2020 by barullo

[+ pdxleo]

The ability to receive, and also give, complements (whether true or just socially expected) is a hallmark of a true gentleman.

[+ barullo]

I like that quote @pdxleo but we’re talking about another context here. But I get what you mean.

[Kevin Slater]

I hope this doesn’t come off weird-but I feel like compliments that come from a provider are almost “expected”. One potential provider just called me “attractive” which made me feel weird. I’m not trying to humblebrag here, just asking you guys about the ratio of honest / forced compliments you need to give when you’re seeing a client. Do you ever give a compliment just because ? How genuine is that moment ?

 

I think this is one of the most poignant, insightful and thought provoking questions I've ever seen of this board. Congratulations on a question well asked! And may I mention that I love your font?

 

Kevin Slater

[+ barullo]

I think this is one of the most poignant, insightful and thought provoking questions I've ever seen of this board. Congratulations on a question well asked! And may I mention that I love your font?

 

Kevin Slater

 

Is that sarcasm Kevin? Sorry but sometimes feelings don’t translate well on message board.

[+ StLouisOct]

Is that sarcasm Kevin? Sorry but sometimes feelings don’t translate well on message board.

I agree. I have no idea what Kevin is saying. If it’s sarcasm, it’s not very good.

[+ StLouisOct]

I hope this doesn’t come off weird-but I feel like compliments that come from a provider are almost “expected”. One potential provider just called me “attractive” which made me feel weird. I’m not trying to humblebrag here, just asking you guys about the ratio of honest / forced compliments you need to give when you’re seeing a client. Do you ever give a compliment just because ? How genuine is that moment ?

I had a really enjoyable two hours with an escort whose compliments were overdone, but he was otherwise great company and the end result was great. So, I can tolerate insincerity if the guy does everything else right...and he did.

[+ barullo]

I totally get what you’re saying. But I wondering if it would be good etiquette to inform the provider before hand that you don’t like compliments ? That it’s best if you just get on with it?

[+ purplekow]

I had a really enjoyable two hours with an escort whose compliments were overdone, but he was otherwise great company and the end result was great. So, I can tolerate insincerity if the guy does everything else right...and he did.

Wake up guys, Of course it was sarcasm, unless you are being sarcastic then you got me.

[+ purplekow]

Just as an aside. I value all compliments for what they are worth. If the escort compliments me and gives me a discount on account of it, it is worth something, otherwise, just like any other compliment, it is worth what your ego says it is worth.

[coriolis888]

 

I had a really enjoyable two hours with an escort whose compliments were overdone, but he was otherwise great company and the end result was great. So, I can tolerate insincerity if the guy does everything else right...and he did.

 

 

“The first duty in life is to be as artificial as possible. What the second duty is no one has as yet discovered.”

 

(Oscar Wilde)

[maninsoma]

Sometimes I am amused by the questions posed of escorts here, and this is one of them. Does the OP actually think any escort will write about giving his clients phony compliments when at least some of his clients are reading this message board?

[+ barullo]

Well I don’t expect someone super public to cop to “faking it” but maybe if they had a second profile or an anonymous user they could add something to this conversation.

[MscleLovr]

Not an escort....

 

But I’ve always been fond of an English saying that an escort or indeed anyone “attracts more with honey than with vinegar”. Accordingly, when I meet someone for the first time, or a friend after not seeing them for a while, I always try to find something complimentary to say to them.

 

When I receive compliments, I always smile and say something like ‘that’s very nice of you to say’. I don’t waste time thinking about whether it’s sincerely meant.

[+ DynamicUno]

If you're working in a service industry role, building some level of rapport and comfort helps insure repeat business, tips, better reviews, etc. Depending on the context, some flattery is an easy way to lower some barriers. So it makes sense for an escort to stroke your ego as well as your body.

 

An escort who can find a aspects of a client who isn't exceptionally attractive and engage with them in a way that doesn't feel like executing a contract tends to earn a better reputation. Some banter or regular conversation when not in bed would be part of that, and a compliment or two helps with that.

 

Is every complement you give a customer, coworker, or family member 100% sincere? Probably not, but it helps people get along better.

 

Of course, any good thing becomes a negative in excess. A light compliment about a coworker's outfit helps smooth a conversation, but effusive gushing about it might get you an HR complaint. Same thing in escorting, less can be more, and the good guys have the emotional intelligence to know if they're crossing a line.

[+ poolboy48220]

Of course, any good thing becomes a negative in excess. A light compliment about a coworker's outfit helps smooth a conversation, but effusive gushing about it might get you an HR complaint.

That exact scenario was in the annual training we're required to take at work about "Office Conduct". Those things crack me up. I'm pretty sure our company started emphasizing them after one of the high-level executives of the company was caught in a huge sex harassment scandal.

[jawjateck]

Earlier this year.....I met a provider who had a prolonged run of bad client encounters; he said to me...."thank God, you're normal. I needed this."

 

Made my week......

[Rudynate]

Not an escort....

 

But I’ve always been fond of an English saying that an escort or indeed anyone “attracts more with honey than with vinegar”. Accordingly, when I meet someone for the first time, or a friend after not seeing them for a while, I always try to find something complimentary to say to them.

 

When I receive compliments, I always smile and say something like ‘that’s very nice of you to say’. I don’t waste time thinking about whether it’s sincerely meant.

 

 

Agree completely. Questioning whether an escort's compliments are sincere is WAY overthinking. When you hire, you're getting an experience for your money. Part of the experience is compliments. Why ruin what you've paid by overanalyzing it?

[JustScott]

I once had a provider pay me a compliment and in my nervousness and insecurity I said, “yeah, well I’m paying you for that.” He looked me in the eye and said, “I wish you hadn’t said that.” I realized then that I should have taken his compliment graciously, at face value, and I made amends with him. I felt like we genuinely connected at that moment, and I’ve learned (I hope) a little more about taking compliments (although I find it hard in any setting). All that to say that the line between flattery and compliment gets fuzzy under any circumstance, and it may be best not to worry too much about it. Anymore, when it comes to providers, I appreciate the compliments, but I haven’t been with a guy who was an over-the-top flatterer, either.

[D21howie]

Actually I appreciate compliments if it comes across as sincere.

[+ Pensant]

I’m very fond of compliments and not afraid to offer them myself. Several dark eyed providers have complimented me on my blue eyes, for example. Once, a regular was driving down my street as I finished a 5 mile run on a steamy morning and complimented me on how fit I was. If I hadn’t been pressed for time...

[orville]

Wake up guys, Of course it was sarcasm, unless you are being sarcastic then you got me.

I think it was "In Your Face" Sarcasm, and if so, I liked it!

[+ DrownedBoy]

What movie or comedian said it?

 

"I bet you believe it when hookers say they like you."