When you are asked for your stats

[xyz48B]

Not everybody could be an escort.

Not everyone could be a carpenter.

 

I answer all questions asked truthfully. And my age hasn’t been the presenting issue for any escort thus far. I sense that older guys are more concerned about that than need be.

[marylander1940]

Not everyone could be a carpenter.

 

I answer all questions asked truthfully. And my age hasn’t been the presenting issue for any escort thus far. I sense that older guys are more concerned about that than need be.

 

Looks aren't required to be carpenter either.

 

Have you thought about escorting to make money and later hire others?

 

I think the burden should be on the provider and not on the client, but I am apparently far from the majority on this forum. Personally, I would like to see a standard area on rentmen profiles similar to....

 

Actually I think the majority of the forum agrees with you.

 

where the escort could be specific (ie noone over a certain age, or a certain weight etc... or more broad if they don't want to publicly own their prejudice (i.e. I see ( or I am good with) everyone or I see only very select clientele etc.)

 

 

They’re usually not cut out for the business or picky. Some guys have so many potential clients that choose the ones they prefer.

Edited July 22, 2020 by marylander1940

[CuriousByNature]

Looks aren't required to be carpenter either.

 

Have you thought about escorting to make money and later hire others?

 

 

 

Actually I think the majority of the forum agrees with you.

 

 

 

They’re usually not cut out for the business or picky. Some guys have so many potential clients that choose the ones they prefer.

Perhaps potential clients should exaggerate in the opposite direction - add five years in age, add 25 pounds to their weight, and lose a couple of inches in height. If a provider is still open to meeting they can then get a pleasant surprise when the door is opened. I think I would rather underplay my attributes than to raise expectations that could ultimately be disappointing for both client and provider. But then again, I already have a tendency towards self-deprecation and could end up describing myself as a complete ogre or troll that should be living under a bridge somewhere. That may explain a lot now that I think of it... lol.

[marylander1940]

Perhaps potential clients should exaggerate in the opposite direction - add five years in age, add 25 pounds to their weight, and lose a couple of inches in height. If a provider is still open to meeting they can then get a pleasant surprise when the door is opened. I think I would rather underplay my attributes than to raise expectations that could ultimately be disappointing for both client and provider. But then again, I already have a tendency towards self-deprecation and could end up describing myself as a complete ogre or troll that should be living under a bridge somewhere. That may explain a lot now that I think of it... lol.

 

Agreed (mostly).

 

I have a feeling that gay men think of themselves in two extremes... those who lack self confidence and constantly undermine their looks, achievements, etc. and those who no matter how they look or have they think of themselves as successful and handsome individuals.

[MikeBiDude]

I’m always very honest about my stats. I also say “might not be proud of my body....but I’m not ashamed”. Always room for improvement.

I Agree that confidence is the key, I tell potential friends I have the “Papa Hemingway” look ?

[CuriousByNature]

I’m always very honest about my stats. I also say “might not be proud of my body....but I’m not ashamed”. Always room for improvement.

I Agree that confidence is the key, I tell potential friends I have the “Papa Hemingway” look ?

Which is infinitely better than Papa Smurf, in my humble opinion.

[+ DynamicUno]

I think I've only been asked for my stats once, and I was upfront about them. He said wanted to avoid any surprises that would make the session unnecessarily difficult. It turned out to be a fun encounter, which led to a few repeats and a trip together before he moved back to his home country.

[+ Pensant]

Stats are fine. Pics, not so much. Not because I don’t like my looks and body (I do), but because, as @Epigonos stated above, you cede control once you send a pic.

[xyz48B]

Looks aren't required to be carpenter either.

Any profession has specialized skills. Even the Walmart cashier – people skills go a long way. I’ll avoid cashiers I don’t like. Looks may not be required for a carpenter, but that’s also not what I’m paying for either.

 

What does me being an escort or not have to do with this? You don’t have to be a service provider to have some understanding about what good service is. I don’t feel my expectations are unreasonable.

[xyz48B]

Stats are fine. Pics, not so much. Not because I don’t like my looks and body (I do), but because, as @Epigonos stated above, you cede control once you send a pic.

Learned that the hard way...

[+ azdr0710]

don't want to tread thru the past 86 posts, but do want to say we all should offer our basic and honest stats in the first communication.......I think I'm in the habit of doing this and I don't remember being asked for stats (or a picture, for that matter)......I usually say/offer weight, height, age, race, non-smoker, no drugs, clean hygiene, and maybe other stuff as appropriate......honest and friendly communication is the key!

 

[thickornotatall]

I always give my stats (no pic) way ahead....I also give my list of needs..wants..and must haves...As well as letting the escort know I am a very aggressive oral expert and demand accuracy on size....a millimeter off is OK...no more...also....I am super clean and expect the same..no cologne..deoderant or fragrance...big need..STAY OFF YOUR CELL ..unless calling 911 ?

no smoking...

[+ WilliamM]

I just hope folks are truthful about their stats if asked by an escort and don't imaginary get rid of pounds and years.

 

Perhaps you might take the client's side once in a while and not just the provider's.

 

Occasionally the provider is not being completely honest. For example, he is straight not bi, or if he is critical about his clients, he may be critical of you as well.

[Kent1972]

I’m in my 50s, sort of fat, very tall, hairy and don’t manscape, and slightly disabled. I’m also very clean, safe, discreet, laid back, and have a pleasant though not handsome face and 9” cut. I tell a provider all of this up front, with specifics about age, size, and disabilities so everything is up front. I do not share face pics though. I’ve been a victim of identity theft in the past.

[handiacefailure]

When I get a request for a photo for a provider, I just give my age/height/weight.

 

Some providers ask for my race as well. The last time that happened, I gave it, then stopped responding to any of his future texts.

 

I don't have a problem giving them stats (even though most escorts shave a few years off their age LOL).

 

I refuse to give a photo. What I really hate are the escorts that you contact and won't give you a face photo without receiving one of you first. I refuse to give a photo to an escort.

[marylander1940]

Perhaps potential clients should exaggerate in the opposite direction - add five years in age, add 25 pounds to their weight, and lose a couple of inches in height. If a provider is still open to meeting they can then get a pleasant surprise when the door is opened. I think I would rather underplay my attributes than to raise expectations that could ultimately be disappointing for both client and provider. But then again, I already have a tendency towards self-deprecation and could end up describing myself as a complete ogre or troll that should be living under a bridge somewhere. That may explain a lot now that I think of it... lol.

 

Actually they should just be honest.

[marylander1940]

I’m in my 50s, sort of fat, very tall, hairy and don’t manscape, and slightly disabled. I’m also very clean, safe, discreet, laid back, and have a pleasant though not handsome face and 9” cut. I tell a provider all of this up front, with specifics about age, size, and disabilities so everything is up front. I do not share face pics though. I’ve been a victim of identity theft in the past.

 

9 inches!

 

How many PM this morning by forum members interested in meeting you? ?

 

Agreed about honesty on sharing stats and also NEVER send a face pic.

[Kent1972]

9” makes up for being a left handed ginger.

[John]

I answer all questions in words. If anyone wants a picture, there are some in my Planet Romeo account and I direct them to it. If they don't have access to PR, too bad. If they want more pictures, well, I'm not the one for sale.

[guru68]

If there's a chance that I'll be rejected by a provider based on my appearance, I'd rather know about it in advance, rather than find out in person.

[+ Axiom2001]

During all of these many years that I've engaged the services of escorts and/or sex workers, none have asked me for my stats. One or two have requested photographs, but I have not met this request because I only have a few that were taken and framed during my "glory days."

[JTtorretto]

I only ask for stats (from a technical basis), when a potential client contacts me to say that they are wanting to be topped.

If a bottom is clinically obese, per doctors I've spoken to, it's logistically very difficult to top the bottom (perhaps less so if horse hung). So much so that I prefer to politely pass on the challenge. However, I've enjoyed many a play session with "plus sized" clients for an array of other activities and have had way more fun times with overweight guys then with thin ones. My ideal client, who seems to enjoy my company best & vice versa is overweight, white, baby boomer or generation x, normal height.

 

Clients from the silent generation, younger then 30, Chinese, middle eastern = tend to be a bad "fit" and if known before hand I politely pass to save us both from having a less then optimal experience.

[Kent1972]

I only ask for stats (from a technical basis), when a potential client contacts me to say that they are wanting to be topped.

If a bottom is clinically obese, per doctors I've spoken to, it's logistically very difficult to top the bottom (perhaps less so if horse hung). So much so that I prefer to politely pass on the challenge. However, I've enjoyed many a play session with "plus sized" clients for an array of other activities and have had way more fun times with overweight guys then with thin ones. My ideal client, who seems to enjoy my company best & vice versa is overweight, white, baby boomer or generation x, normal height.

 

Clients from the silent generation, younger then 30, Chinese, middle eastern = tend to be a bad "fit" and if known before hand I politely pass to save us both from having a less then optimal experience.

As an obese client, thank you very much! This is such a great attitude. That’s why I always offer my specific stats snd discuss the activities I’d like to try.

[Luv2play]

I only ask for stats (from a technical basis), when a potential client contacts me to say that they are wanting to be topped.

If a bottom is clinically obese, per doctors I've spoken to, it's logistically very difficult to top the bottom (perhaps less so if horse hung). So much so that I prefer to politely pass on the challenge. However, I've enjoyed many a play session with "plus sized" clients for an array of other activities and have had way more fun times with overweight guys then with thin ones. My ideal client, who seems to enjoy my company best & vice versa is overweight, white, baby boomer or generation x, normal height.

 

Clients from the silent generation, younger then 30, Chinese, middle eastern = tend to be a bad "fit" and if known before hand I politely pass to save us both from having a less then optimal experience.

I am not familiar with your profile but think you have a very mature and reasonable outlook.

 

As for myself. i use RM and have my stats listed there. I refer providers to that if they enquire when I contact them. Of course, if things progress from there in communications, I am willing to add details but only if they are providing me more info about themselves as well. I believe in two way conversations.

[jawjateck]

Since alot of providers have brought their grindr tactics into the business world, I have no problem playing along now.

 

My body is transforming.....I'm 5-11, 165, 31w, lightly hairy, muscled/athletic build, 8.5 cut and thick, bubble butt, completely versatile and killer looks. Not bad for a 54yo, eh?