When you are asked for your stats

[caliguy]

I really don't understand the hostility to them knowing something about you. Escorts are human too and not everyone can just do everything that calls them. You could even write a simple bio in the Rentmen profile.

 

That or just get the usual gay for pay experience. Bend over for that cock and $ is on the dresser.

Edited June 11, 2020 by caliguy

[Enronnja]

No hostility at all here, I just was curious as to what I should say, since I have never been asked before.

[orville]

No hostility at all here, I just was curious as to what I should say, since I have never been asked before.

This ?

Age, Height, Weight, Race.

And if race is a concern I target escorts who have in their descriptions something like "no race hung ups", "all body types", or "a mouth is a mouth" (jks)

Edited December 6, 2020 by orville

[marylander1940]

They are probably just making sure you are not 350lbs

They get picky sometimes

 

That's a big part of the demographic of the Bible belt! If someone is that big, he should say it upfront to the escorts before meeting them. Just my advice.

 

 

When I get a request for a photo for a provider, I just give my age/height/weight.

 

Some providers ask for my race as well. The last time that happened, I gave it, then stopped responding to any of his future texts.

 

They possibly spared you from wasting your money and time while having a bad time with them.

 

How often does it happen?

 

And if race is a concern I target escorts who have in their descriptions something like "no race hung ups", "all body types", or "a mouth is a mouth" (jks)

 

I know escorts with that phrase on their profile, clients often tell them they hired them because of that same statement!

[+ Reisr30]

I tell them I have a 10 inch penis.

 

JK, I guess I’ve been lucky none of the companions I have met have ever asked for my stats or a photo...

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

I've only had one escort ask for a photo. When setting up the appointment, I told him we previously met when he was with another Forum member in a group setting. I assumed that he had asked to make sure he was correctly connecting the right face with my name.

 

While I rarely am asked my stats, I don't hesitate providing them. I decided long ago that as long as he's not asking for my debit card PIN, the more an escort knows about me the better experience I may have.

[+ azdr0710]

without being asked, I'll usually offer my basic stats in an early communication with any new provider.....usually helps with proving my sincerity and honesty, I think, and, along with other friendly chat, makes it all more comfortable for both of us

[builder boy]

It can be off putting to be sure, but since I do more weekends I do understand that some information can be helpful to them. I do get that.

[Enronnja]

Looks like he fine with the stats I provided and proceeded to provide his available dates when he arrives along with his rates.

[cany10011]

Looks like he fine with the stats I provided and proceeded to provide his available dates when he arrives along with his rates.

Hope you enjoy your time with him!

[+ ButchAtl]

That’s one of the reasons I prefer a site such as rm that requires everyone have a profile. That way before the provider responds to you they can check your profile. I find it a huge turn on when I can tell in the provider’s response that they first read my profile.

without being asked, I'll usually offer my basic stats in an early communication with any new provider.....usually helps with proving my sincerity and honesty, I think, and, along with other friendly chat, makes it all more comfortable for both of us

I always refer to my Rm profile in my first inquiry as a way to see my stats and interests. If they take the effort to look, it's all there.

Seems to have worked for me.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

I always ask for a saliva swab.

 

I've got a fleet account with 23 And Me.

[+ GregM]

That’s one of the reasons I prefer a site such as rm that requires everyone have a profile. That way before the provider responds to you they can check your profile. I find it a huge turn on when I can tell in the provider’s response that they first read my profile.

 

When I used to use RM many clients didn't fill out the profile. While in the past the only time I've turned work down is when the potential client wanted me to pnp. That is an absolute deal breaker.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[Monarchy79]

I love this thread, at it exposes two things:

Hypocrisy and cognitive dissonance.

 

I find is completely ironic that people would shame an escort for his preferences, as you have the same exact preferences.

 

Many of you guys want the escort to not be ageist, racist, and a body fascist, because it would limit your ability to hire him.... but the escorts you’re reaching out to are young, white, and built to perfection.

 

And no, stating that you are a customer and he’s providing a service, doesn’t take away from the fact:

 

WE ALL ARE SHALLOW.....

 

So you can’t get mad at an escort for pulling a “you, on “you”

 

????

[Monarchy79]

When I used to use RM many clients didn't fill out the profile. While in the past the only time I've turned work down is when the potential client wanted me to pnp. That is an absolute deal breaker.

 

Hugs,

Greg

 

Now come on Greg.... you’re not being totally transparent...we both know that there’s one specific “dealbreaker” you have

 

?

 

Hugs,

M

[MrMattBig]

I generally agree and frequently call out

"pulling a “you, on “you” myself,

 

but as sex workers our job is not just bjs penetration and getting off...but providing a level of comfortability and being non-judgmental. Additionally, if escorts are going to pick and choose who they take as clients...they should indicate that in their profile to be as upfront as possible.

I love this thread, at it exposes two things:

Hypocrisy and cognitive dissonance.

 

I find is completely ironic that people would shame an escort for his preferences, as you have the same exact preferences.

 

Many of you guys want the escort to not be ageist, racist, and a body fascist, because it would limit your ability to hire him.... but the escorts you’re reaching out to are young, white, and built to perfection.

 

And no, stating that you are a customer and he’s providing a service, doesn’t take away from the fact:

 

WE ALL ARE SHALLOW.....

 

So you can’t get mad at an escort for pulling a “you, on “you”

 

????

[former lurker]

I love this thread, at it exposes two things:

Hypocrisy and cognitive dissonance.

 

I find is completely ironic that people would shame an escort for his preferences, as you have the same exact preferences.

 

Many of you guys want the escort to not be ageist, racist, and a body fascist, because it would limit your ability to hire him.... but the escorts you’re reaching out to are young, white, and built to perfection.

 

And no, stating that you are a customer and he’s providing a service, doesn’t take away from the fact:

 

WE ALL ARE SHALLOW.....

 

So you can’t get mad at an escort for pulling a “you, on “you”

 

????

 

The client and the escort are NOT similarly situated. I don't disagree with your observation, but it's not unfair to expect the one who markets himself as a companion for pay to go beyond his preferences to an extent you would not expect in a non-paying situation. After all, a lot of the hiring is done precisely because the client wants to get together with someone who would not see him except for pay, that is, the client is paying to see someone that fits his preferences where he (the client) would not fit the escort's preferences except for the money.

[Monarchy79]

I generally agree and frequently call out

"pulling a “you, on “you” myself,

 

but as sex workers our job is not just bjs penetration and getting off...but providing a level of comfortability and being non-judgmental. Additionally, if escorts are going to pick and choose who they take as clients...they should indicate that in their profile to be as upfront as possible.

 

Agreed,

 

The first thing that came to mind was the thread on this site a while back, where a very average-looking, out of shape, older escort was being roasted and humiliated with absolutely no restraint.

 

Guess who suddenly became the mean girls? Not other providers, but the customers... the same potential clients that cry “ageism, body shaming, and discrimination”, when the tables are turned.

 

I even remember the Kenzo thread, where this masseur gained a few pounds and these guys suddenly became “model scouts”, and picked the poor guy apart...

 

I’m just a firm believer in the golden rule... even when it comes to this... ☺

[former lurker]

Agreed,

 

The first thing that came to mind was the thread on this site a while back, where a very average-looking, out of shape, older escort was being roasted and humiliated with absolutely no restraint.

 

Guess who suddenly became the mean girls? Not other providers, but the customers... the same potential clients that cry “ageism, body shaming, and discrimination”, when the tables are turned.

 

I even remember the Kenzo thread, where this masseur gained a few pounds and these guys suddenly became “model scouts”, and picked the poor guy apart...

 

I’m just a firm believer in the golden rule... even when it comes to this... ☺

 

That episode was in poor taste, but again, I think you've gotten it a bit wrong. My recollection is that someone pointed out what purported to be an ad to provide escort services from someone who was, to put it mildly, not the typically toned/muscled advertiser. From that, there was some fumbling about over whether the gent was really a client who mislabeled his profile and expected to pay rather than sought payment. My sense of the whole situation was that the person who placed the ad was a bit lost, for whatever reason (mental condition, drugs, unfamiliarity with the scene and the site) and that he didn't deserve the pile on and ridicule. But it was definitely not a case of making fun of someone representing himself as a client -- it was the disconnect between seeming to advertise as an escort and appearing more likely to be a client. I'm not condoning the ridicule. But it wasn't a case of client-shaming by clients, at least not at its heart.

[harlow]

I generally agree and frequently call out

"pulling a “you, on “you” myself,

 

but as sex workers our job is not just bjs penetration and getting off...but providing a level of comfortability and being non-judgmental. Additionally, if escorts are going to pick and choose who they take as clients...they should indicate that in their profile to be as upfront as possible.

I like that. Just say up front in your profile the type of people you want to hire you (not saying you @MrMattBig ). I may not like it but at least I know after I read it that you’re not the type of provider I would want to spend my money on. Transparency (no matter how harsh) saves a lot of headaches.....and money

[peter831]

I have only been asked a couple of times to provide my stats to an escort. One said no problem, and we had a great time. The other screened me out, so we probably would not have been a good match. I would never send a photo. I have had many fun experiences with escorts who did not ask for stats. If I felt I had something unusual about my weight or age, I might choose to disclose that in advance.

[+ Axiom2001]

.... Don't bother. A true professional would never ask that kind of a question.

 

During my far too many years of engaging the services of escorts-- NONE have asked me the question which formulated this thread. If they would have requested-- I would have ignored and sought out others.

[MikeBiDude]

I just ask for age just because if someone says they are in their 20’s they’re more likely to flake and play games. The older my clients are the better as I tend to get along with them more. Nothing gets me harder and wetter than a silver and salt and pepper daddy to jump on, pounce and feast on them

Again you’re teasing this “left coast” silver daddy! Good to hear from you again!

[Daverwr]

Again you’re teasing this “left coast” silver daddy! Good to hear from you again!

I was thinking the same thing! ?

[sexymonk]

It means they are trying to treat you as if you're the one being hired. Don't bother. A true professional would never ask that kind of a question.

That is what makes this thing very challenging. It is not everyone’s cup of tea and that is why you guys will see why many come and vanish! Very few endure, sustain and are successful. I am really glad after reading this post that I have met @peterhung85. I asked him this question that how he manages to meet people of all spectra. He simply said that it is the other persons attitude, hygiene, health consciousness that matters to him. It is due to his attitude that people are meeting him over a decade and meet him constantly. He is worth the wait and any other guy. He is balanced, sane minded, professional at right place, friendly always, connects if you have the right attitude! Not to mention that he is indeed growing hotter year by year. He is reliable, trustworthy, and you can share your secrets with him without getting judged!