Providers who request a pic

[The Dude]

What do you do if an escort asks you to send a pic before meeting? Happened to me recently and I ghosted the dude.

[MrMattBig]

What do you do if an escort asks you to send a pic before meeting? Happened to me recently and I ghosted the dude.

"Not sure if I feel comfortable doing that, as some providers use that tactic to discriminate or only see attractive clients."

Or "I can/have sent you my stats. Not sure about sending a pic, may I ask why you are asking for one?"

Factor their response into your decision to proceed or not.

[+ StLouisOct]

I’ve never been asked and I’d never send one. Privacy is paramount for a client. However, I always send a potential escort a description of myself (63 year old slim white guy, etc) and list what I’m expecting from an escort. No one has asked me to supplement that info with a photo.

[caramelsub]

At least a couple of escorts have asked me to send pics. In two instances they thought I was a cop, and wanted to make sure I wasn’t one. I declined.

[Chad Constantine]

What do you do if an escort asks you to send a pic before meeting? Happened to me recently and I ghosted the dude.

"Not sure if I feel comfortable doing that, as some providers use that tactic to discriminate or only see attractive clients."

Or "I can/have sent you my stats. Not sure about sending a pic, may I ask why you are asking for one?"

Factor their response into your decision to proceed or not.

 

Never thought it would be used as a way to discriminate.

 

I know it is hypocritical because for the most part they use their real pics. However, I dont see the point of sending a pic if you already give your stats. If they would insist on seeing my face, and I really want to meet, I would suggest meeting a day before for a quick face-to-face but that would be all. I personally would not feel comfortable with sending a pic of myself to a stranger.

 

In all honesty, the only time I was asked to send a pic was because this golden-hearted guy, that I was meeting again, said he really liked guys in jockstraps and I said I would go out and buy one to wear for him. After I told him I picked it up he asked for the pic so I sent a view from the back because the front was sadly average lmao.

[Kevin Slater]

They have every right to ask, you have every right to decline.

 

I'm still waiting to hear of someone sending a pic of two Bens and a Ulysses.

 

Kevin Slater

[+ José Soplanucas]

What do you do if an escort asks you to send a pic before meeting? Happened to me recently and I ghosted the dude.

 

You have probably seen plenty of pictures of him. He is considering having sex with you, I think he has the right to see your picture before meeting. I do not have a problem with that; if you do, just move to the next one in your list.

[Guest europeanman]

I would not be concerned with privacy. Our photos are all over social media.

[MscleLovr]

I always offered to send a pic of me when I hired. IIRC only 3 guys ever wanted to see my photo beforehand, and the dates went ahead as planned.

 

My offer was based on self-interest. We’d discussed time/place and what I enjoyed doing so that I knew we were compatible. My pic was to prevent any surprise on meeting. If he didn’t want a date with an older or a middle-aged man, I’d move on.

[myophile]

You have probably seen plenty of pictures of him. He is considering having sex with you, I think he has the right to see your picture before meeting. I do not have a problem with that; if you do, just move to the next one in your list.

 

Those two things are not equivalent. The fact that the client has seen pictures of the provider does not obligate the client to reciprocate. This is a transaction, a quid-pro-quo, not a date. The provider offers his face and physique—the “quid”—and the client offers money—the “quo.” If the provider has to vet his clients for attractiveness then he’s in the wrong business.

[+ ArVaGuy]

They have every right to ask, you have every right to decline.

 

I'm still waiting to hear of someone sending a pic of two Bens and a Ulysses.

 

 

Done!!

 

 

 

[MscleLovr]

If the provider has to vet his clients for attractiveness then he’s in the wrong business

 

I disagree profoundly @myophile. You’re ignoring what’s important (to me, at least): sexual energy and erotic passion. As a top only, I could in strict theory pump any guy but I prefer to have a handsome fit-bodied guy on the end of my cock. I want him to be fully engaged; I never wanted to hire a robot.

[Cliff]

They have every right to ask, you have every right to decline.

 

I'm still waiting to hear of someone sending a pic of two Bens and a Ulysses.

 

Kevin Slater

Kevin, I agree with this thinking. I’ve been asked to provide a photo of myself only once, just recently. I didn’t really mind so I sent him one. I could have refused, but I wanted to see this guy. If he had turned me down, I would have simply moved on to another provider. There are plenty of (incredibly hot) fish in the sea in Manhattan.

[Realalist]

I would not be concerned with privacy. Our photos are all over social media.

That logic seems flawed.

[hypothetically]

A tough pill to swallow but I think the choice to not allow an escort to see what you look like is primarily insecurity-driven. And I am speaking in general terms, not in the context of receiving a request for a photo. And that’s a you problem, not an us problem. Yes, some escorts are rotten and make such requests for discriminatory purposes, but most of us really do not give a shit. We do not sit around and say “look at this client,” nor have I ever heard a colleague gripe about how a client looks. I feel it is a basic common courtesy. Here in Europe, 90% of my clients send photos along with their initial inquiry or already have profiles filled out with photos on Platforms like Hunqz. I do not ask, nor would I. However, Americans like to call insecurity “discretion,” and I get it but would any of you go meet escorts with no photos? Or even a casual hookup. Doubtful.

 

Hell, even when escorts had to physically walk the streets they at minimum knew what their clients looked like. I realize the culture here is different per engagement with escorts but if you knew that it wouldn’t be used against you in a discriminatory way, would you offer, voluntarily?

Edited December 8, 2019 by hypothetically

[Guest europeanman]

That logic seems flawed.

An escort having your photo does not mean you send it to him. Or that he knows you. It means absolutely nothing.

[hypothetically]

If the provider has to vet his clients for attractiveness then he’s in the wrong business.

I disagree profoundly @myophile. You’re ignoring what’s important (to me, at least): sexual energy and erotic passion. As a top only, I could in strict theory pump any guy but I prefer to have a handsome fit-bodied guy on the end of my cock. I want him to be fully engaged; I never wanted to hire a robot.

 

@MscleLovr what does any of that have to do with how you look?

[myophile]

A tough pill to swallow but I think the choice to decline an escort to see what you look like is primarily insecurity-driven. And that’s a you problem, not an us problem. Yes, some escorts are rotten and make such a request for discriminatory purposes, but most of us really do not give a shit. We do not sit around and say “look at this client,” nor have I ever heard a colleague gripe about how a client looks. It is a basic common courtesy. Here in Europe, 90% of my clients send photos along with their initial inquiry or already have profiles filled out with photos on Platforms like Hunqz. Americans like to call insecurity “discretion,” and I get it but would any of you go meet escorts with no photos? Or even a casual hookup. Doubtful.

 

Hell, even when escorts had to physically walk the streets they at minimum knew what their clients looked like.

 

FWIW I’ve never had an escort ask for my picture. And as a completely separate issue, I’m comfortable with my face and body, and confident in my ability to give pleasure, as well as receive it. And if we were talking about Grindr hookups that would be that. But again: hiring an escort is not quite the same. If money is changing hands, then it is not an equivalent exchange. Send the provider your pictures by all means, but if the session happens, is it because he finds you hot? Or because you (the client) agreed to his rate? And at the end of your session, try refusing payment. The provider liked your pictures, right? The sex was great, right? So what more could he want? Let me know how that goes ...

Edited December 8, 2019 by myophile

[Epigonos]

This question has come up periodically over the sixteen years I have participated on this site. I believe that I’m the buyer in this market and not the seller. I always provide the escort with whom I’m communicating a complete physical description of myself including age, weight, height, ethnicity and physical condition. I NEVER provide a photograph

 

My refusal to provide escorts with a photograph has absolutely nothing to do with issues of discretion or insecurity. It has totally to do with what I consider an appropriate request and an inappropriate one. I usually hire escorts based on their photographs and self- descriptions on rentmen. If they accept clients on the basis of physical appearance I believe that they seriously need to consider an occupation change. If an escort required a photograph of me for ANY reason I would find that request insulting and immediately terminate all further communication.

 

Now if my memory serves me correctly I have NEVER been asked to provide a photograph by a prospective hire.

Edited December 8, 2019 by Epigonos

[+ poolboy48220]

This question has come up periodically over the sixteen years I have participated on this site.

hear hear.

[MscleLovr]

@MscleLovr what does any of that have to do with how you look?

 

@hypothetically I simply wanted to avoid having a bad date or disappointing session. If a provider was unsure about whether to meet me, an older man, I was happy to provide a photo.

 

I appreciate that other clients might not do so - that’s up to them, and how they make arrangements. For me, sending a pic was no big deal.

[big dale]

I send them a photo of my fat cock and see what happens.

[+ poolboy48220]

I send them a photo of my fat cock and see what happens.

I've seen that picture. <applause>

[Guest]

I send them a pic of a friend who is a model. If they can fraud on their pics, we can fraud on ours.

[+ HornyRetiree]

I have always figured if I am paying hard earned money, I want to know they are okay with my 71yo, 240#, hairy physique! I know many can "imagine & perform" but that is not what I am looking for!

 

Even though I know a provider would not hit on me across the room! I do want a human to human, energy to energy, man to man connection where it feels for our time together that he would!

 

I can't afford to hire often but have been very fortunate and still have a few on my bucket list:)

 

I am fortunate to have 3 masseurs who provide good massages and are also erotic - oral & anal components at the end.

Edited December 9, 2019 by HornyRetiree