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On 11/30/2021 at 7:59 AM, cokimstr61 said:

Hey gents. I’ve been hiring escorts and masseurs on and off for almost 20 years now. 

I’ve had a rough last 7 years after an accident and subsequently a break up with a long time partner. 

Now 5 surgeries later on my neck and shoulder and one pending on a torn hip muscle and lots of depression. I get regular medical massages and PT 

I’m a 50 year old bear. 6’ 235. Well groomed and clean with what I’m told is a decent sized tool. Because of the medical issues and some trust issues I choose not to date or hook up right now. It’s easier for me to hire for intimacy. 

When looking to hire all I’m looking for is a couple of hours of ME time. A sensual/erotic massage naked with mutual touch…2 hours of relaxation and pleasure. It doesn’t need to be a true therapeutic massage just intimacy. I am not very fond of most anal activities and it’s sometimes a real turn off to me. I enjoy just being touched everywhere and maybe some oral. I don’t think that’s very much to ask.

Every time I contact to hire I explain my situation and tell them exactly what I’m looking for.  My issue is that out of about 20 different guys I’ve hired over the past year only 2 have given me what I ask for. The rest have either come up short and most of them end up sitting on my cock so they can get fucked when I explicitly said that’s not one of the activities I was looking to do. 

I know a lot of you might think that I’m getting more than I ask for but it’s not what I want and once I’m inside him it’s difficult for me to say “hey. What are you doing. Get off” so I usually finish. 

So my question i is. How do I get a provider to give me what I’m looking for and not what they want? 

I think you should make sure they know that you don’t want any form of penetration. Also make sure the provider understands exactly what you want before you meet up. 🥰

If someone is coming to see you if they aren’t driving I think it should be standard. Especially when I’ve traveled to cities and won’t have a car someone wants me to travel to them. I think ordering an uber for them just feels more safe because they know it’s a go deal. I’ve taken Ubers and went all the way there for someone to stand me up and not answer texts. If you aren’t ordering a car and they are, I think they should be reimbursed. Hope this helps 🥰

Will start by saying I’m sorry this happened and that you were put in this situation. When you book time with a provider, you’re expecting exactly what they’re offering as well as physical appearance. I think it’s always best to ask for a current pic as well, for the reason the pics aren’t always updated. That’s why I always make sure pics of mine are always me currently cause we change over time. You went there with his place being unsanitary, that’s not the setting you wanna be in and you have that right. On top of that the fight threats and blocking the door alone is just another thing that really is insane. He didn’t present what he offered to you and he threatened your safety. I also think him being on something is unprofessional to say the least, unless two people agree on that. You shouldn’t also pay him for time that you didn’t spend with him.  I know you don’t wanna disclose who it is, but sometimes it’s needed so that people can be warned so it doesn’t happen to someone else. I hope you blocked him as well, and again I’m sorry this happened to you. 

I think with the first approach make it clear that you’re into passionate deep kissing, and that they should be as well. Cause we all know kissing is one thing, but deep making out is what people love. 

As a provider I get where he’s coming from. If he’s a regular at this point, I think communication is always key to getting things across. Try letting him know you enjoy seeing him and you’ll contact him when you’re ready to meet. It’s no harm, cause you’re not rejecting him you’re simply letting him know you’ll be in touch. 

On 11/13/2021 at 10:11 AM, ButchAtl said:

As a client I appreciate traveling escorts who don't stay in downtown Atlanta.  Its not a terrible place, but there is usually a parking thing to contend with.

With COVID, even taking MARTA downtown, while sometimes ok, takes more time. 

More importantly for me, due to the large geographical metro Atlanta  area, is simply knowing the location before arranging a meeting. Some escorts seem reluctant to divulge their location prior to an making an actual appointment.  I have no idea why. 

Yeah that’s when I agree, like Midtown or surrounding areas. I always try to stay in midtown if I can when in ATL. 

On 11/15/2021 at 3:42 PM, ArmyHands said:

For me it's 100% Def when there first response is only asking only for My Pvt D!!-Pics before they even book a session....

Always! I always say at least start a conversation and converse with me. If I see someone request pictures, I’ll reach out and say hello and lots of times they’ll just ignore. I think a lot of guys don’t realize that you can see that they’ve read the message with the double check marks. 🧐

The only time I’ve stopped responding to a clients message, is when flaked on several times. Always set something up, then the day comes and then doesn’t answer texts or nothing. Then will show up out of no where and do it all over again. 

Both things aren’t contagious and things you cannot help, so it’s not my place to judge anyone who has them. 

I am yes. I do believe that regardless that “it’s a job” you still treat people with respect like you would in the outside world. Obviously we all have different moods, and different people bring those out at times, but as a whole you treat people the same. In my personal life I still wanna make people feel good, that should be the same otherwise.

I hate hotels that require key cards. I try to avoid it but, honestly sometimes you can’t. If they require I don’t mind meeting downstairs to get the client.

I feel when most who people visit a major city, they’re usually staying in that city area. Whether it be an Uptown, Downtown, Midtown, or a central familiar neighborhood It’s been done to me a lot when visiting major cities, when they live way way on the outskirts of the city. Some clients don’t wanna come all the way downtown or such, but don’t wanna figure a way to get you to them. Also, in consideration that most people flying in from a another city, usually don’t have a car. Like I’ve said in the beginning most people visiting cities are visiting that city, not the outskirts. Two people have to work together to make meeting happen, it can’t be just the provider. 

I think a mix of both. The regular clients are the ones who’ve you’ve made connection with and are guaranteed. I’d also meet new clients along the way as well. I have no problem making time for anyone in my schedule, that’s why I prefer to plan meetings. The experience with each client should be the same, performance wise and not half ass. 

I don’t mind taking an appointment the day off as long as there’s some planning to it. I’d prefer to plan it honestly, but I don’t mind. The late at night calls usually depend though, cause if I wasn’t expecting anything and I head to bed sometimes it gets missed. I always say the best way to reach me anytime is through text message cause i don’t get those notifications unless I’m directly on the site. Sometimes there’s too much back and forth too!   

Think it just all depends on what the two parties agree on. Some talk before hand on what’s expected sexually, rate, interests, etc; I usually talk to clients prior to meeting. An experienced provider also will always make you feel comfortable. Just have fun 😘

He’s gonna feel the way he feels, but honestly it’s prob best that y’all went separate ways. Being judgy based on something that has to do with sex is dumb. The right guy won’t judge you for what you do, but support you.

It’s definitely a kink, because of the anonymous aspect of it.

Definitely vaccinated! I love to kiss as well, I’ll also agree and add to what everyone else has said with the bs and time wasting. There’s a lot “potential” clients that like just talking about it rather than doing it. Or the fake bookings, where they don’t show up or even answer the phone. Gotta learn to just move on and make room for people who are serious, cause I don’t have patience for games. Clear communication always makes everything so much more easier. Some are good with it and some aren’t.  We’re all adults here. 

I don’t think there is a reverse thing, but just as you can search for providers on RM we can search for clients in different areas as well. Part of being a provider is not knowing who’s walking in the door. There’s sorta an anticipation with that for me. I’ve had some clients send pictures, or some already have them listed on their profiles. I usually list what I’m into sexually so it gives a better idea.

I don’t mind either way, ive had some clients worry that the two providers wouldn’t be into each other/compatible. So in cases like that it’s good for me to pick someone out that we’d both like. I’ve been in situations where a provider has contacting me about a client wanting a 3some and the providers chose, also I’ve had the client call while with the provider already. Anytime I’ve ever done it, it’s always been a good experience

I’ve never had security, but usually if it’s a late late night sometimes the client usually has been up for quite some time. I’ve never been in a situation where I’ve worried about my safety though. 

I don’t think so. As many know bathhouses can be hit or miss and can be really bad or could be good. It’s def a lot different being that when you hire someone you know what you’re gonna get.

Both. Personality goes a long way at the end of the day, so when you click with someone it’s always a plus. Also tipping is nice too, because not everyone does it! 

Poppers, Lube, Gum, Mints, Toothbrush, Mouthwash

 The esstientials depending on what’s requested 

I get the personal private life thing separate from work. Some guys may like the mystery, but honestly most guys wanna see your face. You’d be booked a lot more if your face was just there. Just my opinion and from past experiences.