KensingtonHomo

Same. I like men of all gender expressions as long as it feels authentic. All gender is performance but I can tell when someone is overemphasizing their masculinity. Now, if there's a particular scene where over emphasis is desired, that's fine. But a straight guy who comes in with a bunch of preconditions and talks about his girlfriend, it a hard no.

I prefer gay or bi (or pan, for that matter). I don't see the point in hiring someone who won't be attracted to me (always a risk) and is likely to be very limited in what they're willing to do. Plus I don't generally like or enjoy the company of straight men. Some of my best hiring experiences have been with bi or pan guys who are just really into sex.

I haven't had this come up too much, but I think if you're seeing someone weekly or monthly, it's on them to disclose a rate increase. However, if it's been months or a year, I would confirm. We had a regular who has since exploded in porn, and I've been thinking of seeing him again, and I will definitely confirm the rate.

Interesting. I've never really noticed a difference.

Insane behavior because as a bottom, I generally can't feel the difference.

His profile suggests English isn’t his first language and just shows his feet (🤮) and a crotch pic. Edit: I wasn’t logged in. He looks hot but not enough information for me to hire.

Yes. I have a good friend who is a film editor and the contraction of film and TV production due to the strikes and Marvel bubble are definitely impacting the entertainment industry. And then inflation is hitting us all, which means less disposable income. ☹️

I’m a client but being asked for information that is clearly available on my business’ website or another document is incredibly annoying. Before I reach out to a provider, I’ve read their profile, reviews and searched here. It’s also why I hate “Ask Me” as a price, because it forces me to ask. One thing I will generally ask is the rate for erotic massage in case it’s more than what is listed as the base.

Same. I also find 99% of men’s feet gross. So ads that have guys feet or that pose where they’re smelling their own pits are an automatic “no.” But I have a general aversion to strong scents of any kind. I don’t mind the slight scent most people have when recently showered but without deodorant. That’s usually how I prepare. But if I was going to be out and then meeting someone later I would put on deodorant.

That's insane. So weird, I was checking out his profile because we're supposed to be in DC at the same time this weekend. I ultimately ruled him out because he's a "total top" and identifies as "straight." No judgement but that's not for me.

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Oof, those are all too much for me. 🤣

I'm sure lots of bi or closeted guys are squeaky clean, but there is at least a lot of cultural conversation about how "straight" men are not good at being clean in their butt. For me, I tend to avoid ass play with any guy who isn't vers or a bottom. Because I've seen even lifelong gay tops be bad at anal hygiene.

As a client, I would be SO horrified to be anything less than spotlessly hygienic and fresh-smelling. A provider is well within his right to suggest a client rinse off if that's false. Do you see a correlation between closeted or married men and the lack of hygiene?

I've said this elsewhere, but I'm not a big tipper because the provider controls their rate and keeps all of it. I've never had an issue. If a guy blows my mind, I might tip but it's rare. That said, if the hotel parking cost is what puts you over the edge, maybe this isn't the provider for you.

I’ve paid deposits and will continue to do so for well-reviewed and seemingly established escorts. I’ve never once been burned. Perhaps I’ve been incredibly lucky or very good in my vetting. But I don’t think it’s unreasonable for a provider to request a nominal ($25-$50) deposit. Generally, it’s only required the first time. And if you are using Venmo or PayPal, it often requires the escort to reveal their actual name or business name. So they’re also exposing themselves.

I'm biased because I wear a cross 24/7 and only take it off if I'm being massaged. But I don't mind any jewelry as long as it doesn't cause physical discomfort. I agree that a nice chain between pecs can be hot.

Really? That hasn't been my experience.

I’ve only experienced this a few times. Even a highly erotic massage usually doesn’t include making out.

I agree with @Thique. Plenty of fish.

Your life experience - fascinating though it is - is irrelevant to living in a hetero-patriarchal society. A single mother raised me, and I have worked mainly in women-majority fields, but that doesn't change the fact that our society is dominated by men, who occupy most elected offices, run most companies, have most of the money, etc. Even the gains women have made in the past 50 years or so are primarily based on them doing double duty (family AND career) or fitting into patriarchal structures. I'm an SA survivor with rape fantasies. I don't have any moral or ethical issues with anyone's kink (as long as everyone is a consenting adult), but I find the attraction curious as I don't experience it. Once I learn a man is straight, my desire vanishes.

Girl, it would help if you spent more time with gay guys. Maybe you'd learn how to read and throw shade because this is weak tea. In your sad attempt to shade me, you have to go back in time to my twink days - imagine I was not desirable (rather than the reality that I was beating them off with a stick because I was very prudish due to HIV) - and then further ignore the reality that a significant percentage of younger men (20s to early 30s) are attracted to older men, hence all the "daddy" discourse and porn.

JFC, you sound like Tucker Carlson. There is no such thing as "Lesbian Equality Theory." If you're referring to Queer Theory, that also has nothing to do with "pretending we're all the same." Men are not "wired" in one particular way. This is you buying into a misogynistic lie propagated by patriarchal social norms that refer to what makes women sexually desirable, e.g., hip-to-breast ratio, relative youth, body fat distribution, etc. To the extent men are attracted to women based on those criteria, it's because they appear fertile and capable of carrying a pregnancy to term. There is no correlation for same-sex/gender desire. You're not attracted to a twunk because he's likely to become pregnant and have a viable pregnancy. This is like anti-trans people claiming we're attracted to chromosomes.

My husband is 6’1” and a lean 180. I’m a bit shorter and thicker with an ass most 25 year olds envy. The guys we can fuck for free are all hot and generally 15-20 years our junior. It seems to me that you and PA project both your narrow views of attractiveness AND your experience onto everyone on this forum. Maybe stop doing that.

I have never HAD to pay for sex, though I was offered several sex work jobs in my 20s, as a dancer and an escort. My guess is you don’t HAVE to pay either, but you choose to because a) you have a specific type that you’d find hard to get on an app and b) you’re busy and don’t want to invest the time. What I find odd about you and @marylander1940 is that you’re not happy to just hire guys and trade tips. You have to constantly berate other people’s tastes, bodies, interests, and desires. And now you’re on this whole DARVO (look it up) response with me, where you’re trying to cast me as the bad guy “gatekeeper” for calling out your shitty behavior.