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Did he change his photos because I don't see anything in off-putting?

My husband and I have debated taking a provider we've been seeing for a while to Provincetown with us. But, I wouldn't want it to be for the entire trip. We've held off because that might be weird.

I don’t love 70s bush but I can work with it; especially if the dick is big. But I love kissing and I feel like I’d be flossing.

It depends on how specific these scenarios are. If it’s simple mechanics: you want to get DP’d while getting face fucked, that’s simple enough. If you’re looking for more of a role play situation, you probably need to articulate them fairly well.

Same. He’s hot but I can’t do the ZZ Top beard.

I thought it was higher but that’s what all the research said

We saw him about two years ago for a threesome. He's cute, but he was overly aggressive while topping and hurt me (not in a good way). It wasn't intentional, more reckless. So we wouldn't see him again.

I couldn't care less what some uptight doorman thinks of me.

In my experience with men of this ilk (of all sexualities), the younger paramour is a hedge against their own aging. It’s a kind of arrested development. They don’t want someone to age with as a peer. I also consider it bad form to have a younger man with you for 10-15 years and then toss him out with no resources. I dated a wealthy man 12 years my senior when I was 21. He was gorgeous - like a refined Harry Connick Jr, great lover, generous, and quite chivalrous. But when he talked about his college boyfriend, he was horrified that his ex had aged. I saw a photo of them in college (when the ex was a dead ringer for me - slim, twinky ginger with wavy hair and green eyes) and a current photo which showed a man in his 30s who was handsome and fit with a receding hairline. Though we saw each for a few more months, I knew in that moment that my value to him had an expiration date. I had no interest in becoming dependent or even used to a life that would inevitably be taken from me. He’s in his 60s now and seems to have never married.🤷🏻

If he is genuinely a 39-year-old, Ivy League-educated software engineer, I suspect his future lies in tech rather than finding another sugar daddy. Dumb of him not to get his paramour to marry him. At least then he'd get something in the divorce. Wealthy men in their 60s, 70s, or 80s wanting to forever be with a 20-something is grotesque. They don't want a partner but a pet or an employee. 🤢

I've both hosted providers at hotels and visited them. As others have said, the key thing is to be discreet and not draw attention to yourself, whether you're a client or provider.

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I cannot think of any but that may be because they tend to set their location as "Manhattan."

I'm not even a provider and I'm so tired of these threads. It seems like once a week someone posts about the "outrageous prices" being charged. It seems to me that most providers have a second—or maybe primary — job, or they're in school or pursuing a nascent career that doesn't support them yet. So, as @Jamie21, some are pricing themselves so they see 1-2 clients per week. And that's what they want. If they can see 4-6 clients per month and make $2,000-$3,000. That's a studio apartment in NYC. Let's say their day job or studies brings in another $2,000 per month, that's a good living in NYC. If the same guy charges $300/hour, he has to see 3-4 people a week. Now, even in NYC, there are plenty of guys charging $300-$350 an hour. Most of the guys I see are in that range. We also often see guys for a minimum of 90 minutes and they usually discount the second hour. I do think that as the economy moves into recession (or worse) you'll see more guys getting in the market, and clients cutting back which may lead to a decrease in prices. But it doesn't seem to have happened yet.

He's not new. He's been on Rent.men for ages; kind of mixed reviews.

We generally don't hire beyond 2 hours. But often a provider will discount the second hour. So if their rate is $300/hour, they'll do 2 for $500.

Not to beat a dead horse, but you having a contract gives you more protections than an employee that’s “at will.” Without knowing more about this member’s situation it’s hard to say if he’s dealing with embarrassment or something more dangerous to his wellbeing.

Family is perhaps Jude embarrassment but we don’t know if he’s married or something that could cause a real upset. And because hiring is illegal - presuming he’s in the US - it’s possible that his employer finding out could cost him his job. If he’s not in a union or working for a government agency, most private employers are “at will” and can fire someone without cause.

Well now I feel empowered to insist on a certain length!

I have a preference for moderate to very hairy guys, so that's what I search for. I find that many providers have photos where they are shown with body hair in some and shaved/waxed in others. What I'm wondering is whether or not I should ask if the provider is current "natural" or shaved/waxed. I tend not to want a provider to feel pressured to change anything about themselves for me. And if they just shaved or waxed, there's nothing they can do to grow their hair back. I'm curious to know if clients ask about this and if providers are open to discussing it.

I reached out to him this week. After an initial chat, he asked to move to Telegram to share his face pics. That was fine. I said what and when we were looking for. I asked his for his rate and pics. He responded by saying he's "all top", which mostly means he doesn't give oral. I said that wasn't mandatory. That was 8/27. 8/28 - I asked how he was doing and that we'd like to see his face. He said he great and then went quiet. 8/29 - He said he was "sorry for the delay and happy to share" but before he does he wants to know a bit more about what we're looking for." I explained (again) and he responded saying he wasn't available at the time we had discussed three days earlier and asked if that was a "deal breaker." He never sent a face pic. I replied saying it was and it was likely for the best because he doesn't seem that into meeting. My take is he's not really so much a provider as someone who monetizes his sex life when it's convenient for him.

Are you talking about specific providers? Or just general experiences?

Ugh, that's the worst. $300 for 90 minute sensual massage that has upsells is ridiculous.

He's also on Rentmasseur so maybe more than therapeutic.

Co-signing Marcus and Wagner. They're both gorgeous, mature, kind and give really good, sensual/erotic massages.