KensingtonHomo

8 hours ago, NJF said:

It really depends on what you are prepping for. A large one needs deeper douching.

No, because unless the penis can make a sharp turn into the sigmoid colon, it doesn't go beyond the rectum. If you're douching goes beyond the rectum, you are then cleaning out your colon which is unnecessary unless you're into fisting, and makes it a multi-hour process. 

6 hours ago, MmM said:

The last couple of times I bottomed ended with a bit of stain on the towel. So today I tried a full prep enema of my left colon. That is so involved! I mean it's a commitment! I don't know if I am gonna do that again. I'll stick with psyllium pills and  the one-bulb douche prep and hope for the best! 

If you go passed cleaning out the rectum, you're asking for trouble. Too many guys are over-douching and leaving water in their colons. 

I don’t have an issue getting responses. I’d say 80 percent respond. 

i think your issue is you’re not asking a question or giving a time frame. Maybe you if you give a time “are you available next Monday or Tuesday? If so, can you tell me what your rates are?” 

I also sometimes give a vague description like “I’m a married professional guy who enjoys erotic massage.” 

2 hours ago, BOZO T CLOWN said:

Just to recap......
From Central Park to Chelsea to East Midtown to Coney Island to the Lower East Side to the Upper East Side to Midwood to near the Brooklyn Navy Yard.....

One can get dizzy trying to catch him.  And all of those location changes for an overpriced, mediocre, unfulfilling massage .

BTC

I didn’t say the massage was medicore. It was actually pretty good. 

I saw Dniel today. He's very nice and looks great. I had explicitly asked for an erotic massage in our texts, but it didn't even go into sensual. The massage was very good. 

On my way out, I asked if he ever does a more erotic massage. He said he has done it in the past, but he's seeing someone and doesn't feel comfortable. 

It was a good massage, but as it was purely therapeutic, I wouldn't pay his rate again. 

On 4/20/2024 at 2:32 PM, DWnyc said:

I think “straight” in this context gives an out to act totally disinterested and even rude - and that does actually attract some people … in terms of signaling what the attitude will be during the session 

I wonder if this is because some guys don't know how to ask a provider for the scene they want. I can see wanting to enact a straight bro scene or a bullied scene. It can be hot to work out your trauma. But desiring someone who categorically will not desire you, is not for me. 

I reached out to him once but he never responded. 

1 hour ago, DrownedBoy said:

I have a "gay activist" background as well, and always felt that looking for straight and "straight acting" men was a sign of internalized homophobia.  I'm afraid I still.do - it shows a lack of self respect.

Same. I like men of all gender expressions as long as it feels authentic. All gender is performance but I can tell when someone is overemphasizing their masculinity. Now, if there's a particular scene where over emphasis is desired, that's fine. But a straight guy who comes in with a bunch of preconditions and talks about his girlfriend, it a hard no. 

I prefer gay or bi (or pan, for that matter). I don't see the point in hiring someone who won't be attracted to me (always a risk) and is likely to be very limited in what they're willing to do.  Plus I don't generally like or enjoy the company of straight men.  

Some of my best hiring experiences have been with bi or pan guys who are just really into sex. 

I haven't had this come up too much, but I think if you're seeing someone weekly or monthly, it's on them to disclose a rate increase. However, if it's been months or a year, I would confirm. We had a regular who has since exploded in porn, and I've been thinking of seeing him again, and I will definitely confirm the rate. 

3 hours ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

As a bottom client, I can feel the difference with a condom and without.  I won't hire an escort if he's going to use a condom (I verify in advance if bareback is okay).  With a hookup, I don't mind if he uses a condom for whatever reason.  I just don't want to pay for that experience.

Interesting. I've never really noticed a difference. 

2 hours ago, nycman said:

Yes and yes.

And yes, I’ve been "condom shamed" by bottoms for using a condom.
I just laugh in their face and leave.
I’m not fucking a moron.

Insane behavior because as a bottom, I generally can't feel the difference. 

His profile suggests English isn’t his first language and just shows his feet (🤮) and a crotch pic. 
 

Edit: I wasn’t logged in. He looks hot but not enough information for me to hire. 

13 minutes ago, MWEHO said:

I had a facial and massage business I opened in 2016 that I had to close this year due to the economy. Many of my clients work in entertainment , so the LA strikes took me out. The economy is proving to still be tough. 

Yes. I have a good friend who is a film editor and the contraction of film and TV production due to the strikes and Marvel bubble are definitely impacting the entertainment industry. And then inflation is hitting us all, which means less disposable income. ☹️

On 4/7/2024 at 4:56 AM, Vulgarii said:

I hate it when clients ask me what my rates are and what kind of massages. Do they just text people without reading anything? I know most, if not all, are not confirming nor testing me.

I’m a client but being asked for information that is clearly available on my business’ website or another document is incredibly annoying. Before I reach out to a provider, I’ve read their profile, reviews and searched here. It’s also why I hate “Ask Me” as a price, because it forces me to ask.

One thing I will generally ask is the rate for erotic massage in case it’s more than what is listed as the base. 

6 hours ago, Italiano said:

"Manscent" is a total turn off for me.

I remember in two occasions, one almost 40 years ago in Milan and one about 20 in Prague,  having invited a GORGEOUS man at my place, and when in bed the unpleasant surprise of a smelly crotch and pits. It was like watching and savoring  a delicious cake but finding a dead fly on it. 🤢

Same. I also find 99% of men’s feet gross. So ads that have guys feet or that pose where they’re smelling their own pits are an automatic “no.”

But I have a general aversion to strong scents of any kind. I don’t mind the slight scent most people have when recently showered but without deodorant. That’s usually how I prepare. But if I was going to be out and then meeting someone later I would put on deodorant. 

That's insane. 

So weird, I was checking out his profile because we're supposed to be in DC at the same time this weekend. I ultimately ruled him out because he's a "total top" and identifies as "straight." No judgement but that's not for me. 

As a bottom, I'm very partial to Hello Cake products. For anal, I love the Tush Cush brand, which is a mix of water-based and silicone. It's very creamy so it doesn't feel slick like water based lubes. It helps me relax and open up more easily. Though we do use Uber lube and Swiss Army as well for jerking off, and I'll use Swiss Army with a lube launcher if I'm with someone who is very hung. 

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Oof, those are all too much for me. 🤣

14 hours ago, jmichaeliii said:

I am so OCD about being clean for a provider.   It would be mortifying to me to be anything but.  And I am a closeted married man.

I'm sure lots of bi or closeted guys are squeaky clean, but there is at least a lot of cultural conversation about how "straight" men are not good at being clean in their butt. For me, I tend to avoid ass play with any guy who isn't vers or a bottom. Because I've seen even lifelong gay tops be bad at anal hygiene. 

As a client, I would be SO horrified to be anything less than spotlessly hygienic and fresh-smelling. A provider is well within his right to suggest a client rinse off if that's false. 

Do you see a correlation between closeted or married men and the lack of hygiene? 

I've said this elsewhere, but I'm not a big tipper because the provider controls their rate and keeps all of it. I've never had an issue. If a guy blows my mind, I might tip but it's rare. That said, if the hotel parking cost is what puts you over the edge, maybe this isn't the provider for you. 

I’ve paid deposits and will continue to do so for well-reviewed and seemingly established escorts. I’ve never once been burned. 

Perhaps I’ve been incredibly lucky or very good in my vetting. But I don’t think it’s unreasonable for a provider to request a nominal ($25-$50) deposit. Generally, it’s only required the first time. 

And if you are using Venmo or PayPal, it often requires the escort to reveal their actual name or business name. So they’re also exposing themselves. 

I'm biased because I wear a cross 24/7 and only take it off if I'm being massaged. But I don't mind any jewelry as long as it doesn't cause physical discomfort. I agree that a nice chain between pecs can be hot. 

14 minutes ago, Mydavid said:

A lot of escorts are not willing to French kiss either.

Really? That hasn't been my experience.