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I have had several dates, and one long term relationship, with men I met on Grindr, Adam 4 Adam, and Growlr.

First of all…breathe and relax. The guy is probably trying to get you so freaked out that you will send him money. And once you do that, he will ask for more money and keep asking. 
 
Your to-do list:
1. Dont respond to him. If you had a fixed appointment (day/time/location) and you did not show up, in my book you owe him a cancellation fee, otherwise you owe him nothing.
2. If he keeps bugging you, simply respond: “You are harassing me and I am keeping evidence of your threats - if you dont stop immediately my attorney will contact the police and file a complaint”.
3. Never use your actual phone number when setting up appointments with guys.  Get the “Burner” app which gives you a disposable number you can use. You can even link Whatsapp to that number if you wish.   I dont know how he could hack you with your phone number. You can reach out to Rentmen to have your account reopened and the password reset. 
 
4. Remember, scammers rely on fear to get to you. Brush it off, dont engage and move on. 
 

The only time I ever got mugged was walking home one night to Harnwell House…some guy told me he had a bomb and was gonna blow me up. I just kept walking. To this day I always wonder if that was Ted Africa. 
 
Other than that I have occasional fond memories of my undergrad years at Penn

I’m lucky. I have two guys that I love seeing on repeat. Amazing guys. Amazing times. Especially with rates where they are now, I have very little tolerance to experiment and then be disappointed. I have become more risk averse. 

The majority of the guys in my second tier city are about 80% of what I really want. When I am spending top dollar for an encounter and leave feeling like I missed something, it takes a while for me to want to repeat. 

I honestly only leave a review if I’m going to leave 5 stars and I really like the provider and I want others to support their work.  Like others said sometimes providers might take anything less than 5 stars as a negative even though 4 out of 5 stars is really good. Think of it like Uber ratings. Anything less than a 5 star ride is kinda frowned upon. In reference to hiring if I’m less than satisfied it’s usually not a big enough deal for me to leave a review unless it was a serious issue that other clients should be aware of. Otherwise I usually just make a post here in the forum. 

Even though I'm in a major US city with tons of guys, I'm definitely picky about who I hire as I don't necessarily find most guys out there to be attractive, or at least attractive enough to be worth the money. There was one escort that I was interested in seeing in my area but he ended up ghosting me on the day of our appointment and I haven't really cared to reach out to any others at the moment, although I do look on RM here and there. How many of you aren't booking due to lack of interest in guys in your area rather than funding?

I’m 99% text. I’ll do a brief chat if the escort insists, but honestly I dislike it. I prefer the surprise of hearing his voice for the first time when he shows up. I’m not real sure how much useful information they can get from talking to me that they can’t get texts. I really like deep male voices, but even the most fey queen can usually butch it up for an hour, so it’s rarely a problem.  

Ditto - text only. I've had providers call me, which I found annoying and never ended up well.
Also, I can use my translator when I text.

At the advice of a friend I recently took up wrestling. I’d never thought of it as a fetish per se, but it does make me ultra horny. 

I think your perspective definitely changes when you see likable people enjoying things that previously seemed off putting. I was never much into feet until I hooked up one day with a foot fetishist who wanted to jerk off using my feet. It was surprisingly hot and it did make me think about it. Likewise, an escort I hired asked if he could tie me up and fuck me- something I would have never considered but the whole experience was so sensual that I would gladly do it again

Most definitely love well groomed hands and short filed fingernails. Mail polish is a huge turnoff for me
Along the same lines I also like guys who trim toenails as well

It shows that the provider cares. I would be thrilled to know that the provider has that level of commitment to ensure a good time 

In a few cases I’ve pushed the envelope a bit by hiring for 2 hrs…an hr of massage and an adjacent hour of BFE. This clarifies things and makes for a more enjoyable, predictable experience 

It shows that the provider cares. I would be thrilled to know that the provider has that level of commitment to ensure a good time 

In a few cases I’ve pushed the envelope a bit by hiring for 2 hrs…an hr of massage and an adjacent hour of BFE. This clarifies things and makes for a more enjoyable, predictable experience 

I’ve had a handful of massage guys who would do a little more sexually with each subsequent visit as they got more comfortable with me

I had the “talk” with my son when he told me at 14 that he was ready for porn. Since he brought the topic up it was a perfect opportunity. We agreed to get a family subscription to Playboy. I was also able to have the j/o discussion with him as well…
Despite all efforts he turned out to be fairly normal

I’ve done a lot of 3-somes but ONLY if I’ve met one of the partners previously.

In a few cases I’ve pushed the envelope a bit by hiring for 2 hrs…an hr of massage and an adjacent hour of BFE. This clarifies things and makes for a more enjoyable, predictable experience 

Usually making money trumps spending money 

I like walking around the house with tshirts and shorts. 71 daytime and 67 overnight

I like walking around the house with tshirts and shorts. 71 daytime and 67 overnight

I like walking around the house with tshirts and shorts. 71 daytime and 67 overnight

In a few cases I’ve pushed the envelope a bit by hiring for 2 hrs…an hr of massage and an adjacent hour of BFE. This clarifies things and makes for a more enjoyable, predictable experience