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Because I’m in a relationship that is no longer physical and occasionally feel the urge to get my rocks off (outside of jerking to porn). I justify in my head that if I’m paying for it then it’s not cheating. There’s no drama - I pay the guy for a service and once the session is over I’m satisfied until the next time. 

Amen. This is the answer, right here.

I tried the gay dating apps and it’s an exercise in extreme patience and frustration, time wasted and endless chats that lead to nowhere. Not to mention the endless flakes and crazies out there - I deleted all of them. While hiring is expensive, it’s significantly less frustrating and way easier to find your type guy. 

The police have other priorities, like pardoning sex traffickers 

The police have other priorities, like pardoning sex traffickers 

The police have other priorities, like pardoning sex traffickers 

Time is money. Hiring an escort cuts to the chase at your convenience

Time is money. Hiring an escort cuts to the chase at your convenience

The police have other priorities, like pardoning sex traffickers 

You've hit the jackpot.
Pay that guy / tip him well / call him often.

One of the reasons why I think the golden age of hiring (at least in the U.S.) was 25 years ago.  Craigslist facilitated exactly the kind meetings you describe.  As a client, when I was actively looking for someone I'd just refresh their men looking for men page (and I think they had another, more explicitly professional category) until I found someone I liked.  Send an email through Craigslist servers and, if the guy was still available, I'd hear back quickly.  A lot of guys who were doing this more as side-work would only keep their post up until they got a client, and then repost their ad the next time they were available.  I hired off Craigslist more than Rentboy for a variety of reasons, but the main one was that I liked the immediacy of it.  I don't know why, but a lot of times when providers with ads on mainstream sites have their "available now" indicator on they don't actually seem to even be monitoring their texts or inboxes because they take hours to reply to inquiries (if they reply at all).
I don't know of a site where you can advertise like this today.  I guess you could try Adam4Adam and just have your most of your photos private, only unlocking them only when you get a serious inquiry. 
 

Because the apps are trash. Bars are dead. Cruising the park has no appeal.
Hiring gets me exactly what I want, when I want, and with who I want. 

Because it's often less expensive than dinner and a movie for two, and way cheaper than getting married then divorced.

I don't pay for sex. I pay for them to leave.

1. Convenience- hiring allows me to select a guy who can host in a convenient location at a convenient time.  No endless back and forth or messaging dozens of guys with no responses.
2. Safety- a guy with reviews on here and RM is more vetted than a stranger on an app.
3. Sexual health- providers are more likely to get tested often (and be on prep etc) as their careers depend on it.  I also have less apprehension requiring condoms since I’m the one paying and thus calling the shots.
4. Activities- I can engage in whatever (consensual) activities I like without fear of judgement or worrying about pleasing my partner (though of course I still want him to have a good time).  And their sexual prowess and experience allows them to better work with my relative inexperience.
5. Attractiveness- I can select a guy with any “look” I’m in the mood for and who would not be likely to give me time of day on an app.

I hire because it's easy. The apps are a pain.
Also, I like younger, muscular guys and being in my 60s and out of shape, they aren't doing it for free.

Prompted by this reminder, it’s probably appropriate to point out that everyone has a bad day every now and then. As to JesTwink’s response to the situation, I’d note that it’s embedded in immaturity (in the same way I might have done decades ago), youthful exuberance, and delusions of invincibility.  Immaturity is not something uncommon to someone billing themselves as a twink.  
While he’s received quite the public flogging here and should feel embarrassed by his behavior,  maybe it’s time for us to be the greater men and let this one fade into oblivion?  As @Alchemy notes, there are those who found no fault with this guy.    I know I’ve doubled down on bad mistakes in my youth, I’ve learned from them, and adjusted my future behavior accordingly.  
I'm glad the internet didn’t exist when I was young. ( My first professional performance review said “Phileas needs to understand that sugar attracts more flies than vinegar”…criticism I learned from and took seriously for the next four decades)
Therefore, if it were a vote (and I deferentially note it’s NOT a vote), I’d favor letting this guy go from this endless loop of pinned criticism.
There, I clear my throat, look down at the podium, turn a little red as I swallow hard - and get off my soapbox. 🙃

Greetings folks...
As you might have noticed, this site has been offline since around mid-day Tuesday.   Our prior hosting provider decided that they are unable to continue hosting our website and had ended service to us.  Unfortunately they did not provide any notification to me about this decision and I was forced to move the site to a new server without any sort of heads up.  This includes arranging for the new hosting company, configuring the new server to meet the technical requirements, getting a copy of our current data, restoring that data (over 300GB of files), recovering the database (over 18.5 million records in that database taking up 11GB of space for the DB alone), and reconfiguring the software itself to run in the new environment.  
While migrating there was also some technical issues that I ran into that required me to coordinate with Invision's technical support team.  So that back and forth added additional time to the mix as well.  
And to pile on further… all of this occurred while I'm traveling for my day job. So I've been doing this while in a hotel in between doing my day job on the road.  
There are most likely several other things that will need to be fixed still and I'm working through them.  For example, email may only be partially working.  I still need to setup things like SPF and DKIM for the new server so our emails don't flag as spam.  There are other settings that might need to be redone to work in the new server as well that I'm not thinking about yet.  (As you might have imagined, I've not had much sleep during this whole process.)
But anyway... you get the idea.  No... we're not going anywhere!  This was a minor setback but we'll continue to move forward.  Thank you all for your understanding and support!
Rob

If someone has a deposit policy in place, it’s best to respect it or move on. Asking for exceptions puts them in an awkward position and can set the tone off from the start. You want your first meeting to be based on mutual trust and clear expectations, not special treatment. That way, no one feels taken advantage of later.

There are times when I want an escort but I just don’t feel like prepping for anal. It would be a relief sometimes to not have to deal with that

There are times when I want an escort but I just don’t feel like prepping for anal. It would be a relief sometimes to not have to deal with that

I tip my massage guy 25%. Every time I see him he does a little more and adds a little extra time to the session. You get what you pay for.

Another interesting point. I think @Jamie21 made a similar observation about guys hiring him after having seen some of his collaborations.
No matter the situation, I have learned that it’s often better to suspend expectations because you normally are disappointed. Great expectations lead to great disappointments.

I see the same guy every month. He varies things up each time so it’s always a little different. I also enjoy our conversations.

I see the same guy every month. He varies things up each time so it’s always a little different. I also enjoy our conversations.