Jamie21

Great advice 🙂. I like the direct question approach for work. If it’s a work situation directness (without being rude or coming across blunt) is much the best approach, both on the part of the hirer and the provider. I made the Grindr mistake when I was new to the work… I’ve wised up since! Clients who hire through apps are generally not the kind of client I’m after. Those won through recommendation or via my advertising or website are those who have generally made a more considered decision to hire.

Happened to me. I was on Grindr for non work purposes although I hardly ever used it unless I was travelling: It seemed to be useful for a hookup if I happened to be in a new place. I guess being ‘fresh meat’ in a new town makes you more interesting so I’d had a few nice encounters but I never found it worthwhile to use mainly because I try to keep my sexual energy for my work. Most of the interactions I’d had on Grindr were from time wasters or guys I wasn’t interested in or solicitation from professionals. There was a time on the app when these pro profiles had a kind of diamond symbol as code that they were pro’s without having to say so explicitly because that would have banned them. Of course it was clear from their opening conversation that they were looking for business. I think it’s ok to do that as long as you’re clear up front that it’s a paid service (Grindr could enable this and take paid adverts from pro’s but they won’t because I guess it wouldn’t be lawful across all jurisdictions). Anyway, I always ignored the professional approaches and I engaged with interesting approaches from other guys….interesting as in those that engaged in some conversation as opposed to just saying “accom?” or “fuck now”…that’s just boring. I need some chat foreplay! Anyway someone from one of these chats recognised my pics from my adverts and asked me about work. I answered him with details and linked him to my website. Unfortunately he got annoyed at having to pay my rate for a massage when I declined to discount it. He reckoned that if I included sex as part of the massage then I could do it free or cheaper because “if we hooked up I’d have fucked him anyway”!! I told him massage was my work and if he wanted to hire me professionally then he’d have to pay my rate. That pissed him off and he complained to Grindr so I got a ban. Annoying. So I now never use Grindr.

If I’m travelling it’s for a holiday so I’m not working while I’m away. My market in London is busy enough not to need to travel for clients fortunately. It seems that mostly clients travel to London and arrange their sessions with providers while they’re visiting the city. Many of my clients are from overseas. What I will do whilst away is look for guys who might want to film to collaborate on fans site movies. If I can set up a filming session while away then that’s good for content on my justforfans. Or I’ll just take some scenery shots and solo scenes in nice locations if I can’t find someone to collaborate with.

Massage on a bed is more challenging to provide. When I see clients in their hotel I always offer to bring my table because I think it’s a better massage experience. The table allows me to move freely around it and to exert pressure in the right places etc. However it’s all about what the client wants so if they ask for the bed then that’s fine, I’ll work on the bed. You can get attachments that fit on the bed so that the client can put his head in the same style head support as used on a table so that helps. I saw a regular client a couple of weeks ago at his hotel and he prefers to use the bed. We had a large King size so it was possible to move around a lot and use various positions. That session was more focused on fucking etc than massage which is what the client wanted so the bed was fine for that type of session.

I remain 25 mentally! Thank you

I use the DayUse app to rent hotels by the hour. It’s excellent. You can rent daytime for up to about 8 hours. It’s also possible to cancel without charge up to the last minute.

Then please keep visiting us over on the permissive side of the pond! I love my clients from the States, such gentlemen and extremely sexy.

So is buying and selling sexual services! Those who think it’s morally unacceptable are usually those in absolutely no position to judge others. Absolutely nothing wrong with it and it’s legal where I live. I accept cash or credit card.

I take it daily. If I’m not working for any period of time then I stop (as in during the pandemic I didn’t see any clients for months…I didn’t see anyone for months!!). I agree with @KensingtonHomo it’s to protect me. Anyone engaging in natural sex should take it. I much prefer to fuck naturally but if I’m receiving then I don’t mind if he chooses to wear a condom. However it’s always the client’s choice.

I’ve made lots of massage videos. I started out performing on a site that made soft porn type videos (no shots of anything being inserted, nothing too explicit) but I got bored of that so started to make more explicit films showing everything. The explicit films are more fun to perform in because anything goes. I can also self publish them on my Justforfans site. I think massage porn is popular because one can imagine oneself on the masseur’s table and the massage getting hot. It’s a very familiar situation for many people.

It’s inevitable rates will rise. My costs have gone up. The rental for the studio where I work has increased, fuel is more, so is advertising. All direct costs have risen. My rates are in line with the quality market for London, there’s cheaper sensual masseurs but those are the ‘here today gone tomorrow’ variety who pick and choose their clients (it’s a hobby for them) or they’re doing a ‘rub and tug’ and ‘you’re not allowed to touch me’ kind of service. I put up my rate last year for my 1 hour session by a small amount to test the market and there was no discernible impact on demand. I can see I’ll have to increase rates across the board soon though. I don’t charge for extra services, it’s all time based, but I do like to provide a full service and a proper thorough massage so I think this helps me keep busy even though there’s lots of cheaper guys in the London market. As always it’s the value that is relevant to consider, not just the price.

Wait really? Here I am inserting it in my ass thinking it’s a suppository..

Great advice. The natural stuff works. It may be real or it may be a kind of placebo affect but it doesn’t matter which as long as it works.

Doesn’t matter what the client is like. I know that may sound counter intuitive and before I started doing sex work I had the view that supposedly ‘hot’ clients would be easier to get hard with. But now I’ve seen all sorts of shape clients I realise that I can get hard for all types. If they are happy in my company then I find I’m turned on. I guess it’s why I do sex work, I enjoy it, I enjoy meeting all sorts of people and helping them with sexual exploration. That’s a turn on. Condom use is also ok although I do think it’s easier to get / stay hard without a condom.

Interesting! I must be in the 1 to 2% then who prefer clients to book in advance. If you text me for right now it’s always a “no”. I’m not laying around in bed all day waiting for clients to text. I got stuff to do! A day’s notice is needed usually, or longer if you definitely want me to be available.

Wow those are some scary stories. Everyone should be ultra careful when hiring. If there’s even a hint that your provider is on drugs, or looks too good to be true then trust your instincts and not your cock and avoid him. Look for guys who’ve been around a while, are ok to talk and engage with you, with a website or professional looking pictures and good reviews. There’s no one single thing that is a guarantee but the whole package and proposal should stack up and feel legitimate. Unfortunately there’s a lot of unprofessional chancers in the industry. But I guess that means those of us who take the work seriously will stand out.

He asked ‘I’m interested what you like not what you think others like’ so that’s how I answered. When I said I don’t need pics unless it pertains to how I should treat you then that means I need to know of any injuries or conditions because that affects how I’d treat my client. Example if he has varicose veins in legs then I’m not going to massage his legs. I’ve disabled clients, one is profoundly deaf…I need to know that, another has cerebral palsy so I need to understand that too. But what I mean is I don’t care about physical shape or looks, no need to send pictures for that. Just be healthy, clean and respectful.

Ask it all in a message, but read my profile or website first because that answers most of the normal questions. Then ask whatever else you need, no question is silly. I’m not looking for pics of you, it doesn’t matter what you look like. Stats aren’t needed either unless they pertain to how I should treat you (are you 7ft tall? Do you have one leg?… that sort of thing). And if you want to endear yourself be polite.

I guess some places you actively have to look for culture and interesting places. I’m used to London, it’s on every street corner here, built into the fabric of the city. One becomes complacent to it.

I visited Orlando a few times (not to work, I’m exclusive to London ha ha) and I have to agree. First time I visited Orlando I was excited…hotel was downtown. I hoped for an interesting vibrant local scene. It was appalling, dull, boring and void of character. I walked around (a mistake in the US obviously) and became increasingly disappointed at what I found. A really strange place. Sorry Orlando.

I tried to advertise on masseurfinder but they refused my ad and pictures. Apparently it was too erotic or sexual or something like that. I had toned it down too. They seem not to like the proposal to massage naked, which is unfortunate since it need not necessarily be considered sexual. I think the site wants to focus on non intimate style massages yet I do see masseurs on there who I know do sex work. Perhaps they do both styles and keep things separate. I think that’s challenging to avoid the ‘non intimate’ massage service from developing into more erotic or sensual styles.

Ouch, that’s bad. I never had that happen but did once bruise my cock by thrusting into a guy who moved slightly so I missed his hole and pushed against the base of his spine. It stung quite bad for a short while but we carried on (we were filming so we wanted to finish the scene). I managed to get to the end as there wasn’t long to go. Next morning I look at my cock and it’s bruised all over, dark purple, and painful. I was out of action for about 3 weeks and couldn’t fuck for another 2 weeks. Industrial injury!

Ask again. He could have read it, got busy, and then forgotten to reply. Clients contact me by email, text, Twitter DM, Insta message, message on Rentmasseur, WhatsApp, and even by handwritten letter on lilac watermarked headed paper delivered by post (ok maybe I’m exaggerating with that last one)…so messages can go astray or get lost in the noise.

Yes the preparation is the hassle. It’s easier to top. Preparation can add an hour to the time needed. I hate to be anxious about not being clear down there so I try to be thorough in preparing.

I’ve a regular client who feeds me his home made cake after our session, with a cup of tea (usually some unusual infusion). It’s quite an energetic session so the cake afterwards is very welcome. He’s an excellent baker and tea and cake afterwards is a very civilised way to finish I think. He’s a lovely guy and we have a nice chat. Last time he served up a moist sponge with apricots and a flavour of tea that I’d never heard of. The cake was delicious. I wasn’t so keen on the tea. I always think which I like best when visiting him; eating out his hole or eating the cake afterwards. It’s a difficult choice. I absolutely adore eating out holes (especially his) and I love eating cakes. Probably both complement each other. The whole thing works nicely: massage, sex, tea cake and chat. Once trust is established then I think this drinks / cake / chat part is an integral part of the session. On out calls I like to include that element if my client is happy to. It’s a happy ending in every sense.