Jamie21

I never ask for pics from clients and prefer not to receive them although sometimes they’ll send a dick pic or body pic when booking. Often it comes from guys who are anxious about their cock size or their body, as in “am I hot enough to book?”.

I’m professional, all I need to know is that they’re over age 21 and they’ve no health conditions that are contraindications for massage. I treat everyone the same regardless of their body shape or physical attributes. For me sometimes the main challenge in performing isn’t what they look like it’s how my client behaves. Behave like a dick and you’re not going to get much dick if you know what I mean. Behave with respect and we’re definitely going to have a good time.

I do think that if you’re in the business of escorting or erotic massage then you’re expected to be able to see all clients and give them all a great service. When you start vetting clients for attractiveness then you’re not really escorting you’re just getting paid to satisfy your own sexual appetite. It’s different and the client will be able to tell if he’s a 10 or a 7 when you draw the line at 5 if you know what I mean.

95% of the time I top when working, even though I’m versatile. If I’m not working, or if I’m shooting porn then it’s more like 50% bottom 50% top.

I guess I attract bottom clients. I’m hung which brings all the bottoms to the playground. It’s fine with me, I don’t have a problem to get hard, it’s more hassle to get ready to bottom so I’m good with being mostly top.

I’ve a few mates who also escort (we sometimes work together) and they say there’s a lot of bottom escorts, especially younger guys, and it’s a tougher market. I think the combination of fewer top escorts and lots of bottom clients means that tops get more work.

I’m a provider. Times are indeed tough, my income has reduced significantly but I’d never consider asking a client for payment in advance. I don’t know his circumstances but can say for myself that I put away money to cover periods when my business might fall away so I’m glad of that now. Doing work like this isn’t like getting a regular pay check so it’s important to build up a good buffer to smooth out the lean times.

If you pay him in advance I agree with others who have said it will change the dynamic. He could view your booking as an obligation rather than one entered into willingly with the expectation of payment after. For me it’s important that my client pays after the service and feels that they received a service that is well worth what they paid.

It might be different if you’ve booked for next week and he asks for part payment in advance but to ask for money on account for services yet to be arranged is a step too far. There’s too many opportunities for things to go wrong.

I’m a provider. Times are indeed tough, my income has reduced significantly but I’d never consider asking a client for payment in advance. I don’t know his circumstances but can say for myself that I put away money to cover periods when my business might fall away so I’m glad of that now. Doing work like this isn’t like getting a regular pay check so it’s important to build up a good buffer to smooth out the lean times.

If you pay him in advance I agree with others who have said it will change the dynamic. He could view your booking as an obligation rather than one entered into willingly with the expectation of payment after. For me it’s important that my client pays after the service and feels that they received a service that is well worth what they paid.

It might be different if you’ve booked for next week and he asks for part payment in advance but to ask for money on account for services yet to be arranged is a step too far. There’s too many opportunities for things to go wrong.

Yes I have, at least they said they were straight. I’m not sure a 100% straight guy would be curious enough to try though so I expect they were at least slightly bisexual or just in denial of their sexuality. Everyone is on a spectrum.

I see a lot of guys who want to explore their sexuality because visiting a sensual masseur is a safe way of testing things out. They can reassure themselves that they’re “just going for a massage” and that nothing sexual will happen if they don’t want it to. The least they’ll get is a nice massage. If they want to try out touching me that’s fine...they can do as much or as little as they like and I tell them this at the start.

Often they’ll say the areas they don’t want me to go at the start and that’s usually around their bum. Most don’t want anything internal (no fingers or cock in there) but are ok with external touch around their hole. I’d say they get blown away by rimming (usually no one has done that to them before). They also like being sucked because let’s face it, straight guys haven’t usually experienced professional sucking from a gay guy so it’s a whole next level of sucking they get, plus new cock massage techniques.

They are interested in touching me and playing with my cock but mostly I’d say they just enjoy me awakening their bodies. They’re usually not ready to suck me or kiss or anything “gay” like that in the first few massages. I think this is especially the case with guys who are from strict religious backgrounds or where there’s strong shame associated with being gay. It’s evident they want to explore but the religious programming has been so strong it prevents them from acting on those urges. It takes time for them to recover their humanity.

These ‘exploring’ clients usually book a few times and progress to wanting more each time. I’ve found that they experience a sort of sexual awakening and are eager to try out new things. Many are in marriages or relationships with women where there’s no sex of its boring so the visits to me allow them to release tension and be more relaxed. They can go at their own pace in a safe and reassuring environment. I think if you’re not sure about your sexuality it’s tough to explore this through meeting guys vis hookup apps because usually the other guy isn’t much focused on giving you a good time, he’s just looking for his own satisfaction whereas with a masseur they’re 100% focused on you.

I’m on justforfans

https://justfor.fans/MassageForHim

https://rentmasseur.com/JamieW

I started it because the massage work declined during lockdowns. I had made massage porn previously for about 4 years but that was for a specialist site. I wanted to make my own films and control the production etc so I decided to use Justforfans over Onlyfans because Justforfans is gay owned by a sex industry worker.

It takes a lot of work to make good porn. We use proper lighting, 3 or 4 cameras and professional editing. If guys want to promote their work on fans sites and make some money I think that’s great, I know how much effort it takes. If you don’t like it no one is forcing you to subscribe.

I agree that there are some very amateurish efforts on the sites where guys are charging stupid amounts to watch them masturbate in their messy bedroom filmed on a phone....those guys want something for nothing but most of the masseurs are putting up good quality content. Please support them if you are able to and if you like what they do.

I always ask at the end. It’s important my clients get satisfaction before they pay. I’ve never had anyone refuse or ask for a discount afterwards. Just one guy who said he didn’t have cash and didn’t want to pay by card...so I think he was hoping I’d say “don’t worry about paying then because you were so hot”....

He wasn’t hot and he wasn’t going to have it free. So I said I would walk with him to the cash point which was about a 5 minute walk away. It was a very awkward walk and I half expected him to run. I’m trained martial artist so he wouldn’t have got far....Anyway, we arrive at cash machine and he withdrew the cash and handed it to me. Next time he wanted to book I was busy. I don’t need chancers like that.

Guys, have payment ready, cash, card or PayPal. It’s not difficult.

I don’t expect a tip. If my clients think I did a great job or went beyond their expectations my definite preference is that they book again and become regular clients or they give me a good endorsement on my website or other places where clients can give their opinion of the service. Any decent masseur will much rather those things than a tip.

The terminology might have slightly different nuances depending on whether sexual services are legal in a jurisdiction.

I think in my experience in the UK ‘sensual’ always includes a happy ending, and therapeutic definitely doesn’t. I advertise sensual and include words like “release” and “intimate” in the description if the medium of advertising requires discretion so that my clients are in no doubt about the sexual nature of the service. The rates for sensual are usually higher than therapeutic because of the sexual activity involved, especially if the provider is fine to go further than a hand job. It should be clear from their pitch how far they’re prepared to go.

I’d recommend doing an in call if you want to relax properly. When I do outcalls to clients homes it always seems that there are distractions for them. I did a call to a client who’s phone would ring during the massage. Another time a client had his daughter was upstairs (that was a very strange massage...).

I think if it’s out call to their hotel room this is ok, I take my table and they have a good massage and can relax properly (we can also use the bed for more intimate sessions) but at their home it’s different and too many distractions exist.

Best to do in call at my studio where I can manage the environment so that you get the best and most relaxing time. Sometimes though if you’re not able to travel an out call is the only possibility of getting a massage so if that is the situation make sure your home environment is free from distractions.

Thank you for posting that info. Your service looks like a lot of fun. Wish I could travel to experience it. Twitter will have to do for now.

Hey thanks ?. If you do make it to London come along for a massage. Enjoy the Twitter ?

I use lingam massage techniques in my massage. The whole idea of sensual massage is to prolong the arousal and try to induce orgasm that doesn’t involve ejaculation because this retains the energy in the body. If you are skilled at the techniques you can keep a guy close to orgasm without him reaching ejaculation. The sensation feels like a continuous orgasm.

If a guy thinks he may not be able to hold back for the whole massage time then sometimes I start the massage with an ejaculation (in the first 5 minutes) and then he can relax and build up again more slowly through the massage to a non ejaculation orgasm, or another ejaculation orgasm

Most guys do want to orgasm and ejaculate as part of the massage however because they’re not practised at non ejaculatory orgasms. It takes a lot of practice and self control.

I’ve got some lingam demo videos on my Twitter timeline @sensualtouchco

Good info, thanks for sharing. If that is the case (not directed at you) then why not document in your bio??

Good point!! I like to put as much info about the massage and service as I can in the Rentmasseur bio. I’ve got a website for my sensual massage service so I have the link to that on my bio. Clients who are interested can then look on my website where there’s all the rates and a lot more info for them.

I prefer cash but many clients now prefer to pay by credit card or PayPal so I now accept those.

My only issue is I wish society was more approving of sex work in general. Where I live it’s legal but society likes to keep it out of sight (until of course they want to use it or tax it).

I think it should be more mainstream and not considered negatively if someone visits a sex worker for a service.

Just like going to the dentist for dental requirements or a psychiatrist for treatment then going to a sex worker for sexual requirements should be seen as a necessity especially if someone can’t or doesn’t want to satisfy their sexual needs in casual dating or with their regular partner.

Sex work is a social service and is good for society if the providers are professional. Bringing us more into mainstream will professionalise the industry.

The settings on Rentmasseur aren’t very flexible. You can only post one in call rate and one outcall rate. I have different rates depending on how long someone wants (an hour, 90 minutes, 2 hours etc) and you can’t show those. Some masseurs may have different rates also for the style of massage. This may mean it’s easier to put “ask me” in the box.

But in general I agree that often it’s because they’re pricing on the ability to pay or they’re using the ‘low cost airline’ pricing model where everything is an extra incurring an extra charge. If you start taking to a provider and he wants extra to massage naked, extra to touch x or y and extra for some ‘activities’ then it’s probably not going to be a relaxing massage.

I’m on Rentmasseur and I just publish my rate for an hour on there. It’s all inclusive for sensual massage which in my service includes sexual activity including penetration if they want that. The only time I’d make an extra charge is if they want me to travel a long way (time is money) or they want unusual or very bespoke services like a couples massage or 4 hands etc.

I’m tested every 3 months. I’m on prep so they do a health check for that too. I have a VIP card for the clinic (yes, there is such a thing!!) so I don’t need to book, I can just turn up which is convenient.

During the pandemic I’ve had periods during lockdowns of seeing very few clients (only some regulars who are alone) but I still test every 3 months whether I’ve seen 3 clients in that period or 60, it’s still important to test regularly and know your status. The clinic I use are excellent and still easy to use during the pandemic. You just see fewer people in the waiting room and wear a mask.

As an escort you don’t decide whether or not you see “high class clients”, the clients decide that. You can set yourself up as expensive or top end but if no clients take up the offer you’re not an escort atall, let alone a high class one. All you can do is price your service what you think it’s worth and then see if the market likes you. If it does, then it has decided you’re worth it. If it doesn’t then you have to decide to lower your price or get out of the business.

I set my price when I started 4 years ago and I’m getting the volume of clients I want so it’s good for me. My clients vary from extremely wealthy to students on low income. They all pay the same rate, they all get my full attention and focus. You can decide to be professional and reliable of course but you can’t decide to be “high end”; that is decided for you.

If I do an outcall I’m not strict on time. Say they book an hour, I start the time from the time the massage starts. It usually takes me 15 minutes to get the table set up and get undressed, then some chat etc. I’ll find a clock in the room or I set the time by my music which I play on a Bluetooth speaker from my phone. If we’re in a hotel there’s usually a clock beside the bed.

After the massage I’ll chat and spend some time cuddling or whatever he likes if we’ve moved from the massage table to the bed for example. I include sex as part of the massage so it starts on the table but guys find it more comfortable if we use different positions to move to the bed or shower sometimes. By the time things have cooled down it’s usually another 15 minutes then I start to pack up the table etc. So for an hours booked massage my whole time there is more like 2 hours.

Sometimes after we’ve finished and cuddled etc for a while guys get horny again and want some more sex. I always ask if they’d like to extend the time and this is an introduction to discussing extra payment. It’s not good form to discuss details like that at that point so I just say I’m very pleased they want some more and I’m happy to an extra half hour as I’m sure they’ll be generous. Most guys get the hint and pay a big tip. Overall if it’s an outcall therefore I always leave at least 2 hours free after the booking time has ended before I book anything else in.

For in calls I use a shared studio so I have to be much stricter on timings and can only go 5 minutes or so over unfortunately. My clients know this however when they book.

I answer the door in shorts and t shirt because there could be someone else at the door or I meet someone on the stairs. Then, once inside my studio I remove my top.

I give my client the choice of me starting naked or removing my shorts (or whatever I’m wearing...some guys ask me to wear a jock or backless pants or cycling shorts) during the massage. I always end up naked by the end of the massage so that they can touch me or suck me (or more) if they want to.

A lot of my clients like to feel my cock through the shorts and enjoy not knowing when or if they’ll come off. I’m extremely hung so it sometimes sticks out of the side or bottom of the shorts and they like to feel it as I massage them.

There are a lot of dynamics going on with massage that can be used to heighten the sexual tension for the client. Being part undressed is just one of them.

Mine does ok. It’s very content hungry, you have to keep putting on regular new content, of good quality (not shot on an I phone with bad lighting and wobbly camera work) and engage your audience.

I do massage porn so it has a theme. I think it’s best to have a clear theme and style and to tweak it over time. I agree with what the previous poster says about investing time. Stand out from the crowd and you’ll do ok.

Oh and promote it....like this

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My next one :-)

If I count the guys who paid me then it’s four figures. I don’t keep a full record of the non work sex.

Choose your business model and be consistent with it. Set the rate, never discount, never negotiate. Decide whether to charge a flat rate all inclusive or operate a low cost airline style service that means extras are charged for. But be consistent and provide value. There’s lots of amateurs in this business thinking they can make easy money. They don’t last long. Don’t be one of them.

There’s hot massage vids here:

https://justfor.fans/MassageForHim

My clients range from 20 to I guess 70’s possibly older. I don’t ask age unless they look under 18. I love them all. I’ve seen hundreds of guys and bad clients are rare and there’s no correlation with age in my experience. Older guys tend to be more confident in asking for what they want. Younger guys are more reticent and want to be guided.