Jamie21

I don’t necessarily see it as a ‘they versus us’ binary power dynamic. It’s much more subtle than that. There’s a mutual dependence. Why do I do sex work? Well it’s partly for the money of course, and because I like the flexibility of it but it’s also because it meets a need for me. Not for sex (tbh it rather ruins your sex life) but it meets other needs that go beyond the need to earn an income. Things to do with identity and being desired etc. So in that sense my client has a great deal of power over me even though he’s the one hiring me.

I think it’s not them being entitled.. The request for an Uber is simply a power dynamic playing out. The bottom line? Sex is about power in its various facets. Everyone who is in any way successful in this industry understands that implicitly.

You don’t have to agree to it though! If you don’t want to pay for his Uber then don’t hire him. The reason some ask for an Uber is not necessarily entitlement, it’s usually more to test the client’s motivation. I think it works quite well if you’re unsure whether the client is genuine or not.

Sleepyboy.com in the UK.

No such thing as Midtown in London! Its City or West End. Or if you want to be less specific, Zone 1 on tube. Faster to get to those locations by tube or bike than it is to take an Uber most time of the day…

Like any job some people do the job just for the money and some do it because it’s their vocation. A client will be able to tell who’s in it just for the money and who’s in it because they genuinely enjoy the work. Why shouldn’t a provider who discovers he’s good at the work not get paid for it just like any job? If you enjoy the work you don’t see clients as ATM’s but as customers to keep happy (because that’s a big part of the job satisfaction) and as individuals to value (because that’s what being in a people business is about). The providers who see clients as ATM’s don’t last long in this business because it’s all about repeat clients.

Once had a client ask me “is it in?”….. I’m 8 inches and reasonably thick. I replied “couldn’t miss”. He was annoying anyway…always asking for a discount and last minute bookings.

This. This sums up my view to the work. Sex is a mind business. I find most bottoms are good to take it quickly, they want the load of course. Never met one who (once he was over the anxiety of taking loads) didn’t want to be bred. I find it difficult to cum in there sometimes if the bottom lacks skill so I’ll need to do some hand work to get close and then dive in so to speak. Most of the time there’s been a nice slow build up through massage and lots of erotic play which gets everyone close!

If I try to post an explicit pic to my profile the system rejects it. Those kind of pics have to go in my private gallery. I think the system must use some kind of AI to review pics because one or two slip through occasionally. It’s fair enough that the explicit pics are only available to subscribers because that proves they’re of legal age to see that kind of content. The site can’t put those pics on open display where children could possibly come across them. It would undermine the legitimacy of the site.

Key to this is that if the guy says he will definitely do something in the session and it’s part of his quoted rate then he should honour that in the session. No good to say you’ll kiss and then decline to do so or only do it for extra cost. That’s poor form. I do think that kissing shouldn’t be an extra cost thing but that’s just my personal preference. I agree with @keroscenefirethat kissing is kind of an essential. But of course for some it’s too intimate and might even be considered too ‘gay’ if someone is exploring their sexuality. If I’m asked will I cum in the clients mouth I’ll say it’s possible but not definite because I can’t be sure to do that (much as I’d like to cum on demand it’s not always possible especially if I’ve seen a few clients). However kissing is something that is possible and I’m always good to do that subject to the client’s oral hygiene. There’s two sides to this issue: if you want to be kissed make sure you brushed and used mouthwash. Similarly if you want to be rimmed make sure you’ve showered. If you want to cum in my mouth make sure you’ve been eating pineapple (well….maybe not that far but please don’t have eaten asparagus thank you)😂

I get a lot of enquiries via twitter DM. It’s quite good for advertising. I’ve two profiles on there which combined have about 40k followers so it has good reach. The trouble is there’s also a lot of misinformation and crazy people on there!

It’s not necessarily the booking length that is relevant. It’s the rate. You could book an hour but if he’s travelling all day to fulfil that hour then his rate will reflect that. Therefore if you’re paying a high price you might aswell book him for a decent length of time. Either way it’s going to cost you his full day rate for an out call. Maybe a better idea is for you to travel to him, make a day out of it, maybe stay overnight in your destination and take in some sightseeing alongside your session with the escort? If you visit him you can also get his in call rate, or have him come to your hotel if you stay overnight.

Yep, far too ugly for movies

What? Not mine??? 😳. (I’ve done a film with Blissbodywork - great guy 👍).

Possibly he knew and trusted the other provider. Also, sometimes if topping a client who might not be great a douching (perhaps it’s a new client or someone experimenting) there’s some er…mess. He might prefer to have a condom on just in case of that, especially if he’s large. Speaking from experience 😂.

It looks grim. Avoid!

Busy with other things! What could it have been? Tea and biscuits? Next time oral 🙂

Yes I agree with this. The occasions I’ve been asked to use a condom to give oral it’s been with guys who are straight and in relationships. They’re so scared of catching anything which is understandable. It’s not great to suck a condom cock but I love their enjoyment of it because often their gf or wife isn’t very good at it or won’t do it. The other thing these guys like is prostate massage and I have small finger condoms for that if they’re concerned about any bare penetration. They don’t get that at home either!

I’m surprised that guys forget to take it yet still do bb. If I wasn’t sure I’d taken it then I definitely wouldn’t do any bb. I just get into a routine of taking it daily, it’s easy. I get 6m supply free on the NHS and a prep check up every 3m. It’s no trouble. A client I saw recently who topped me bb told me afterwards that he wasn’t on prep. I told him I was, and had tested all clear (at a routine test) a few days earlier. He seemed happy to hear this but I said to him the prep is to protect me. He should get on prep if he’s doing more bb sex to protect himself. He didn’t seem to realise this which I found very worrying.

Weren’t listening..!

Yep, and the Crown Jewels, various islands here and there, the Commonwealth. English as the worlds language, time measured from Greenwich…

What??? You mean us Brits 🇬🇧no longer rule the world? No one told us.

This seems to be developing into a ‘mine’s bigger than yours’ discussion 🙂.

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I really struggle to piss with a hard on, and even more so in a social context…if you can call it that. If I’m standing at a urinal and someone stands next to me then I can’t start until he’s gone. As soon as I’m alone…out it comes. I’ve been asked to piss inside by clients a few times and I have to say sorry that's not going to happen unless they can expertly pretend not to be there which kind of defeats the object. It’s strange because I’ve zero inhibitions when it comes to having sex in a social situation. The more people present and the more incongruous the setting the better.