Jamie21

It’s beginning to look like one of my passwords 😳

Dirk Diggler

Yes I agree with this. It’s great when I get a responsive client. They don’t need to speak, just respond with positive reactions to what I’m doing. It’s especially noticeable when I start with some head massage and I can see their body relax and hear that long out breath as all the tension leaves them. As a masseur you get used to seeing the signs, they don’t need to be overt (indeed it sometimes feels performative if the client is writhing around and exclaiming pleasure at every touch), subtle almost subconscious indications are all I need to know that what I’m doing is working. And then of course when he turns over the bodily signals are rather more obvious 😉.

Very amusing

Amusement. Nothing wrong with that. Sometimes though opinions are expressed as facts, with no understanding or acceptance that opinions are personal.

Don’t ask any OF model if they escort via their OF profile. They’ll not respond to your question whether or not they escort. OF bans anyone who discusses that kind of thing. You’ll need to contact them via another of their socials if you want to discuss any kind of in person meet.

I could not have expressed that better. Thank you. I choose my clients, that’s clear to me by the way I advertise, how I price my services and how I respond to enquiries. I have agency over all of those things. I also have agency about whether or not to do the work and that permits me the power to disregard body type and age.

Just as beauty is in the eye of the beholder so the judge of value is the person paying. I don’t make any comment on someone’s definition of beauty nor do I pass opinion on someone’s choice when it comes to deciding what they value. It’s their decision. Sharing opinions on these things is otiose: it may be of amusement but isn’t helpful to anyone.

Age and body type don’t matter (obviously they need to be over 21) to good escorts / masseurs. Those who decline clients who don’t fit their ideal are not proper sex workers. They’re just monetising their sex life. It’s a very different thing and as a client you’ll notice the difference.

My massage work sometimes merges into escort work (there’s hardly a definitive line between the two). I think it’s in those instances where clients are more inclined to tip me.

I do that with some massage clients. A couple book me and then I massage (etc…) each of them sequentially. Sometimes they watch each other, sometimes they go off and do something else while their partner is being done. For the watchers / watched it’s a voyeuristic thing. For the others I think they talk to each other afterwards about what happened. It’s quite common for male / female couples for the male to want to watch his female partner with me. That’s a cuckold experience.

Only about 10% of clients tip me but I’m in the UK and the tipping culture here isn’t like the US. This topic has been covered ad infinitum previously….it appears there’s no answer. Do whatever you’re comfortable with. Also don’t assume that because someone charges say $300 for an hour that he’s making $2400 a day, $12k a week, $600k a year on an 8 hour a day, 5 days a week, 50 weeks a year gig. All tax free. Some years I only make $500k…

Ha ha yes that’s a worry. Tbh I prefer to be the sucker than the sucked at a gloryhole!

It’s a fantasy of clients who watch a lot of porn.

I’m pretty sure that on a few occasions when my cock has been in a glory hole at a sauna / sex club there’s been a robot giving me head the other side of the partition. One with teeth too 🥺

I’ve been with lots of OnlyFans guys through collaborating with them for my OnlyFans profile. Some are great and some are not so great and with the meh guys it was difficult to make a film (although I’d hope that’s not evident from the final edit!). I’d say if you’re hiring a guy that does porn you’re no more likely to have a great session than hiring a guy who doesn’t do porn. The difference is that with the guy who does porn you have a lot more visual examples of him at work to base your choice on. Many of my clients say they saw one of my films and decided to book. I do warn them that what they see happen in the film isn’t necessarily replicated in a session because the films are edited etc.

Probably. The number of clients I’ve seen in my years doing this is in 4 figures. I could count on one hand the number I’d point blank refuse to see again. Maybe that’s due to my screening. Of course I get a lot of window shoppers, guys who will ‘definitely book’ but then don’t, a few who don’t turn up (surprisingly rare, but again that’s probably due to my screening), and picture seekers (fantasists). It comes with the job. You learn to deal with it and sometimes it’s even amusing. Often it’s just because guys are anxious, scared, thinking it over etc and that is all good. I’m happy to help those guys get over their anxiety about hiring if they’ll share it with me.

I realised you might think that. That’s why I used ‘one’ instead of ‘you’. Yes, and wouldn’t you rather find that out before hiring him? You’re not going to change the fact that some guys do escort work to effectively monetise their sex life. Those aren’t escorts they’re just guys monetising their sex life. It’s not always easy to identify the guys who are proper (those who see anyone) from the dilettantes but one sure way of doing so is to receive a picture request. You could even reply with ‘ah sorry I didn’t realise you weren’t a proper escort’. I think it’s futile to rail against human nature. Best to use it to your advantage. It’s inevitable there will be guys using Rentmen etc as a paid Grindr gig. They’ll be awful at escorting but they’ll look attractive. There’s zero correlation though between physical attraction and great sexual intimacy but the picture requesters don’t know that! It’s brilliant isn’t it that they deny themselves the opportunity of finding it by restricting themselves to pictures they like. The proper escorts know the secret, you’re best off those guys. Don’t take it as rejection, take it as a lucky escape.

The relevant part is ‘at least to a degree’. The service provider chooses the extent to which they subordinate themselves. If that means they require a picture, that’s their call. It’s your choice whether to provide one. It seems to me that the annoyance is that there’s someone one wants to hire but can’t because one is unprepared to send a picture. Too bad! It’s his choice to require a picture. It’s his terms and you can choose to accept them or not. He may well find that he gets fewer clients by requiring a picture but that’s his problem not yours. I don’t require pictures but I have other requirements that are likely impediments to clients: I don’t do last minute bookings, I don’t travel (far), I don’t do late evenings, I charge higher than average rates, I don’t allow drugs. In my experience putting a few sensible boundaries and requirements in helps keep away the time wasters, the undesirables and the fantasists. Anyway, if someone has physical assets why shouldn’t they monetise them?

No, too complicated. I prefer clients come back because they love the product rather than because they’re getting some kind of discount. Keep making the service better, and it’s possible to do that with regular clients because you learn about what they like and what’s important to them.

It’s not just about sex. Primarily it’s about human connection, talking, sharing intimacy, cuddling, touch, just being with someone. People hire for those reasons and sex might happen as result of being together but it isn’t the objective of the session. These are all great reasons to hire.

😂, although some guys I’ve met would LOVE that response. They’ve got a micro cock and get off on it being humiliated! I remember a guy whose cock was tiny, even when hard. I rubbed it between my index finger and thumb, sucking it was like I had the last little bit of a straw in my mouth (he shot a big load though). He got off by me putting mine next to his and showing him the contrast. At first I wasn’t comfortable with humiliating him about it but he was insistent he wanted that so I tried to ride him (obviously unsuccessfully) 😂. He absolutely loved it. Told me afterwards the micro cock was a medical condition.

I prefer clients NOT sending me their picture. I like the surprise. If they want to send it then fine, they can do so but I definitely don’t need it nor do I want pics of cock / ass etc. I think sometimes they’re fishing for compliments, or I’ve had a few who think that once I see their picture I’ll immediately offer them a free service (that never happens). In my experience those who send pics, especially of a close up cock / ass never actually book. They just get off on the thought of a session. I mean what can you respond to a cock or bum pic with other than ‘thanks’? You’re hiring me, you get to see my pics and if you like it you hire. What you look like doesn’t affect how I treat you. That’s why I’m doing this work.

He’s probably providing pro bono services to one of the partners, which will protect him should his billable hours be lacking.

Correct, there’s no general ‘pay up front’ practice here. It’s dependent on the guys preference. Yesterday my client handed me an envelope when he arrived, that’s unusual, mostly payment is afterwards once he’s dressed and ready to go. Last week someone was so distracted after the session that they were on their way out saying goodbye to me and I had to say, whilst giving him a cheeky grin ‘you might have forgotten something…’ and then he said ‘oh! I need to pay you’. It was quite amusing. I like it when they are so transported to bliss that they forget the payment bit. It brings things back to the earth a little before they leave.