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I tried to find any kind of social media or OnlyFans for Clayton Foster but came up with nothing. He really just seems to do porn for Carnal and that's it.

I agree he is really good looking and definitely would meet up with him if he escorted. 

2 minutes ago, BuffaloKyle said:

I'd want him to be a bottom guy though! 🤣

He's the top top guy who also is a top bottom.

4 hours ago, dupontversDC said:

His ad is back up!

Hopeful! But his ad was active when I contacted him in January without getting a response. But he even has travel dates up so I'm hopeful. Matt really is a top guy.

These pieces of advice are all good, but I also do think that a little water is not the end of the world. I always put a towel down when I bottom regardless. And yes sometimes some liquid comes out when I'm fucked, but it really is just a bit of water and any top that isn't an asshole understands that and won't be grossed out. 

I think we can sometimes get a bit neurotic about being super-duper clean down there. The reality is that the asshole is a part of the body that really shouldn't be super-duper clean and we have to accept that. 

2 hours ago, StLouisOct said:

Heard back from Matt. He's taking a break but has not retired. 👍

This is great news. Thanks for finding that out. Hopefully Matt can take a nice break he needs and will go back to being one of the best escorts around.

If they use their automatic messages in a thoughtful way, I think it's great. Providing rates, availability, and preferred contact method are all great!

Unfortunately, I'm leaning towards not escorting/taking a break. I tried contacting him both text, email and through the web site and no answers through any means. This was in January when I was wiling to travel to Las Vegas mostly just to meet with him. But yeah unfortunately could not reach him at all. And we have met twice before (both great experiences IMO) so I don't think this is even a "only seeing former clients" thing.

But someone else should try and see if they had better luck. It was in January so who knows. But with the ad expiring, I'm not feeling great about him still escorting right now. 

I definitely get that as a pet peeve. I really do prefer to set up things a few days in advance. But it's surprisingly common that providers cancel last minute on me and then I'm sort of left trying to find someone to meet. This often happens when I visit a city. I'll be there just for a few days and have like the Saturday evening available for meeting a provider. Then the provider cancels and I'm left trying to see if I can find a new guy. And it is often the case that the locals are booked and only available after I am gone.

This is often why I've started to communicate with a few guys before a trip and then if the first once cancels, I already kind of have another I've talked to as a backup. But I know that is also a PP for some escorts too....

I've typically had pretty successful threesomes. The main thing I'd suggest is the power of the reset. If things are kind of not going the way you would like (or one person likes), feel free to just take a break. Sometimes I like to have porn playing and just have a little moment where we're all just jacking off and kind getting hyped again.

4 hours ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

This whole thing reminds me of one of my favorite Little Britain characters.

 

Haha! I love Matt Lucas' smiling, dutiful wife. 

2 minutes ago, RadioRob said:

In that case, it can’t be in the item record. It would need to be in the review. 

The item record cannot apply on a per user experience.  

I feel like with the safe-sex question, this can be the only way. I think it just varies too much from encounter to encounter for it to be in the item record. Let's keep it simple though. Condoms used? Yes/No. That's pretty straightforward. 

1 minute ago, RadioRob said:

The way Daddy asked it was how did they advertise their orientation.  My plan was to do something similar in the tool tip. If a majority find this not useful, it can be removed. 

Do we really care about the language spoken itself versus how well do they communicate in English?  Maybe we make that a question in the review form as something you rate 1-5. 

I've definitely had difficulty communicating with non-English speaking escorts. Fortunately I do know Spanish and kinda French/Portuguese so knowing they speak those languages can be useful. Maybe we do a few ones that we feel are common in escorts (Spanish, French, Portuguese and Russian come to mind) and if it's a very unusual language, it can be put in the text. 

I'm wondering if part of the problem is that we are basically relying on RM instead of our own experiences for a lot of these things. "Ask Me" is an option for orientation on RM (https://app.rent.men/MildToWildCMT is an example). I've found that a lot of the "bisexual" guys tell me they are gay once I get to know them. 

With safe sex, they can advertise they use condoms but if they don't with you, then what should you put? Maybe the drop-down should be based on your experience? We're condoms used? Yes or No. Did the escort say they were on Prep? Yes or No. 

2 hours ago, RadioRob said:

As a question...  if/when I can do premium fields, what does the group want to see for options regarding safe sex status?   I was thinking about something like:

Safe Only, Anything Goes, Unknown

(On Rent.men they have "Ask Me".  Considering the escort does not own the record, it's not really appropriate to say "Ask Me".  I was going to leave it simply as Unknown.)

I've actually hired escorts that used condoms the first couple encounters and then stopped using them subsequently. Could like "Sometimes safe" be an option? 

I don't know if its necessary to have "orientation." This is such a personal thing and an escort may tell one client he's straight and another he's gay. To me, sexual orientation is personal and subjective and honestly doesn't even come up that much for me. I assume most of the time, the escort I hire is gay, but I actually rarely ask that and do not know that necessarily. 

One thing I would add is spoken languages. We not only have quite a few who speak languages other than English here in the US but this would be useful for those who travel internationally. If we're going to France, does the escort speak both French and English or only French (or at least mostly). 

Thanks for the work on this as well!

14 hours ago, MmM said:

How do you phrase an offer on Grindr so it's not offensive to the nonprovidr?

I think first you have to build a relationship with them. The reality is most messages on Grindr are ignored or regarded as bullshit so there probably is no point in directly asking someone on Grindr.

The only time I was successful in doing this (and actually the only time I tried), I actually hooked up with the guy first. And we got to talking and getting to know each other. And basically I learned that he was a broke college student and was interested in some similar things as myself. So I offered to take him on a trip to the mountains and offered to pay him for that and pay for the trip itself. He agreed and we occasionally did things here and there. After a while he finished school and was no longer interested in doing things with me, which I understood and respected. We still occasionally chat and I'd be open to meeting with him again if he initiated it, but I try not to push anything with him. 

So wishing I could have been there in person this year. Definitely keep the updates coming!

10 hours ago, amused1 said:

Thanks for the info. 😊 have you been with blackeurop and zaneknox? If so, may I dm you for additional info?

Yes, I've been with all these guys.

There's been a bit of turnover in Denver recently but these are all good choices for what you're looking for:

https://app.rent.men/BlackEuropean

https://app.rent.men/ZaneKnox

https://app.rent.men/BennRey

https://app.rent.men/Rivco

The last two are a little on the shorter side but still cool and BFE.

Denver only has mountains so it lacks the water/mountains combination that elevates the beauty of Seattle and Vancouver. That said, I think Denver has a slightly better climate. We have quite a lot of sunny days even in winter. I've been to the Pacific NW in the winter and the constant drizzle is pretty depressing in my opinion. But that does mean both Vancouver and Seattle are more "lush" and green. Denver can get pretty brown and dry by late summer.

All three have lots of homeless so there's no difference there in my opinion. 

49 minutes ago, former lurker said:

Not that it changes much of the thinking on the subject, but PNP likely includes more chem sex drugs than meth.  It could include G or K (I forget what "G" stands for,

G is usually GHB, a easy-to-make and easy to consume drug that increased libido and produces euphoria. It's usually what people think of as the "Date-rape drug" and can actually be pretty dangerous when combined with alcohol. 

Denver is definitely $250-$300. You can still find a few that do $200. I also find that guys will price shave pretty easily. I was quoted $350 recently and just told them that was higher than I willing to go and they immediately went down to $300. I think sometimes they just try to get the higher rate if they can but once they realize they're talking to a client that knows the market, they go down. 

I went to Paris last spring and met with https://app.rent.men/Lucas_Frenchy. We're both vers and he is a really nice guy with a great ass and a beautiful body.

No experience with any of the guys you posted but Nolan, Alex and Bruno caught my eye when I was there too. 

15 hours ago, DWnyc said:

I have been asked pretty much every time with a new provider if I was interested in that. Not all would have listed it. 

To reiterate, it’s a little redundant to express horror or announce how it’s a criteria to rule out a provider (who may be a user himself even if he doesn’t list it). 

Those keeping quiet are smartly not broadcasting their own use but also not being counted for empirical purposes  

And my experience is almost the opposite. I've very seldomly been asked except for the couple who were actually really into meth and in both cases , they were clearly already high and saw me as a way to get more drugs. Both were bad experiences, which is exactly why PNP is a red flag for me.

I do know at least one escort who listed PNP who doesn't do it regularly and just offers it for clients who are into that thing. He definitely didn't strike me as a hard drug user so I believe him. In fact, he told me he is pressured into doing it and doesn't always want to but often those sessions are the ones that are longer and pay more. I was one of the few that did an overnight with him where drugs weren't involved (except 420). 

I really like Steamboat Springs, Colorado. Technically not a big gay scene but there are some great restaurants and nightlife options. But the best thing is Strawberry Hot Springs which really does get pretty fun at night with lots of nude dudes and definitely some cruising. It's not exclusively gay but there is enough space where you can find a nice little nook. And you can stay there as well so it wouldn't be hard to bring a guy over. 

I think it's ideal for bringing an escort date. Ski during the day, stay in a cool mountain cabin and relax in the amazing hot springs.